Okay, i'm freakin boring. I'm the first to admit it. Other people have told me so. I literally do not talk. I %26quot;hang out%26quot; with people and can literally say only 30 words to them in hours that we're together. I don't know how to talk to people. People always say, listen to what people are saying, ask them about themselves and just talk to them about that, but that doesn't even help me. Someone can yap yap yap my ear off and i STILL have nothing to say. I don't even talk to my family really. I'm just generally never comfortable, but even when i am i still have nothing to talk about. How can i be more of a conversationalist? People want to get to know me because i'm an okay looking girl, and i'm very nice, but that only gets me so far before they realize i'm boring as heck. Is it possible to change?!?! I'm not looking to be the life of the party, i just don't want to be the one that sits in the corner alone anymore.
Is it possible to become more talkative? To change your personality?
Sounds like you're the sort of person who might have gotten yelled at as a little kid for talking. As a girl, you are SUPPOSED to be very verbal. But something must have put a stop to it - put a cork in the bottle. That's too bad.
Don't you have interests? You can talk about them.
Actually - conversation isn't all that easy - it's an art form really - a sort of dance - where you listen and respond - you build a structure with the person you're talking to - each person adds a little to the structure. And you do this because it feels good to do it - and it allows you to see yourself through another person's eyes - that's probably most important. A conversation with a friend is a reality check - it keeps you from turning too far inwards. It's important you learn to do this - but I bet somebody scared you off from this - they let you know that your opinion wasn't wanted - that you didn't matter - that what YOU had to say was no damned good.
So you have that to punch through.
Is it possible to become more talkative? To change your personality?
Yet ironically you wrote this huge paragraph on your problem. (I'm kidding of coarse) It seems you have a lot to say, but are not comfortable expressing yourself out loud. Just a make an effort to join in on conversations, a little at a time until you get more comfortable. Eventually you'll do it seamlessly.
As for topics, keep up with current event, watch popular tv shows (if you are willing to change that) , and if all else fails, learn random intresting facts.
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Of course you're boring. Most people are. The trick you have to learn is keeping up small talk, and being quick enough on your feet to keep a conversation going. Trust me most small talk conversations are boring BS, but part of being an adult is learning how to talk to anyone.
I feel the EXACT same way you do. I was just called boring yesterday as a matter of fact. I have to avoid chances to make new friends because i never have anything to talk about. I actually have a lot to say, but, its like nothing comes out when im with people i want to become friends with!
It has to be the most aggravating thing about me.
Im sorry i dont have the answer to your question...or mine either apparently, but i wish you the best of luck.
