i am havig thoughts about the culture clash when I was out with my date, she was latina, people would make rude comments, but i don't know if they were racist if there are certain ways i should act to be more 'culturally aware' around the latins, I mean I donnt know exactly what Im supposed to do, I know spanish and i have darker skin,,so sometimes i can pass as a spainard, It seems they treat me a lot better when I role play in this way, I wear differnt clothes, change my sense of humor, no sarcasm, more cuteness, and 'macho' humor, latinos don't get sarcasm mor self loathing humor for some reason, and i will kiss all the women i greet take a phony interset in soccer
has anyone been in a cross cultural relationship,,how much should you be expected to change your personality to please other people
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
who cares what others think, be yourself!
also whoever you date can't except that, than move on
latinos have a stereotype of being macho etc, but it doesn't mean they're all like that either...
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
No, I don't think they do.
well Latino men do seem more romantic and flirts.
Just my opinion but people think the same for me too but because I have been around alot of them I began to pick up an accent so then I look and sound like one. So if you hang out with a lot of them you will get that anyway. But be yourself why change?
Would you act that way around her family too?
To poster number 4 and counting me starting from the top.....he is a gentleman which is awesome and I was never raised that way either but whats wrong with cleaning and cooking?....ok I am old fashion maybe but I would be fine with that. (yes a flaw)
I love Chicano boys!!! HOT! but...... I have realized their culture treats women like S*!# Out of all the guys I know,.... the Mexican, hispanic, latino, spanish men all treat their women HORRIBLE. They cheat, and they usually end up being abusive. My best friend is Chicano and he says it's poison in their blood. :) It sucks for me because these are the hottest guys!
I don't think so. I'm married to one, he was very gentlemanly before I married him though! To a certain extent, yes, I've conformed to his way of doing things a LOT! I was expected to learn Spanish, cook Mexican food, and shoulder most, if not all of the housework. Don't get me wrong, he's a good person. He was just raised believing that it's supposed to be this way. I wasn't.
I don't think any culture treats any one better as a whole. Each person is an individual.
Wednesday, 26 October 2011
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
Be forwarned that you should not even attempt to answer these if you have not seen the full series because these questions do contain spoilers.
1. Why did Lucy kill the director's son if he wanted to mate with her and create a new world of diclonius? I thought that was what she wanted all along?
2. Was there some kind of statement in the anime which told you what happens when a diclonius has it's horn taken off?
3. Did the new prosthetics added to that ruthless soldier (the one who wears shades and hates the diclonius) make him superhuman or was he already like that since when he acquired the new prosthetics, he seemed to be jumping around like spiderman a lot more?
4. I don't get it, was Nana really Kurama's daghter or was he just acting as a father figure toward her to keep her state of mind stable? So was his daughter really the most powerful diclonius(Can't remember the name)
5. Did Kurama commit suicide with his daughter in the end of the anime because he had took the lives of other people's children which were diclonius in the past but he never had the heart to kill his own so he felt selfish? And did he kill himself as well as his daughter because he felt too selfish to stay alive?
6. What was your most disturbing/difficult to watch scene? Mine was when the boys were bashing the puppy to death, I found that really hard to watch but I did. In fact any scene where Mayu's(I think that's her name, I mean that runaway girl) puppy was in danger or any scene where those boys were abusing Lucy was really difficult to watch, but I did.
7. What does Lucy and Khotda kissing those blank dummies in the intro symbolise?
8. Did you cry at any scenes in this? If so, what were they and how sad would you rate them on a scale of 1 - 10? 1 being the least saddest and 10 being the most saddest.
9. I know it's just an anime but don't you think it's strange how the diclonius in this anime have been isolated all their life with no education and can actually verbally construct a sentence when talking to someone?
10. What happened to that man that I mentioned in question 3 at the end of the anime?
11. Why did Lucy have that helmet on at the start of the anime? It's a wonder, especially since the other diclonius didn't have any on?
12. How were the director of the diclonius facility and his son watered down diclonius'? Did they only have slight traces of diclonius DNA inide them when they were born?
13. What happened to Mayu's(runaway girl) original father?
14. What happened to Lucy in the scene when the soldiers started to shoot at her offscreen and her other horn came off in the final episode?
15. This is possibly my biggest query; I just didn't get the ending. What happened to Lucy in the scene where the soldiers shot at her and her horn was shot off in the final episode? Why did the clock start working when the silhouette appeared at the entrance of the house and was that silhouette Lucy? How did she survive when the soldiers shot her horn off? Can't the diclonius not use their vectors when they're in pain and getting her horn shot off would hurt like hell since I think she was knocked unconscious when she got her first one taken off!?
16. Why did she go to the soldiers near the end of the final episode when she could have easily escaped with Khotda ?
17. Did this anime deeply touch your heart, change your personality and give you a whole new perspective on life? What would you give it out of 10 and give it a small review please?
Than you very much for answering these questions!
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
It's been a while since I watched it and some of your questions are a little tricky, so my answers might be more opinion than fact. ^^;
1. I think she might have wanted to do all that alone and not be like the trophy bride of the person who managed it. That, or she was pissed that he kidnapped and drugged her...
2. Not that I recall, no...
3. Pretty sure that was with the help of his prothetics.
4. Nana was Kurama's adopted daughter since his real daughter was kept locked up because she was so insanely powerful. And yes, the creepy one with a billion vectors was his real daughter.
5. I think he killed himself with his daughter out of guilt and shame for what she had become as well as out of guilt for not killing her sooner, which led to her living a horrible life and killing several people.
6. A lot of that anime was hard to watch, but I can't remember the worst part because whatever it was has been overshadowed by Higurashi no Naku Koro Ni.
7. Good question...
8. The saddest part for me was when Lucy killed Kouta's family.
9. It's called %26quot;suspension of disbelief%26quot;. Just go with it. XP
(Though I bet they are also super smart or something, so they might just pick up on things faster than the average person)
10. Uh... I have no clue... :/ Bet he died or something.
11. I think it was so she couldn't see so she'd have more trouble attacking. Or just be calmer. It's been proven that animals and people don't struggle as much when their eyes are covered.
12. It's because the gene isn't as strong in men, so they just turn into carriers (not talking about the people who are touched by a vector. The carriers were born diclonius, but by being male, nothing really happened).
13. He molested her, she ran off. There's nothing more said. If you're an optimist, he was arrested. If you're a pessimist, he raped more little girls.
14. I didn't understand that part, honestly... But I heard that only her horn came off and no other injury came to her.
15. I didn't understand the ending... :/
16. Probably to be 100% sure he escaped and/or show she was a good person. And maybe it was her plan to have them shoot off her horn. Idk...
17. I'd have to say a 7 or an 8 overall. It was good, but there were some slow parts (I almost stopped watching...) and the ending was very confusing (though I tend to like those kinds of endings a little more than the kind that spell everything out).
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
I can only answer some of the questions so here it goes!
#2. Most Diclonius die after having their horns taken off.
#4.Nana wasn't his daughter i guess he felt and kind of sentiment towards her.
#6. The puppy scene almost made me cry i thought it was horrible.
#7. The whole intro was a tribute to the painting %26quot;The Kiss%26quot; by Gustav Klimt.
I personally think this is an anime where you have to watch it more than once to understand some of it. I loved this series and it seems that you did too! :)
1. she doesn't need his help to do this or so she claimed.
2. no it is just implied by the results that they lose their power. or could it be one of lucy's tricks.
3. he was near the peak of human ability when he 1st appeared his prosthetics havenot done much his arm is stronger and he has better vision and thats about it.
4. no he acts as her farther to keep her stable and have better control over her and as pennance for killing his real daughter.
5. kurama dies in the final episode of the anime as he cradles Mariko in his arms aftr setting off he bomb in her.
6. no problems for me.
7. no idea
8. nope
9. you learn to speak through passive learning and in the compound they must be taught some stuff because they can act like normal people.
10. he dies protecting mayu from lucy
11. i hink it was used to demonise lucy so people watching it know thats shes evil from the start
12. they are the product of cross breeding between humans and diclonius over time the diclonius blood became very thined by the human blood
13. no idea either left or died
14. cant remember
15. no idea
16. mayby by staying with khotda she gains some humanity or something
17. 10/10
1. Why did Lucy kill the director's son if he wanted to mate with her and create a new world of diclonius? I thought that was what she wanted all along?
2. Was there some kind of statement in the anime which told you what happens when a diclonius has it's horn taken off?
3. Did the new prosthetics added to that ruthless soldier (the one who wears shades and hates the diclonius) make him superhuman or was he already like that since when he acquired the new prosthetics, he seemed to be jumping around like spiderman a lot more?
4. I don't get it, was Nana really Kurama's daghter or was he just acting as a father figure toward her to keep her state of mind stable? So was his daughter really the most powerful diclonius(Can't remember the name)
5. Did Kurama commit suicide with his daughter in the end of the anime because he had took the lives of other people's children which were diclonius in the past but he never had the heart to kill his own so he felt selfish? And did he kill himself as well as his daughter because he felt too selfish to stay alive?
6. What was your most disturbing/difficult to watch scene? Mine was when the boys were bashing the puppy to death, I found that really hard to watch but I did. In fact any scene where Mayu's(I think that's her name, I mean that runaway girl) puppy was in danger or any scene where those boys were abusing Lucy was really difficult to watch, but I did.
7. What does Lucy and Khotda kissing those blank dummies in the intro symbolise?
8. Did you cry at any scenes in this? If so, what were they and how sad would you rate them on a scale of 1 - 10? 1 being the least saddest and 10 being the most saddest.
9. I know it's just an anime but don't you think it's strange how the diclonius in this anime have been isolated all their life with no education and can actually verbally construct a sentence when talking to someone?
10. What happened to that man that I mentioned in question 3 at the end of the anime?
11. Why did Lucy have that helmet on at the start of the anime? It's a wonder, especially since the other diclonius didn't have any on?
12. How were the director of the diclonius facility and his son watered down diclonius'? Did they only have slight traces of diclonius DNA inide them when they were born?
13. What happened to Mayu's(runaway girl) original father?
14. What happened to Lucy in the scene when the soldiers started to shoot at her offscreen and her other horn came off in the final episode?
15. This is possibly my biggest query; I just didn't get the ending. What happened to Lucy in the scene where the soldiers shot at her and her horn was shot off in the final episode? Why did the clock start working when the silhouette appeared at the entrance of the house and was that silhouette Lucy? How did she survive when the soldiers shot her horn off? Can't the diclonius not use their vectors when they're in pain and getting her horn shot off would hurt like hell since I think she was knocked unconscious when she got her first one taken off!?
16. Why did she go to the soldiers near the end of the final episode when she could have easily escaped with Khotda ?
17. Did this anime deeply touch your heart, change your personality and give you a whole new perspective on life? What would you give it out of 10 and give it a small review please?
Than you very much for answering these questions!
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
It's been a while since I watched it and some of your questions are a little tricky, so my answers might be more opinion than fact. ^^;
1. I think she might have wanted to do all that alone and not be like the trophy bride of the person who managed it. That, or she was pissed that he kidnapped and drugged her...
2. Not that I recall, no...
3. Pretty sure that was with the help of his prothetics.
4. Nana was Kurama's adopted daughter since his real daughter was kept locked up because she was so insanely powerful. And yes, the creepy one with a billion vectors was his real daughter.
5. I think he killed himself with his daughter out of guilt and shame for what she had become as well as out of guilt for not killing her sooner, which led to her living a horrible life and killing several people.
6. A lot of that anime was hard to watch, but I can't remember the worst part because whatever it was has been overshadowed by Higurashi no Naku Koro Ni.
7. Good question...
8. The saddest part for me was when Lucy killed Kouta's family.
9. It's called %26quot;suspension of disbelief%26quot;. Just go with it. XP
(Though I bet they are also super smart or something, so they might just pick up on things faster than the average person)
10. Uh... I have no clue... :/ Bet he died or something.
11. I think it was so she couldn't see so she'd have more trouble attacking. Or just be calmer. It's been proven that animals and people don't struggle as much when their eyes are covered.
12. It's because the gene isn't as strong in men, so they just turn into carriers (not talking about the people who are touched by a vector. The carriers were born diclonius, but by being male, nothing really happened).
13. He molested her, she ran off. There's nothing more said. If you're an optimist, he was arrested. If you're a pessimist, he raped more little girls.
14. I didn't understand that part, honestly... But I heard that only her horn came off and no other injury came to her.
15. I didn't understand the ending... :/
16. Probably to be 100% sure he escaped and/or show she was a good person. And maybe it was her plan to have them shoot off her horn. Idk...
17. I'd have to say a 7 or an 8 overall. It was good, but there were some slow parts (I almost stopped watching...) and the ending was very confusing (though I tend to like those kinds of endings a little more than the kind that spell everything out).
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
I can only answer some of the questions so here it goes!
#2. Most Diclonius die after having their horns taken off.
#4.Nana wasn't his daughter i guess he felt and kind of sentiment towards her.
#6. The puppy scene almost made me cry i thought it was horrible.
#7. The whole intro was a tribute to the painting %26quot;The Kiss%26quot; by Gustav Klimt.
I personally think this is an anime where you have to watch it more than once to understand some of it. I loved this series and it seems that you did too! :)
1. she doesn't need his help to do this or so she claimed.
2. no it is just implied by the results that they lose their power. or could it be one of lucy's tricks.
3. he was near the peak of human ability when he 1st appeared his prosthetics havenot done much his arm is stronger and he has better vision and thats about it.
4. no he acts as her farther to keep her stable and have better control over her and as pennance for killing his real daughter.
5. kurama dies in the final episode of the anime as he cradles Mariko in his arms aftr setting off he bomb in her.
6. no problems for me.
7. no idea
8. nope
9. you learn to speak through passive learning and in the compound they must be taught some stuff because they can act like normal people.
10. he dies protecting mayu from lucy
11. i hink it was used to demonise lucy so people watching it know thats shes evil from the start
12. they are the product of cross breeding between humans and diclonius over time the diclonius blood became very thined by the human blood
13. no idea either left or died
14. cant remember
15. no idea
16. mayby by staying with khotda she gains some humanity or something
17. 10/10
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
My big brother has always been my hero and role model in life. I've always been able to go to him for anything and he always knows the right thing to say. But lately, all he ever talks about is how much he smokes weed and how I better not go my whole life without smoking because he thinks it's just one of those life experiences. We'll I'm completely against drugs because I don't think anything should enter your body that's going to change your personality. He has completely changed since he started smoking weed. I really want my old big brother back. Is there anyway I can convince him to stop smoking? I miss the old him. :'(
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
naa you cant change him,,,you just have to be smart enough and grateful that he always gave you good advice,,,,because of your older bothers previous influence on you,,you are strong and smart enough to know that drugs are the wrong way to go,,,nobody is perfect, perhaps now he needs you to be a friend,,but don't play the big brother just be a friend... in other words don't tell him what not to do ,,,just be there 4 him
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
keep standing firm on your beliefs. You may not convince him, but don't let him swat you. I hear your sorrow, but it is his (bad) choice...sorry.
tell him all the side affects how much you love him get him a gf and how he might die and everyone is worried about him
First,
dont ever give up and
you might even convince him you should always tell him what should happen when hes not home through all his weed away
talk to him about how you fell about this and give him all the sideeffects on smoking and how he could die in a couple years now how your whole family fells about him.
i guess you are going to have to stand up for yourself now. i am sorry for your loss. gee, you could always make up a story and then say, oh i used to be able to go to you but now you are not any help at all. depends on how high he is at the time of the telling though. he really does not care about you now. sorry.
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
naa you cant change him,,,you just have to be smart enough and grateful that he always gave you good advice,,,,because of your older bothers previous influence on you,,you are strong and smart enough to know that drugs are the wrong way to go,,,nobody is perfect, perhaps now he needs you to be a friend,,but don't play the big brother just be a friend... in other words don't tell him what not to do ,,,just be there 4 him
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
keep standing firm on your beliefs. You may not convince him, but don't let him swat you. I hear your sorrow, but it is his (bad) choice...sorry.
tell him all the side affects how much you love him get him a gf and how he might die and everyone is worried about him
First,
dont ever give up and
you might even convince him you should always tell him what should happen when hes not home through all his weed away
talk to him about how you fell about this and give him all the sideeffects on smoking and how he could die in a couple years now how your whole family fells about him.
i guess you are going to have to stand up for yourself now. i am sorry for your loss. gee, you could always make up a story and then say, oh i used to be able to go to you but now you are not any help at all. depends on how high he is at the time of the telling though. he really does not care about you now. sorry.
How much would you...?
want to weigh?
how tall would you want to be?
and would you change your personality?
How much would you...?
155 lbs, 6'2 no I have a great personality.
What I am now 180 lbs, 5'5 Personality is the same.
How much would you...?
What I would
133
5'11%26quot;
Yes I would
What I am
133
5'7%26quot;
Gangster/Jock
that is to much to write everyone wants to be different then what they are i mean come on if that was not true then we would not have plastic surgeons all over the place
145
5'9''(for basketball)
sure
i love my weight------103
i love my height-----5'1
and i love my personality because thats is apart of who i am.
weigh: 115 or 120 (i weigh 130)
height: 5'5 (i'm 5'6 1/2)
personality: be more funny!!!
You already know the answer
185 to 195 would like to be 6/1 I'm 5/11 would never change my personality i think that's the most important thing about a person
i would be the same and so would you vicki people like you for who you are and you dont need to change anything
nice and caring person...
i want to way....120 or 150...
i way 192 and im fat! so i will lose it....
i think im around 5.2 i not sure...really
but i want to be about 6.2 or so.
how tall would you want to be?
and would you change your personality?
How much would you...?
155 lbs, 6'2 no I have a great personality.
What I am now 180 lbs, 5'5 Personality is the same.
How much would you...?
What I would
133
5'11%26quot;
Yes I would
What I am
133
5'7%26quot;
Gangster/Jock
that is to much to write everyone wants to be different then what they are i mean come on if that was not true then we would not have plastic surgeons all over the place
145
5'9''(for basketball)
sure
i love my weight------103
i love my height-----5'1
and i love my personality because thats is apart of who i am.
weigh: 115 or 120 (i weigh 130)
height: 5'5 (i'm 5'6 1/2)
personality: be more funny!!!
You already know the answer
185 to 195 would like to be 6/1 I'm 5/11 would never change my personality i think that's the most important thing about a person
i would be the same and so would you vicki people like you for who you are and you dont need to change anything
nice and caring person...
i want to way....120 or 150...
i way 192 and im fat! so i will lose it....
i think im around 5.2 i not sure...really
but i want to be about 6.2 or so.
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
Ok i don't know what is wrong with me or is it just my imagination. My friends always get a boyfriend and then dump him and get a new one and dump him too and so on. When they are dating they always ask me who should they choose and should they break up with their boyfriend? But I'm the only one of them that hasn't had a boyfriend in a very long time. I'm just an average middle school girl, not fat and not too skinny, not ugly and not beautifull, not too popular but i have lots of friend. I can feel that lots of guys like me I like some of them too but they would never ask me out. Is all that a good thing or a bad thing am i always gonna be a friend that gives advice on how to build a relationship but never have one myself? I need some advice what should i do? And don't say like turn into a ho or change your hair color or change your personality because i want people like me for who I am
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe u just havent found a guy u really like, wait some time eventually youll find a guy u really like aned if he doesnt ask u out the you be the bold one and ask him out, u might just be a tad shy.
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe ask the guy out you never know what he would say ;)
just get urself out there, start dating, ask those guys who like you on a date
make urself known and speak ur mind
dont be shy
stand out
Well first thing you should do is that change your attitude or behavior, don't always act like well-wisher, try and look for your love. As you said that there are some guys to whom you have a crush.
Its not important that the other person loves you or not, what matters is that you love him. Try to express your love with him,share your thoughts it will help you a lot to find your prince.
If there is anyone very close to you and you love him badly then you should go ahead and propose him.
Change your lifestyle.Best of luck !vb myspace quotes
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe u just havent found a guy u really like, wait some time eventually youll find a guy u really like aned if he doesnt ask u out the you be the bold one and ask him out, u might just be a tad shy.
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe ask the guy out you never know what he would say ;)
just get urself out there, start dating, ask those guys who like you on a date
make urself known and speak ur mind
dont be shy
stand out
Well first thing you should do is that change your attitude or behavior, don't always act like well-wisher, try and look for your love. As you said that there are some guys to whom you have a crush.
Its not important that the other person loves you or not, what matters is that you love him. Try to express your love with him,share your thoughts it will help you a lot to find your prince.
If there is anyone very close to you and you love him badly then you should go ahead and propose him.
Change your lifestyle.Best of luck !
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
Maturity. I need to change. Man I cannot stress this enough. I WANT TO CHANGE!! NOT FOR THEM, FOR MYSELF!!! Ok. Thats outta my system. Well. I want to act more mature. I am a funny guy (I guess, people say I am) but sometimes I just act too crazy. I talk WAY to much. I yell things in class, people look at me funny. You get the point. My question is How do I shut the hell up, and calm the f*ck down? Lol. Excuse my computer lingo. Also how do you change your personality in such a way? I want to start thinking before I speak. But how do I go about that? It's like instinct for me to just blurt it out. I hope you were able to understand this. Thanks in advance.
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
Sometimes the toughest thing to learn to do is to sit back and listen. It's all about self discipline. I used to be like you and I realized that it was selfish of me (also somewhat arrogant) to always be in the forefront.
Perhaps in some way I liked the attention and liked the feeling of validation for my opinions. But this feeling of self importance was an illusion as others often had just as much to say if not more but never spoke up which made me see myself in a different light.
There are many out there who lack the confidence or will to just speak their mind and I made and effort to bring other people out of their shell. I realized that classes are there for other people to learn as well and I try to let other people have their turn to speak whether they were right or wrong.
Its best to begin with baby steps. Just make a vow to spend one entire class period without speaking at all and I'm sure you'll end up learning a lot about yourself and more importantly about others. Everyone needs a time to shine and this cannot happen when I was hogging the spotlight.
You'll find that being quiet is like holding back a dam but over time you'll find that the most memorable opinions are the ones that one has spent their time to thoroughly think through.
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
In order to mature, you need to learn self control. You will eventually have to learn how to control your actions anyway.
Why not start now, and make it easier for the future?
Oh boy do I know your situation lol. I'm always like that in class and end up getting kicked out. You just have to learn to control your mouth. It's hard, but sometimes it really works, and just blurting stuff out can get you into serious trouble sometimes.
Yeah, I know your type. The kind of person who likes to talk a lot, and cracks jokes often, ya know? I don't know for sure how you can change, maybe you're just hyper or something, I dunno. LOL
Homework. Community service. Listening to others with sincere compassion. Staying in school.
well i dont really think that you can completely change who you are but just simply tone it down
do exactly what you said and THINK...dont just say the first thing that comes in to your mind. give it thought
just act like ur lips r nailed shut i dont know but im to old 4 i like guys who r funny and talk to da-mn much
Maturity, as you've alluded to, is the ability to see beyond. Acting immature is fun for the moment, but not good beyond that moment, not good for your future, for relationships, etc.
You know how to stop it? Just STOP. That's called making a choice. As an adult, you can make choices, that you couldn't as a child. So you can do it. STOP your immature behavior.
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The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
Sometimes the toughest thing to learn to do is to sit back and listen. It's all about self discipline. I used to be like you and I realized that it was selfish of me (also somewhat arrogant) to always be in the forefront.
Perhaps in some way I liked the attention and liked the feeling of validation for my opinions. But this feeling of self importance was an illusion as others often had just as much to say if not more but never spoke up which made me see myself in a different light.
There are many out there who lack the confidence or will to just speak their mind and I made and effort to bring other people out of their shell. I realized that classes are there for other people to learn as well and I try to let other people have their turn to speak whether they were right or wrong.
Its best to begin with baby steps. Just make a vow to spend one entire class period without speaking at all and I'm sure you'll end up learning a lot about yourself and more importantly about others. Everyone needs a time to shine and this cannot happen when I was hogging the spotlight.
You'll find that being quiet is like holding back a dam but over time you'll find that the most memorable opinions are the ones that one has spent their time to thoroughly think through.
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
In order to mature, you need to learn self control. You will eventually have to learn how to control your actions anyway.
Why not start now, and make it easier for the future?
Oh boy do I know your situation lol. I'm always like that in class and end up getting kicked out. You just have to learn to control your mouth. It's hard, but sometimes it really works, and just blurting stuff out can get you into serious trouble sometimes.
Yeah, I know your type. The kind of person who likes to talk a lot, and cracks jokes often, ya know? I don't know for sure how you can change, maybe you're just hyper or something, I dunno. LOL
Homework. Community service. Listening to others with sincere compassion. Staying in school.
well i dont really think that you can completely change who you are but just simply tone it down
do exactly what you said and THINK...dont just say the first thing that comes in to your mind. give it thought
just act like ur lips r nailed shut i dont know but im to old 4 i like guys who r funny and talk to da-mn much
Maturity, as you've alluded to, is the ability to see beyond. Acting immature is fun for the moment, but not good beyond that moment, not good for your future, for relationships, etc.
You know how to stop it? Just STOP. That's called making a choice. As an adult, you can make choices, that you couldn't as a child. So you can do it. STOP your immature behavior.
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My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
I'm 25 btw. My sister is starting high school in a new city soon. She was made fun of a lot in her old school and now has big dreams of being popular at the new school.
She is a pretty girl but certain aspects of her personality I think were more to blame than her looks. She has self depriciating humor (i.e. calls herself stupid trying to make others laugh, instead they just start calling her stupid!) likes to gossip about other people, sterotypes people a lot, has some gross personal habits (chewing on her hair and clothing, weird I know) but she just won't listen when I tell her this is a BIG part of her problem. She is really focused on her looks and clothing and is ignoring much bigger issues.
I am really scared she will come home crying (again!) when she realizes nice hair, clothing and makeup don't change your personality. I am really afraid she will repeat the same patterns then come cry to me when %26quot;Nobody%26quot; likes her. I have been going around in circles with her on thisfor years. She also seems to have the idea that being popular is some great, elusive thing that will somehow make her happy. I have done my best to explain that it doesn't matter when you grow up but she won't listen. She keeps begging me to help her with the hair and clothing and 'image' but when I start bringing up her personality she either cries, argues or ignores me!
I keep suggesting that my mom put her in therapy. It's almost like she has some mental problem or something but I can't find one that fits. My mom keeps insisting she is a good kid and nothing is wrong with her. I agree she is a good kid but I can't agree that nothing is wrong! What could be wrong and how do I help her?
I will give an extra 10 pts if you can answer this other long question regarding the same issue. It's long but way more detailed. This really means a lot to me, I will give 20 points if someone can give me a helpful answer on both!
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
if you have AIM or MSN or HOTMAIL put it on the added details and i will IM or EMAIL you.
she needs to try to meet some people on the first day but not everyone. She needs to remain mysterious.
On the first day she needs to wear something comfortable but cute since she will be walking around alot
.She needs to try to dress cute for the first week and then she can dress normally.
She needs to try to be confident in herself because it will make her seem more approachable.
I used to be very popular (which is what i THOUGHT i wanted)
but then i realized that being popular wasn't important it was more important to be nice to people and make friends and have fun.
I have more friends now then when i was popular.
When you are popular you don't have ANY friends. every is only pretending to be you friend so they can be popular too.
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
tell her to talk a lot.
be confident.
try her hardest to be humorous [:
it really depends on the personality and type of person.
You can't really help your sister get popular.
It's up to your sister to improve her attitude/personality.
I don't know if therapy is needed, but you DO need to talk to your sister.
I know this sounds stupid but try getting someone %26quot;popular%26quot; to her and explain to her that it doesn't matter with makeup/clothing, but about your personality.
tell her to be herself. there is no point of being popular because its point less and your not happy. you have to fake who you are and it only lasts till the end of school and nothing more.
tell her to be herself. she will end up with friends who like her for her and thats what really counts to happiness
Sit her down , and tell her politely, kindly but firmly what she is dong wrong. Tell her to try not do the things you mentioned. Be kind and supportive.
Tell her to act confident, but not over confident, be interested in others,don't put her self down with humour, and try to remember not to show her .habits. in public. Ask her if she would like you to arrange counselling.
Tell her(politely) how her not listening is making you feel. Tell her she is pretty and nice girl who people will like if she tries abit harder. Maybe arrange for her to get anti depressants as well as counselling, or a herbal anti depressant. Also, try to get her to exercise, eat healthily and take a multi vitamin. They will help give her a better sense of well being. Tell her you love her! Good luck !
She cant force people to like her
I was very lukcy when i started my school, i managed to fit in with the popular crowd, all the girls and boys etc...but i didnt look down on the less popular kids, there called bullies, not all popular people are mean
I suggest she justs fits in where she feels comfatable, if she gets on with unpopular people she should hang out with them
I think talking to her will make her upset, who cares about all that 'be yourself' stuff, people like u people dont
Tell her to hang out with people who like her, or help her make mates that like her for who she is
She is a pretty girl but certain aspects of her personality I think were more to blame than her looks. She has self depriciating humor (i.e. calls herself stupid trying to make others laugh, instead they just start calling her stupid!) likes to gossip about other people, sterotypes people a lot, has some gross personal habits (chewing on her hair and clothing, weird I know) but she just won't listen when I tell her this is a BIG part of her problem. She is really focused on her looks and clothing and is ignoring much bigger issues.
I am really scared she will come home crying (again!) when she realizes nice hair, clothing and makeup don't change your personality. I am really afraid she will repeat the same patterns then come cry to me when %26quot;Nobody%26quot; likes her. I have been going around in circles with her on thisfor years. She also seems to have the idea that being popular is some great, elusive thing that will somehow make her happy. I have done my best to explain that it doesn't matter when you grow up but she won't listen. She keeps begging me to help her with the hair and clothing and 'image' but when I start bringing up her personality she either cries, argues or ignores me!
I keep suggesting that my mom put her in therapy. It's almost like she has some mental problem or something but I can't find one that fits. My mom keeps insisting she is a good kid and nothing is wrong with her. I agree she is a good kid but I can't agree that nothing is wrong! What could be wrong and how do I help her?
I will give an extra 10 pts if you can answer this other long question regarding the same issue. It's long but way more detailed. This really means a lot to me, I will give 20 points if someone can give me a helpful answer on both!
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
if you have AIM or MSN or HOTMAIL put it on the added details and i will IM or EMAIL you.
she needs to try to meet some people on the first day but not everyone. She needs to remain mysterious.
On the first day she needs to wear something comfortable but cute since she will be walking around alot
.She needs to try to dress cute for the first week and then she can dress normally.
She needs to try to be confident in herself because it will make her seem more approachable.
I used to be very popular (which is what i THOUGHT i wanted)
but then i realized that being popular wasn't important it was more important to be nice to people and make friends and have fun.
I have more friends now then when i was popular.
When you are popular you don't have ANY friends. every is only pretending to be you friend so they can be popular too.
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
tell her to talk a lot.
be confident.
try her hardest to be humorous [:
it really depends on the personality and type of person.
You can't really help your sister get popular.
It's up to your sister to improve her attitude/personality.
I don't know if therapy is needed, but you DO need to talk to your sister.
I know this sounds stupid but try getting someone %26quot;popular%26quot; to her and explain to her that it doesn't matter with makeup/clothing, but about your personality.
tell her to be herself. there is no point of being popular because its point less and your not happy. you have to fake who you are and it only lasts till the end of school and nothing more.
tell her to be herself. she will end up with friends who like her for her and thats what really counts to happiness
Sit her down , and tell her politely, kindly but firmly what she is dong wrong. Tell her to try not do the things you mentioned. Be kind and supportive.
Tell her to act confident, but not over confident, be interested in others,don't put her self down with humour, and try to remember not to show her .habits. in public. Ask her if she would like you to arrange counselling.
Tell her(politely) how her not listening is making you feel. Tell her she is pretty and nice girl who people will like if she tries abit harder. Maybe arrange for her to get anti depressants as well as counselling, or a herbal anti depressant. Also, try to get her to exercise, eat healthily and take a multi vitamin. They will help give her a better sense of well being. Tell her you love her! Good luck !
She cant force people to like her
I was very lukcy when i started my school, i managed to fit in with the popular crowd, all the girls and boys etc...but i didnt look down on the less popular kids, there called bullies, not all popular people are mean
I suggest she justs fits in where she feels comfatable, if she gets on with unpopular people she should hang out with them
I think talking to her will make her upset, who cares about all that 'be yourself' stuff, people like u people dont
Tell her to hang out with people who like her, or help her make mates that like her for who she is
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