and if you try to cause HIM any irritation or problems you will have to go to prison for 20 years.
so, in other words, it is your best interest to be his friend.|||I would dive off a cliff into the ocean and drown us both.|||It%26#039;s impossible to say what ripping somebody%26#039;s throat out with my bare hands would do to me, let alone the 20 years as a prison hero|||I would become unbelievably sarcastic and then kill him and be a hero.|||i would kill him and the world would thank me for it|||My IQ would drop at an exponential rate.|||i%26#039;d hack my own foot off to escape.
Saturday 4 June 2011
Can Chemotherapy Change Your Personality?
My boyfriends mother is nearing the end of her chemotherapy - but lately she%26#039;s been very very manipulative. She hasn%26#039;t been married since my b/f was a little kid, and all she has is her son (my b/f). But lately she%26#039;s been laying on guilt extremely heavy onto my b/f about how he spends more time with me, etc. No matter what he says or does she throws it back at him as if everything is his fault.
She wasn%26#039;t really like this before, but I suspect she finds me a threat since her son is spending more time with me than with her (like it used to be pre-me). We%26#039;re both 24 and most likely will marry. My b/f has explained to her that when he marries someone he plans on %26quot;leaving and cleaving%26quot; to his wife, but she keeps saying that he%26#039;s going to leave her, blah, blah, blah. (Even though he will be leaving her - and he isn%26#039;t wrong about that.)
We%26#039;re very frustrated because she is so pessimistic about things and when we invite her places she mopes around about how she isn%26#039;t feeling well and decides not to go.
Anyway... last night she was very childish with the way she walking talking to her son (my b/f) and quite frankly he%26#039;s tired of how she manipulates him.
Is a personality change normal in people undergoing chemo?|||first lets look at this if you were to have poison put in your veins how would you be feeling this diagnosis is rocking her world so she is holding on to her son and you should be patience and grow up and support her during this time. It is a scary disease if you are really in love and you are smart you will realize that mother and son are bonded for life. Best thing you both can do is educate yourself and be there for her no matter what.|||Cancer changes you, how can it not?
If you were strong before, then you realize how vulnerable you are and like the rock that breaks after wave after wave hits it, cancer can be the wave that breaks the human soul.
Surviving cancer, going through treatments, it is possible that radiation will be the next step gradually wears out a person. Especially if his mom has come to depend upon him he could represent the only thing that she has to cling on to for support. Otherwise she could believe she would drown without him.
Yes, to answer the question the entire ordeal everything she already has gone through and what lies ahead for her changes the person%26#039;s outlook. Where you were brave before you could now be scared. If you thought you were dependent before you realize that you are not and that in itself is scary.
Be patient is the best advice, realize she is going through one of the toughest battles life offers. Many do not survive it, so be kind. You have time, if your love is true then give his mom a break, you do not know the demons that she fights at night. Alone.|||No. Chemotherapy does not change your personality, but being ill with a life threatening disease will alter your whole outlook on life itself.
I have no advice for you except to remain patient and . . quiet about your boyfriends mother around your boyfriend. Blood will always win out . . keep that in mind.|||Mary, everyone that%26#039;s answered is correct to an extent. When I see the word, personality, I think mental changes. Chemo doesn%26#039;t change your personality per se...you%26#039;re sitting around the house, not able to work, alone while the others in your household go about their life, dwelling on your mortality and what ifs. It can take a toll on you, let me tell ya! I was put on antidpressants because it%26#039;s very common for those with cancer to get depressed, geez! I was only on it for a few weeks and was weaned off, but it may really help his mom to feel a little more like her old self sooner.
She%26#039;s upset, feels like hell, is left alone while y%26#039;all go out for a good time and she probably just doesn%26#039;t feel like getting all fixed up to go out with you guys. Her son should leave you home once in a while and take his mom out to someplace simple and pleasant, like movies, dinner, the mall, the park, who knows all the places she would like to go? I doubt very seriously she finds you a threat. All mothers want their sons to find a good woman to share their life with...the problem may arise when the son lets the girlfriend, wife, etc, influence his actions towards his mother. Mom will know, I promise, if it%26#039;s his own thoughts coming through or his girlfriend talking through him. If he%26#039;s that easily swayed by the %26quot;other woman,%26quot; you%26#039;ve got a long row to hoe, girl.
Panda is right on; you should probably stay quiet and supportive of the relationship with his mom.|||cancer changes people, chemo %26#039;therapy%26#039; , ravages the body and the brain.......period.|||Cancer in my family is very rampant and strong. Almost every member had one form or another and all had chemo. let me tell you, having cancer can change you. Going through chemo can make a person very fragile. A peron can become very depressed, fatigued, not wanting to be around people, weepy, and snap at people for no apparent reason. This to me is a personality change but not because the person wanted it. Chemo is a toxin, It affects every areas of your body and this would include the brain. So if your mom is acting different, it%26#039;s because the chemo is affecting her. Once chemo is done, she should begin to be herself again. Once all those toxin leave her body.. Be patient with your mom. Don%26#039;t stop caring or supporting her. She needs you to understand more than anything. Her pessimism will change to optimism. How do I know??? I%26#039;ve been there God bless.|||Personality change is quite common %26amp; perfectly %26quot;normal%26quot; in people who have been diagnosed with cancer, silly goose! It probably has less to do with the chemo than with the fact she just got a BRUTAL reminder that she is (one day) going to die!
She will (hopefully) change again soon, when the chemo is done, she ISN%26#039;T dead, and realizes that she really could have been....paradoxically, surviving cancer often makes folks happier and waaaay more relaxed %26amp; accepting of the world, since they realize that COULD have been it, so everything else is gravy...let%26#039;s hope it goes that way with your fella%26#039;s Mom...
She wasn%26#039;t really like this before, but I suspect she finds me a threat since her son is spending more time with me than with her (like it used to be pre-me). We%26#039;re both 24 and most likely will marry. My b/f has explained to her that when he marries someone he plans on %26quot;leaving and cleaving%26quot; to his wife, but she keeps saying that he%26#039;s going to leave her, blah, blah, blah. (Even though he will be leaving her - and he isn%26#039;t wrong about that.)
We%26#039;re very frustrated because she is so pessimistic about things and when we invite her places she mopes around about how she isn%26#039;t feeling well and decides not to go.
Anyway... last night she was very childish with the way she walking talking to her son (my b/f) and quite frankly he%26#039;s tired of how she manipulates him.
Is a personality change normal in people undergoing chemo?|||first lets look at this if you were to have poison put in your veins how would you be feeling this diagnosis is rocking her world so she is holding on to her son and you should be patience and grow up and support her during this time. It is a scary disease if you are really in love and you are smart you will realize that mother and son are bonded for life. Best thing you both can do is educate yourself and be there for her no matter what.|||Cancer changes you, how can it not?
If you were strong before, then you realize how vulnerable you are and like the rock that breaks after wave after wave hits it, cancer can be the wave that breaks the human soul.
Surviving cancer, going through treatments, it is possible that radiation will be the next step gradually wears out a person. Especially if his mom has come to depend upon him he could represent the only thing that she has to cling on to for support. Otherwise she could believe she would drown without him.
Yes, to answer the question the entire ordeal everything she already has gone through and what lies ahead for her changes the person%26#039;s outlook. Where you were brave before you could now be scared. If you thought you were dependent before you realize that you are not and that in itself is scary.
Be patient is the best advice, realize she is going through one of the toughest battles life offers. Many do not survive it, so be kind. You have time, if your love is true then give his mom a break, you do not know the demons that she fights at night. Alone.|||No. Chemotherapy does not change your personality, but being ill with a life threatening disease will alter your whole outlook on life itself.
I have no advice for you except to remain patient and . . quiet about your boyfriends mother around your boyfriend. Blood will always win out . . keep that in mind.|||Mary, everyone that%26#039;s answered is correct to an extent. When I see the word, personality, I think mental changes. Chemo doesn%26#039;t change your personality per se...you%26#039;re sitting around the house, not able to work, alone while the others in your household go about their life, dwelling on your mortality and what ifs. It can take a toll on you, let me tell ya! I was put on antidpressants because it%26#039;s very common for those with cancer to get depressed, geez! I was only on it for a few weeks and was weaned off, but it may really help his mom to feel a little more like her old self sooner.
She%26#039;s upset, feels like hell, is left alone while y%26#039;all go out for a good time and she probably just doesn%26#039;t feel like getting all fixed up to go out with you guys. Her son should leave you home once in a while and take his mom out to someplace simple and pleasant, like movies, dinner, the mall, the park, who knows all the places she would like to go? I doubt very seriously she finds you a threat. All mothers want their sons to find a good woman to share their life with...the problem may arise when the son lets the girlfriend, wife, etc, influence his actions towards his mother. Mom will know, I promise, if it%26#039;s his own thoughts coming through or his girlfriend talking through him. If he%26#039;s that easily swayed by the %26quot;other woman,%26quot; you%26#039;ve got a long row to hoe, girl.
Panda is right on; you should probably stay quiet and supportive of the relationship with his mom.|||cancer changes people, chemo %26#039;therapy%26#039; , ravages the body and the brain.......period.|||Cancer in my family is very rampant and strong. Almost every member had one form or another and all had chemo. let me tell you, having cancer can change you. Going through chemo can make a person very fragile. A peron can become very depressed, fatigued, not wanting to be around people, weepy, and snap at people for no apparent reason. This to me is a personality change but not because the person wanted it. Chemo is a toxin, It affects every areas of your body and this would include the brain. So if your mom is acting different, it%26#039;s because the chemo is affecting her. Once chemo is done, she should begin to be herself again. Once all those toxin leave her body.. Be patient with your mom. Don%26#039;t stop caring or supporting her. She needs you to understand more than anything. Her pessimism will change to optimism. How do I know??? I%26#039;ve been there God bless.|||Personality change is quite common %26amp; perfectly %26quot;normal%26quot; in people who have been diagnosed with cancer, silly goose! It probably has less to do with the chemo than with the fact she just got a BRUTAL reminder that she is (one day) going to die!
She will (hopefully) change again soon, when the chemo is done, she ISN%26#039;T dead, and realizes that she really could have been....paradoxically, surviving cancer often makes folks happier and waaaay more relaxed %26amp; accepting of the world, since they realize that COULD have been it, so everything else is gravy...let%26#039;s hope it goes that way with your fella%26#039;s Mom...
R & S-ers......do you think R & S has managed to change your personality?
Maybe gave you a better sense of humour? A shorter temper? A greater affection for people with minimum brain cells?
Has it in any way changed your behaviour or personality? If so, how?
Thanks for your answer.|||Oh no...I was this warped before I came to R%26amp;S. But it has given me an outlet for my innerhoebag.
(((Mastermind)))|||I definitely laugh more these days.
Dont think this is personality, but when I first read about the Jesus figure burning my initial reaction was, %26quot;...we%26#039;re going to read about this on R/S for months!%26quot;
There is something good about that and something not so good.|||no. i%26#039;ve always been witty and charming.|||Yes I f-u-c-k-i-n-g hate trolls now|||it made me more atheist..|||no...if a website has the ability to change my perspective and entire personality based upon what others type, then Yahoo should get the Nobel Prize.|||Yes --- I used to be so serious before I came on R/S. %26quot;Came on R/S?? Well, it is good, but not quite that good. -- smiles --- chagrin|||hell no|||It certainly turned me against religion more|||The only difference is that I used to enjoy discussing topics with people with opposing viewpoints. Now it%26#039;s the last thing I want to do.|||It gave me a second personality.|||Yea I%26#039;ve changed from being a regular atheist to militant atheist.|||Yeah, my wife says I%26#039;m more sarcastic and snarky.|||Well you may find this difficult to believe.,..but I do think it has turned me into a right little scrubber. I never used to offer virtual strangers oral sex until I became a TC here.|||not much, but I think it has made me even more skeptical of humanity than I was, when I look at some of the people here, the close minded fundamentalists, and the narrow minded atheists on the other side (not all of them, some of them are cool and have a good sense of humor) but some of them are just mean, simplistic, and not half as smart as they think they are, both sides really are rather pathetic, it makes me think that people don%26#039;t really like to think very deeply about anything, and that is rather sad.
Its not all bad though, I have learned a few things here, and encountered some cool people, but yea, makes me more skeptical of religions, and people in general.|||FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK鈥?yeah!
Oh! yeah my answer is the longest!
Has it in any way changed your behaviour or personality? If so, how?
Thanks for your answer.|||Oh no...I was this warped before I came to R%26amp;S. But it has given me an outlet for my innerhoebag.
(((Mastermind)))|||I definitely laugh more these days.
Dont think this is personality, but when I first read about the Jesus figure burning my initial reaction was, %26quot;...we%26#039;re going to read about this on R/S for months!%26quot;
There is something good about that and something not so good.|||no. i%26#039;ve always been witty and charming.|||Yes I f-u-c-k-i-n-g hate trolls now|||it made me more atheist..|||no...if a website has the ability to change my perspective and entire personality based upon what others type, then Yahoo should get the Nobel Prize.|||Yes --- I used to be so serious before I came on R/S. %26quot;Came on R/S?? Well, it is good, but not quite that good. -- smiles --- chagrin|||hell no|||It certainly turned me against religion more|||The only difference is that I used to enjoy discussing topics with people with opposing viewpoints. Now it%26#039;s the last thing I want to do.|||It gave me a second personality.|||Yea I%26#039;ve changed from being a regular atheist to militant atheist.|||Yeah, my wife says I%26#039;m more sarcastic and snarky.|||Well you may find this difficult to believe.,..but I do think it has turned me into a right little scrubber. I never used to offer virtual strangers oral sex until I became a TC here.|||not much, but I think it has made me even more skeptical of humanity than I was, when I look at some of the people here, the close minded fundamentalists, and the narrow minded atheists on the other side (not all of them, some of them are cool and have a good sense of humor) but some of them are just mean, simplistic, and not half as smart as they think they are, both sides really are rather pathetic, it makes me think that people don%26#039;t really like to think very deeply about anything, and that is rather sad.
Its not all bad though, I have learned a few things here, and encountered some cool people, but yea, makes me more skeptical of religions, and people in general.|||FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK鈥?yeah!
Oh! yeah my answer is the longest!
How would your personality change when being with these people you think?
http://www.thecopsmusic.com/images/TheCops_Promo1_small.jpg
which kinds of people do these look like and why how would you be with them?
how would your personality change by being with them you think?
or what if you were to work with these people?
could you get along and be even friends with them?
please explain why or why not?
btw, which area of world are you and do you see people like this there?|||My personality wouldn%26#039;t really change tbh.
Answer mine http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind鈥?/a>|||i would just be shy because i don%26#039;t know them :S|||I%26#039;d probably feel younger than I would with someone my own age.
which kinds of people do these look like and why how would you be with them?
how would your personality change by being with them you think?
or what if you were to work with these people?
could you get along and be even friends with them?
please explain why or why not?
btw, which area of world are you and do you see people like this there?|||My personality wouldn%26#039;t really change tbh.
Answer mine http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind鈥?/a>|||i would just be shy because i don%26#039;t know them :S|||I%26#039;d probably feel younger than I would with someone my own age.
How will joining the Air Force change my personality?
I want to hear it from the real Air Force people or someone close to them... how did joining the Air Force change your personality and disposition? I%26#039;m leaving in June (one month, two days) and my wife has been wondering how I%26#039;ll be different.
Thanks!|||The AF matured me. I became more responsible for myself and acutely aware of my surroundings more. I%26#039;ve always been mellow, and that has not changed. The AF isn%26#039;t as militant as the Army or Marines.
It was the best thing I%26#039;ve ever done.
Something your wife should be happy about... AF deployments are shorter and there is more time between the deployments.
She should be proud of you. Good Luck|||Well the air force made me responsible, dependable, and matured me allot. I was a very quiet kid before I joined and after I joined I got rid of the shyness and ended up with allot of friends. It didn%26#039;t effect my political ideals or my world view to much. If you have anymore questions about the Air Force make sure to watch my live radio show Ask-A-Vet. http://www.ustream.tv/channel/Ask-a-Veteran
Thanks!|||The AF matured me. I became more responsible for myself and acutely aware of my surroundings more. I%26#039;ve always been mellow, and that has not changed. The AF isn%26#039;t as militant as the Army or Marines.
It was the best thing I%26#039;ve ever done.
Something your wife should be happy about... AF deployments are shorter and there is more time between the deployments.
She should be proud of you. Good Luck|||Well the air force made me responsible, dependable, and matured me allot. I was a very quiet kid before I joined and after I joined I got rid of the shyness and ended up with allot of friends. It didn%26#039;t effect my political ideals or my world view to much. If you have anymore questions about the Air Force make sure to watch my live radio show Ask-A-Vet. http://www.ustream.tv/channel/Ask-a-Veteran
How can i change my personality?
i%26#039;ve been told that i havent got a welcoming or friendly personality and ive been completing personality tests online and the results are often that im unware of peoples feelings, cannot handle stress etc. These descriptions sound like me which kind of makes me uncomfortable about my personality.
im changing schools next year and sorta want a new friendler personality and was wondering how to change my personality.
are you just born with certain charactersistics?? or can you change your personality if you dont like it?? how would i change my personality???|||well personality is made up from the people your hanging out with, the challenges you face, the things you do.. and having a more friendlier attitude: you can start with smiling as oyu walk past people in the hallway at school that might make it easier to approach you and talk to you and feel more comfortabl trying to make friends with you. you can learn how to handle stress by searching google.. oh wait i already searched it for you.. bwahaha you welcome.. but anyways. herre is a few links i searched so i wouldnt have to write down a whole bunch of stuf.. its way early and im tired.
here you go:
how to handle stress: http://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+ha鈥?/a>
how to have a better attitude: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c鈥?/a>
how to be happy with yourself and others: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c鈥?/a>
how to make friends when changing schools: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c鈥?/a>
AND REMEMBER EVERYONE LIKES SOMEONE WHO IS SMILING.. unless they are narcassistic.. hey im even annoyed of people who are always happy sometimes. well im goin ta bed.. g%26#039;night|||First of all you have to be in the mood to change your personality . . in other words you have to want too.
Secondly you need to make sure that you are doing this for yourself and not for others . . . people are just people . . as long as you are happy with who you are then there is no need to change.
it%26#039;s best to get a piece of paper and pen and write out the things that you are not happy with based upon your observances.
then one by one try to find a solution to each on of them.
for me, i am too sarcastic. so when i am hanging with my friends, i have learned to monitor what i say before i say it to fit the situation and to put me in a good light. . . however, this takes practice, i am doing it for myself too..
if people can%26#039;t accept who you are even if you try then you are better off finding other people who %26quot;get you%26quot;|||These questionairs are a bit airy fairy.
So if it is merely that the completion of one has told you these things then it may not be quite so bad. You then say you see some of these traits in yourself so therefore the acknowledgement of failings is the first step in dealing with them. Try one thing at a time. Practise smiling and being welcoming and build on that, sometimes we can all be unaware of other peoples feelings but try and be sensitive to what may hurt another and eliminate. Often it is hard when the person says nothing but common decency should prevail a sin not making a fool out of anyone, being polite and treat as you would hope to be treated.|||you can always change your personality if you dont like it %26amp; personally
always stick to being yourself not others %26amp; you might to change your
unawareness for others feeling be more open minded to what they say
or do before judging them if also control ur stress it also might help out
to be more open minded %26amp; yourself|||First of all, just because your focusing on these particular characteristics at the moment doesn%26#039;t mean that you are a bad person or should want to change your personality at all.
I%26#039;ve been studying psychology for 4 years (now postgrad) and from what I have learnt you can%26#039;t change your personality, but you can learn tools to try and improve on areas like sociability and empathy. NEVER trust those silly online tests. They are absolutely NOT valid or reliable and are no indication of who you really are. I have been trained for years on how to develope accurate measures of psychological phenomena (ie personality) and these online tests are far from that.
It sounds like you do care about other people, so it won%26#039;t be too hard for you to be friendlier. If you are worried why don%26#039;t you go and see a counsellor? Either at school or a psychologist that your GP can recommend. They will teach you strategies to deal with the stress of changing schools and help you to come up with some ideas about making friends etc. The fact that you are bothering to ask questions like this just goes to show that you are a nice person and are on the right track. I%26#039;m sure you just need to practice little things like listening skills and maybe set yourself little tasks like asking someone if they want to study with you or eat lunch together.
Don%26#039;t let mean people or crappy online tests make you feel bad about yourself!
im changing schools next year and sorta want a new friendler personality and was wondering how to change my personality.
are you just born with certain charactersistics?? or can you change your personality if you dont like it?? how would i change my personality???|||well personality is made up from the people your hanging out with, the challenges you face, the things you do.. and having a more friendlier attitude: you can start with smiling as oyu walk past people in the hallway at school that might make it easier to approach you and talk to you and feel more comfortabl trying to make friends with you. you can learn how to handle stress by searching google.. oh wait i already searched it for you.. bwahaha you welcome.. but anyways. herre is a few links i searched so i wouldnt have to write down a whole bunch of stuf.. its way early and im tired.
here you go:
how to handle stress: http://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+ha鈥?/a>
how to have a better attitude: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c鈥?/a>
how to be happy with yourself and others: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c鈥?/a>
how to make friends when changing schools: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en%26amp;rls=c鈥?/a>
AND REMEMBER EVERYONE LIKES SOMEONE WHO IS SMILING.. unless they are narcassistic.. hey im even annoyed of people who are always happy sometimes. well im goin ta bed.. g%26#039;night|||First of all you have to be in the mood to change your personality . . in other words you have to want too.
Secondly you need to make sure that you are doing this for yourself and not for others . . . people are just people . . as long as you are happy with who you are then there is no need to change.
it%26#039;s best to get a piece of paper and pen and write out the things that you are not happy with based upon your observances.
then one by one try to find a solution to each on of them.
for me, i am too sarcastic. so when i am hanging with my friends, i have learned to monitor what i say before i say it to fit the situation and to put me in a good light. . . however, this takes practice, i am doing it for myself too..
if people can%26#039;t accept who you are even if you try then you are better off finding other people who %26quot;get you%26quot;|||These questionairs are a bit airy fairy.
So if it is merely that the completion of one has told you these things then it may not be quite so bad. You then say you see some of these traits in yourself so therefore the acknowledgement of failings is the first step in dealing with them. Try one thing at a time. Practise smiling and being welcoming and build on that, sometimes we can all be unaware of other peoples feelings but try and be sensitive to what may hurt another and eliminate. Often it is hard when the person says nothing but common decency should prevail a sin not making a fool out of anyone, being polite and treat as you would hope to be treated.|||you can always change your personality if you dont like it %26amp; personally
always stick to being yourself not others %26amp; you might to change your
unawareness for others feeling be more open minded to what they say
or do before judging them if also control ur stress it also might help out
to be more open minded %26amp; yourself|||First of all, just because your focusing on these particular characteristics at the moment doesn%26#039;t mean that you are a bad person or should want to change your personality at all.
I%26#039;ve been studying psychology for 4 years (now postgrad) and from what I have learnt you can%26#039;t change your personality, but you can learn tools to try and improve on areas like sociability and empathy. NEVER trust those silly online tests. They are absolutely NOT valid or reliable and are no indication of who you really are. I have been trained for years on how to develope accurate measures of psychological phenomena (ie personality) and these online tests are far from that.
It sounds like you do care about other people, so it won%26#039;t be too hard for you to be friendlier. If you are worried why don%26#039;t you go and see a counsellor? Either at school or a psychologist that your GP can recommend. They will teach you strategies to deal with the stress of changing schools and help you to come up with some ideas about making friends etc. The fact that you are bothering to ask questions like this just goes to show that you are a nice person and are on the right track. I%26#039;m sure you just need to practice little things like listening skills and maybe set yourself little tasks like asking someone if they want to study with you or eat lunch together.
Don%26#039;t let mean people or crappy online tests make you feel bad about yourself!
How do change your personality for the better?
I think that maybe i need to improve my personality for the better i sometimes find it hard to communicate with others and i would like to change that i don%26#039;t have many friends probably due to not really knowing how to communicate with people i meet|||think positive and keep an upbeat outlook and it will show
When you have a split personality disorder how do you change one personality to the other?
Okay so if you had split personality disorder how do you change your personalities?
Does it just happen??|||Premise - ALL personalities are composed of semi-independent %26quot;subselves%26quot; or %26quot;parts,%26quot; like the members of an orchestra or sports team. These probably correspond to regions of the brain that act like a network of minicomputers. To reorganize your subselves, see these:
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/personality.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/innerfam.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/faq.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/ifs.htm|||It is not generally under the conscious control of the sufferer.
The condition to which you refer, by the way, is called Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly called %26quot;multiple personality disorder%26quot;).
~Dr. B.~
Does it just happen??|||Premise - ALL personalities are composed of semi-independent %26quot;subselves%26quot; or %26quot;parts,%26quot; like the members of an orchestra or sports team. These probably correspond to regions of the brain that act like a network of minicomputers. To reorganize your subselves, see these:
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/personality.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/innerfam.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/faq.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/ifs.htm|||It is not generally under the conscious control of the sufferer.
The condition to which you refer, by the way, is called Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly called %26quot;multiple personality disorder%26quot;).
~Dr. B.~
Does a life changing event change your personality, if so how?
say losing a loved one specifically someone you thought loved you only to find out not only was it wrong to love that person but that person don%26#039;t love you. Sort of like realizing your whole life was a lie..? this happened to my best friend and she seems so much hyper now and boom her grades have improved?!?!? she used to be laid back and stuff with not so good grades...|||sometimes it does change your personality forever or maybe, just for that period of time when sulking or whatever.
i remembered when i was really depressed because i liked this guy A LOT and he didnt give 1 penny into me. i didnt do what i shouldve in school. i didnt eat well. i barely got sleep. i became a mute-child for a while. everyone knew something was wrong with me. but then i got over my depression and became stronger. mistakes make you stronger. and my mistake was loving the wrong person.
your friend will do the same. she%26#039;ll hurt really bad now but life is not over. don%26#039;t forget about that. ;)|||yeah, i believe it does, my dad recently passed away and i think i look at the whole way of life differently and how things are. And if i do something will it affect me. Anything can happen and now i feel like i live ever moment like there is not another day!|||Your friend probably went through a lot of sadness and anger after finding out what she did. An experience like that would definitely make someone wish to leave their old self behind and pursue a better future for themselves. That could explain why she has suddenly become more active and studious. It is good to be hurt sometimes. It could change you for the better. Support your friend and her new choice of lifestyle.|||Heres one of my examples...a few years ago my family used to have money. We would be buying and building houses, purchasing luxury cars, buying whatever and whenever..now I%26#039;m living in the basement of my own house, the bank has taken our cars away and it caused me stressed and up untill about a week ago all I could think about was that in order to be happy I needed to have my big house again and newer cars and my lil luxury dreams. I ignored what I had in front of me. A great boyfriend and my little boy. Now something terrible has happened to my boyfriend and the thought of losing him and my our family being broken apart hurts. ALOT. Before I thought these material things could make me happy, but all the luxuries in the world couldn%26#039;t compare to the happiness and contentment that I feel when I%26#039;m with my boyfriend and have our family. I could care less for material things now all I want is my family and I%26#039;m definately more grateful now for what I do have then what I don%26#039;t.|||depends on the details
i remembered when i was really depressed because i liked this guy A LOT and he didnt give 1 penny into me. i didnt do what i shouldve in school. i didnt eat well. i barely got sleep. i became a mute-child for a while. everyone knew something was wrong with me. but then i got over my depression and became stronger. mistakes make you stronger. and my mistake was loving the wrong person.
your friend will do the same. she%26#039;ll hurt really bad now but life is not over. don%26#039;t forget about that. ;)|||yeah, i believe it does, my dad recently passed away and i think i look at the whole way of life differently and how things are. And if i do something will it affect me. Anything can happen and now i feel like i live ever moment like there is not another day!|||Your friend probably went through a lot of sadness and anger after finding out what she did. An experience like that would definitely make someone wish to leave their old self behind and pursue a better future for themselves. That could explain why she has suddenly become more active and studious. It is good to be hurt sometimes. It could change you for the better. Support your friend and her new choice of lifestyle.|||Heres one of my examples...a few years ago my family used to have money. We would be buying and building houses, purchasing luxury cars, buying whatever and whenever..now I%26#039;m living in the basement of my own house, the bank has taken our cars away and it caused me stressed and up untill about a week ago all I could think about was that in order to be happy I needed to have my big house again and newer cars and my lil luxury dreams. I ignored what I had in front of me. A great boyfriend and my little boy. Now something terrible has happened to my boyfriend and the thought of losing him and my our family being broken apart hurts. ALOT. Before I thought these material things could make me happy, but all the luxuries in the world couldn%26#039;t compare to the happiness and contentment that I feel when I%26#039;m with my boyfriend and have our family. I could care less for material things now all I want is my family and I%26#039;m definately more grateful now for what I do have then what I don%26#039;t.|||depends on the details
How to change your personality? any tips and or advice?
well being me is not working out in helping me get a GF . I have friends and all that but i need more and want to be well know.
I want people to be drawn toward me like Jesus LOL . I want people to be like there goes the realest person on the planet.|||To put it bluntly: Your personality is most like who you hang around. Network and get with different people, for your own sake.|||Just be sweet and kind and accepting.|||you can not change your personality just because you want to. you are always going to be the way you are and someday a girl will come along and say %26quot;thats just what i am looking for%26quot;|||Just be ur self dont change who u ar just 4 a girl u will find someone who likes u for u and that person u will live with for ever and wont end up pregnant and the age of 15 or something
I want people to be drawn toward me like Jesus LOL . I want people to be like there goes the realest person on the planet.|||To put it bluntly: Your personality is most like who you hang around. Network and get with different people, for your own sake.|||Just be sweet and kind and accepting.|||you can not change your personality just because you want to. you are always going to be the way you are and someday a girl will come along and say %26quot;thats just what i am looking for%26quot;|||Just be ur self dont change who u ar just 4 a girl u will find someone who likes u for u and that person u will live with for ever and wont end up pregnant and the age of 15 or something
Can you change your personality?
Can you change who you are? I recently just been told that I pout and have temper tantrums, im selfish, manipulative and do not always listen to what my partner ask. In other words I am immature? Can you change these things and how I have been trying and some things have changed but not enough to help my relationship. I want to change for me and for my partner. I would do anything to be with her|||You can%26#039;t really change some basic things about yourself, but you can def. modify your behavior, but it is going to take time, effort, and learning on your part. I find that learning good communication skills can help in all the areas you are having issues in.
Pouting and temper tantrums are a part of not dealing with frustration and anger well. You can go to therapy to learn some coping mechanisms.
Listening and paying attention is a part of communication, and that will be helped by learning communication skills as well. I find that repeating back what my partner has told me in my own words (%26quot;checking in%26quot;) has really helped me understand what my partner is trying to tell me.
Some of that may be miscommunication, some of it may be some immaturity on both of your parts. A good relationship counselor can help you all learn to communicate better as well as learn to give a little so everyone is happy with the situation. Please consider couples therapy !|||yes you can change,if you want to do something so bad,just put your mind into it,it will happen ! anything is possible
not only for the sake of your lover,for your sake !|||You can%26#039;t %26#039;force%26#039; yourself to change. Change comes with maturing, growing up, and experience. As you grow you gain new perspective on things.
Maybe at five you would%26#039;ve thrown a tantrum at not getting to eat McDonald%26#039;s but now i%26#039;m pretty sure you dont, right? Because you%26#039;ve grown and know that there are bigger things.|||As far as changing who you are completely, seldom will/can it happen. A way to avoid doing what you%26#039;re doing (manipulating, being selfish, etc) is to just think about what you do before you do it. So yes you can change.|||yes my dad used to be very mean he would come home and smash every wall and every idem in the house he would also call me an my family names but he got counseling han he is not to bad now|||yes,
by
consoling
graphology
medition
postive thinking
by counsoling
u must go to doctor
by graphology
if u have more pressure on paper
Heavy pressure indicates commitment and taking things seriously, but if the pressure is excessively heavy, that writer gets very uptight at times and can react quickly to what they might see as criticism, even though none may have been intended. These writers react first and ask questions afterwards.
reduce the pressure
by medition
it the best way close your eyes and stop thinking of other it best to do in early morning
postive thinking
see good in others start day with smile
and think postive its best to have good relation you want to do something so bad,just put your mind
do yoga , be good i trust u will change ,
bye
iam a young boy under 18 it may help to change some
be good and do good have agood soul and mind help other
save animal it brings u kindness it help u
god save u|||Oh sure, just look at Dr.Jeckel and Mr.Hyde.|||The peel can change color, but the core remains the same.
Pouting and temper tantrums are a part of not dealing with frustration and anger well. You can go to therapy to learn some coping mechanisms.
Listening and paying attention is a part of communication, and that will be helped by learning communication skills as well. I find that repeating back what my partner has told me in my own words (%26quot;checking in%26quot;) has really helped me understand what my partner is trying to tell me.
Some of that may be miscommunication, some of it may be some immaturity on both of your parts. A good relationship counselor can help you all learn to communicate better as well as learn to give a little so everyone is happy with the situation. Please consider couples therapy !|||yes you can change,if you want to do something so bad,just put your mind into it,it will happen ! anything is possible
not only for the sake of your lover,for your sake !|||You can%26#039;t %26#039;force%26#039; yourself to change. Change comes with maturing, growing up, and experience. As you grow you gain new perspective on things.
Maybe at five you would%26#039;ve thrown a tantrum at not getting to eat McDonald%26#039;s but now i%26#039;m pretty sure you dont, right? Because you%26#039;ve grown and know that there are bigger things.|||As far as changing who you are completely, seldom will/can it happen. A way to avoid doing what you%26#039;re doing (manipulating, being selfish, etc) is to just think about what you do before you do it. So yes you can change.|||yes my dad used to be very mean he would come home and smash every wall and every idem in the house he would also call me an my family names but he got counseling han he is not to bad now|||yes,
by
consoling
graphology
medition
postive thinking
by counsoling
u must go to doctor
by graphology
if u have more pressure on paper
Heavy pressure indicates commitment and taking things seriously, but if the pressure is excessively heavy, that writer gets very uptight at times and can react quickly to what they might see as criticism, even though none may have been intended. These writers react first and ask questions afterwards.
reduce the pressure
by medition
it the best way close your eyes and stop thinking of other it best to do in early morning
postive thinking
see good in others start day with smile
and think postive its best to have good relation you want to do something so bad,just put your mind
do yoga , be good i trust u will change ,
bye
iam a young boy under 18 it may help to change some
be good and do good have agood soul and mind help other
save animal it brings u kindness it help u
god save u|||Oh sure, just look at Dr.Jeckel and Mr.Hyde.|||The peel can change color, but the core remains the same.
How to change personality, be more likable, fun and get rid of weird habits?
I%26#039;m socially stunted, gawky and akward. And frankly I%26#039;m sick of it.
I want to change myself into someone more fun, charming and a people person. Like those people you see all the time who are confortable with themselves that everyone wants to be around.
How do I do that, is there some sort of service that teaches your how to change your personality for a fee? Or a program?
Thanks|||It%26#039;s because you don%26#039;t like yourself. That%26#039;s why others may not like you. A lack of confidence is not very attractive. You consciously desire to change, which makes you a good person already. Just accept who you are, or work on one weakness at a time. |||Just do it.
If you can%26#039;t figure out how, mimic others that are until you%26#039;ve practiced enough, then strike out with your own style.
I want to change myself into someone more fun, charming and a people person. Like those people you see all the time who are confortable with themselves that everyone wants to be around.
How do I do that, is there some sort of service that teaches your how to change your personality for a fee? Or a program?
Thanks|||It%26#039;s because you don%26#039;t like yourself. That%26#039;s why others may not like you. A lack of confidence is not very attractive. You consciously desire to change, which makes you a good person already. Just accept who you are, or work on one weakness at a time. |||Just do it.
If you can%26#039;t figure out how, mimic others that are until you%26#039;ve practiced enough, then strike out with your own style.
Is it possible to change your personality?
alright let me explain...my whole life ive been talkative and a pretty outgoing person,during highschool i changed but not because i wanted to,i was in an accident and couple of teeth were lost,i couldnt afford putting all of em at the same time so i was quiet most of the time or wouldnt speak,and about 5 months or so my teeth were fixed and i feel great about them but im lost,i dont know how to act like myself again,i feel like im not myself,part of me wants to break out and be spontaneous and part of me feels dead.i dont interact the same with people anymore,i feel like im dissecting my personality and choosing how i want to act instead of being myself,but i dont even know myself,after all that time,i have an idea of how i want to act and i play out situations in my head but i cant seen to go through with them and if i do i dont feel comfortable doing it%26gt;%26gt;well its more of advice i need well if you could help out itll be well appreciated.|||i dont know....but it is easier to fake it than to change it|||Yes, there is split-personality disorder! hah, I%26#039;m kidding..doesn%26#039;t sound like you have that. Maybe you want to impress yourself in front of certain people?|||You can%26#039;t force yourself to change, you change over time or you act differently. Even though you%26#039;re quiet now you%26#039;re still your old self deep inside even though you don%26#039;t act that way anymore. Sometimes it%26#039;s hard to get old habits to die but over time you%26#039;ll probably get talkative again!|||Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn鈥檛 exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn鈥檛 likeable today, don鈥檛 worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone鈥檚 personality in one place is a determined effort on their part鈥攗sually through continually telling themselves they鈥檙e this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don鈥檛 like the way you are, make yourself different. You鈥檙e the only person who鈥檚 standing in your way.|||It is always possible to change your personality,only if you are willing to do so...|||My theory is people will treat you how you teach them to treat you. And personality is a snapshot of the sum of your daily interactions. Snapshot is the key term, because that means it can be changed.
As a child I was definitely extroverted and was a real socialitte. Then a became a loner in mid-primary school due to bullying.
From that point up until senior year in highschool I actually preferred to avoid all social interactions because of the stress and anxiety they often brought. My highschool personality as tested in year 13 was INTP.
My first year at university I was living in a hall of residence, I decided this was my opportunity to reinvent myself with a whole new group of people. I made a list of the traits of %26quot;popular%26quot; confident people that I wished to be like. I envied people who were so socially adept. Through constant conscious effort I forced myself to chat to people as if I was %26quot;popular%26quot; as if I was worth interacting with, as if I was %26quot;fun%26quot; and didn%26#039;t give a damn about what people thought of me. Initially it was quite hard, but eventually it became more and more natural and I stopped fearing social situations and started enjoying them again. End of first year at uni my personality type had changed to ENTP (google the abbreviations for info about this well known personality test).
Basically to get something I didn%26#039;t have I had to do something I hadn%26#039;t been doing. At first this meant I had to force myself out of my comfort zone and pretend like I was acting the part of a confident person in a play instead of my own life. But eventually I actually became that person!!!|||Yes. I used to be an ego maniac. A total jerk to people. I use to spontaneously hit others for looking at me wrong. Now, I%26#039;m a quiet calm relaxed individual that looks to avoid confrontations.
As a child I was definitely extroverted and was a real socialitte. Then a became a loner in mid-primary school due to bullying.
From that point up until senior year in highschool I actually preferred to avoid all social interactions because of the stress and anxiety they often brought. My highschool personality as tested in year 13 was INTP.
My first year at university I was living in a hall of residence, I decided this was my opportunity to reinvent myself with a whole new group of people. I made a list of the traits of %26quot;popular%26quot; confident people that I wished to be like. I envied people who were so socially adept. Through constant conscious effort I forced myself to chat to people as if I was %26quot;popular%26quot; as if I was worth interacting with, as if I was %26quot;fun%26quot; and didn%26#039;t give a damn about what people thought of me. Initially it was quite hard, but eventually it became more and more natural and I stopped fearing social situations and started enjoying them again. End of first year at uni my personality type had changed to ENTP (google the abbreviations for info about this well known personality test).
Basically to get something I didn%26#039;t have I had to do something I hadn%26#039;t been doing. At first this meant I had to force myself out of my comfort zone and pretend like I was acting the part of a confident person in a play instead of my own life. But eventually I actually became that person!!!|||Yes. I used to be an ego maniac. A total jerk to people. I use to spontaneously hit others for looking at me wrong. Now, I%26#039;m a quiet calm relaxed individual that looks to avoid confrontations.
How to becom what you really want to be? or how to change your current personality to what you want?
not in terms of career but in terms of personality. how to change your habits , and be more cool, and courageous.
i know its a long term process, its not easy but something you think might help! or if you know a good link, excersie or book that might be useful.|||I think it is wonderful that we have ways and means to change ourselves and mature into the kind of people we want to be. This process is quite often, unfortunately, left to nature by a lot of people.
The way to start this wonderful journey is to find a happy balance, between what it is that you want to become (Your destiny) and the realistic utilization of your physical resources (The ways and means of reaching this destiny.)
First of all you need to visualize the kind of person you wish to become. While you are doing this, you also need to look at your strenghts and weaknesses, to analyze the reality of your goal. Can you achieve this?
Then you have to prepare for this journey by accepting the fact that it may be a long and hard road ahead. And that you are going to have to make some sacrifices of time, some physical and mental exertions which you had not done in the past.
So start by writing down your final goal, and then work your way backwards by breaking up your journey in small parts. Again writing down these smaller steps by fixing a time frame for each step.
Remember that even a journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. So that you don%26#039;t give up along the way, you must make sure that each and every step of this journey is so interesting that it will make you want to continue forward. This is very important. You need to write down all the specifics of what you want to achieve at each and every step, no matter how silly and meaningless it may seem to you at the time. This is extremely important to help you achieve your own dream.
No matter what, you must never lose sight of your final goal. The type of person you wish to become some day. You need to etch this image into your memory for ever and one day you will become this person. Sooner than you think!|||personally, you%26#039;ll find better results if you are physically appealing....this allows the persons or person to feel more easily approachable ( so exercise is a help......but don%26#039;t be too stressed on the subject) the thing that has saved my life a few times is charm.....its really nothing special. When talking to other people....just be a relaxed version of yourself and refrain from doing anything physically unappealing to the other people that would set them off beat....in terms of changing a personality...you can%26#039;t......you can groom one...with time. some of the times its also good to consult a close friend who has a trait that u like. but the best thing is, is to really be yourself because truthfully there are a lot of people out in the world who are pretending to be what their not....and one can%26#039;t help but to feel a hollowness to the joy he/ she has when doing so ..... well anyway, hope this helped..
-ookami|||Find a role model and ask yourself what they would do in a situation. Kind of like the What Would Jesus Do? question. Instead, I ask myself What Would Bob Do? If Bob was my role model because I thought Bob was a really decent guy and did things like buy homeless people food even though he was living paycheck to paycheck himself. And say I wanted to be courages like Margaret because she would run into traffic to save a child. I%26#039;d ask myself What Would Margaret Do? Then I%26#039;d do those things.
Basically, think of what you want and then do it. But two rules. You can%26#039;t change everything overnight, like you said, it%26#039;s a process. And if you mess up, don%26#039;t beat yourself up, just get back up and try again.
Good luck!|||The first step is to look at yourself completely honestly; consider your flaws and strengths and how others react to the way you act. Try to find out why you act the way you do and try to decide how you might change it. You should aim to change the underlying cause of your behaviour, not simply the behaviour itself.|||By *doing* what it takes to make positive changes and accepting that Rome wasn%26#039;t built in a day per say - so self-patience is required. We didn%26#039;t learn how to spell on the first day of school and to expect that would be *being* an impatient person. To expect a teacher to teach at that pace would be nuts.
When we are born we have no positive habits ...except of course that we are all born cute as button ...seems to be a freebie ; ) Babies are reliant on their parents, family, environment though and rightfully so they can%26#039;t *do* much. It isn%26#039;t long after that that we begin to notice that others are coaxing us to a bit more civil, caring/sharing, accepting in responsibility, and self-reliant each step we take. Some invite consequences into their life by not accepting that. I%26#039;ve seen children fight guidance from their parents and seek out validation from others for negative behavior well into their adult lives(personal waste of time). It is the assumption that getting away with shirking personal responsibility(bad habit) will create positive and is = to chasing a healthy wild bird and expecting to catch it. Now that%26#039;s definately blowing things out of proportion aka: arrogance. But...that doesn%26#039;t mean people %26quot;can%26#039;t%26quot; change because there is always the opposite available concerning mind, body, and spirit even if the person chose to put too much or all of their time into being a stinker and so blew positive off during their childhoods and/or adulthoods due to *doing* rejection and non-acceptance - which are not positive habits.
One Example: Grumpy? Spread some cheer...will you age with graceful smile lines or frowny wrickles? After all a smile is a frowned turned upside down =( ~~~~~%26gt; : )
Smiling is good for the soul and so by *doing* affects attitude - just like frowns/gloom. Nope life will never be absent of times where a frown has it%26#039;s rightful place but let%26#039;s not blow that of proportion.
i know its a long term process, its not easy but something you think might help! or if you know a good link, excersie or book that might be useful.|||I think it is wonderful that we have ways and means to change ourselves and mature into the kind of people we want to be. This process is quite often, unfortunately, left to nature by a lot of people.
The way to start this wonderful journey is to find a happy balance, between what it is that you want to become (Your destiny) and the realistic utilization of your physical resources (The ways and means of reaching this destiny.)
First of all you need to visualize the kind of person you wish to become. While you are doing this, you also need to look at your strenghts and weaknesses, to analyze the reality of your goal. Can you achieve this?
Then you have to prepare for this journey by accepting the fact that it may be a long and hard road ahead. And that you are going to have to make some sacrifices of time, some physical and mental exertions which you had not done in the past.
So start by writing down your final goal, and then work your way backwards by breaking up your journey in small parts. Again writing down these smaller steps by fixing a time frame for each step.
Remember that even a journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. So that you don%26#039;t give up along the way, you must make sure that each and every step of this journey is so interesting that it will make you want to continue forward. This is very important. You need to write down all the specifics of what you want to achieve at each and every step, no matter how silly and meaningless it may seem to you at the time. This is extremely important to help you achieve your own dream.
No matter what, you must never lose sight of your final goal. The type of person you wish to become some day. You need to etch this image into your memory for ever and one day you will become this person. Sooner than you think!|||personally, you%26#039;ll find better results if you are physically appealing....this allows the persons or person to feel more easily approachable ( so exercise is a help......but don%26#039;t be too stressed on the subject) the thing that has saved my life a few times is charm.....its really nothing special. When talking to other people....just be a relaxed version of yourself and refrain from doing anything physically unappealing to the other people that would set them off beat....in terms of changing a personality...you can%26#039;t......you can groom one...with time. some of the times its also good to consult a close friend who has a trait that u like. but the best thing is, is to really be yourself because truthfully there are a lot of people out in the world who are pretending to be what their not....and one can%26#039;t help but to feel a hollowness to the joy he/ she has when doing so ..... well anyway, hope this helped..
-ookami|||Find a role model and ask yourself what they would do in a situation. Kind of like the What Would Jesus Do? question. Instead, I ask myself What Would Bob Do? If Bob was my role model because I thought Bob was a really decent guy and did things like buy homeless people food even though he was living paycheck to paycheck himself. And say I wanted to be courages like Margaret because she would run into traffic to save a child. I%26#039;d ask myself What Would Margaret Do? Then I%26#039;d do those things.
Basically, think of what you want and then do it. But two rules. You can%26#039;t change everything overnight, like you said, it%26#039;s a process. And if you mess up, don%26#039;t beat yourself up, just get back up and try again.
Good luck!|||The first step is to look at yourself completely honestly; consider your flaws and strengths and how others react to the way you act. Try to find out why you act the way you do and try to decide how you might change it. You should aim to change the underlying cause of your behaviour, not simply the behaviour itself.|||By *doing* what it takes to make positive changes and accepting that Rome wasn%26#039;t built in a day per say - so self-patience is required. We didn%26#039;t learn how to spell on the first day of school and to expect that would be *being* an impatient person. To expect a teacher to teach at that pace would be nuts.
When we are born we have no positive habits ...except of course that we are all born cute as button ...seems to be a freebie ; ) Babies are reliant on their parents, family, environment though and rightfully so they can%26#039;t *do* much. It isn%26#039;t long after that that we begin to notice that others are coaxing us to a bit more civil, caring/sharing, accepting in responsibility, and self-reliant each step we take. Some invite consequences into their life by not accepting that. I%26#039;ve seen children fight guidance from their parents and seek out validation from others for negative behavior well into their adult lives(personal waste of time). It is the assumption that getting away with shirking personal responsibility(bad habit) will create positive and is = to chasing a healthy wild bird and expecting to catch it. Now that%26#039;s definately blowing things out of proportion aka: arrogance. But...that doesn%26#039;t mean people %26quot;can%26#039;t%26quot; change because there is always the opposite available concerning mind, body, and spirit even if the person chose to put too much or all of their time into being a stinker and so blew positive off during their childhoods and/or adulthoods due to *doing* rejection and non-acceptance - which are not positive habits.
One Example: Grumpy? Spread some cheer...will you age with graceful smile lines or frowny wrickles? After all a smile is a frowned turned upside down =( ~~~~~%26gt; : )
Smiling is good for the soul and so by *doing* affects attitude - just like frowns/gloom. Nope life will never be absent of times where a frown has it%26#039;s rightful place but let%26#039;s not blow that of proportion.
How can you change your personality?
im just gonna say it....im a *****. I%26#039;ve tried many times to fix it, but every time i cant even go a whole day without being a *****. I dont want to lose anymore friends cuz of my bitchiness. And for all of those people that are gonna say something like %26quot;just stop being a *****%26quot;, its not as easy as it looks.|||get a better outlook on life. be optimistic. find the beauty in others. have friends keep you in line (tell them to tell you when your getting bitchy). its really in your hands. you need the will power. when you wanna be bitchy, just hold it in. bite your tongue. soon it will become routine and itll be much easier. good luck. be nice!|||You can%26#039;t change your personality because that is what you are, but you can change the way you act toward others. You can act nicer, and if you find yourself having trouble acting nice, then there%26#039;s something really wrong here. Do little things that people appreciate, open doors for people and stand there if they are coming, compliment your friends, and ferme la bouche and listen.
People will notice it, and goodness is like a habit (a quote I remember) so make these things a habit.|||try to view the world from a different point of view. Know that everything natural is beautiful. Maybe take some yoga classes and go for a walk. Or take a trip so you can get away from it all for a while. Go to an island or a place with some cool natural landmark. Talk to a yogi or a psycologist. And maybe get an animal. Those can sometimes help people be happier. Good luck! :)|||Meditate, do things that you love for yourself. Is something stressing you out? Take care of it! Get a yoga dvd, walk your dog, make your favorite soup, check out a book- anything that will help you reach serenity will probably help you relax and stop being bitchy.|||You can%26#039;t change your temperament so I suggest you change your life experiences to more positive ones in the future. Maybe you need a big change in scenery.|||You need to get into counseling to find out why you are this way. Once you find out why then you can work on how to change.|||dont change it. your very unique
People will notice it, and goodness is like a habit (a quote I remember) so make these things a habit.|||try to view the world from a different point of view. Know that everything natural is beautiful. Maybe take some yoga classes and go for a walk. Or take a trip so you can get away from it all for a while. Go to an island or a place with some cool natural landmark. Talk to a yogi or a psycologist. And maybe get an animal. Those can sometimes help people be happier. Good luck! :)|||Meditate, do things that you love for yourself. Is something stressing you out? Take care of it! Get a yoga dvd, walk your dog, make your favorite soup, check out a book- anything that will help you reach serenity will probably help you relax and stop being bitchy.|||You can%26#039;t change your temperament so I suggest you change your life experiences to more positive ones in the future. Maybe you need a big change in scenery.|||You need to get into counseling to find out why you are this way. Once you find out why then you can work on how to change.|||dont change it. your very unique
Is there any way to change your personality?
i%26#039;d like to be more caring, equal, accepting, and unjealous. can i achieve this and how? i really do want to.|||You should never have to change who you are. And you will find that it is very hard to change the way you have been all your life. But you can change the things you do. For example, if you want to be more caring, pull your friends to your shoulder when they cry, talk to your parents late in the night when they need it, or simply hold the door open for a stranger walking out of a restraunt. you will find that over time, you will do this without thinking about it.|||no|||It takes time, patience, ambition, endurence, passion, and inspiration. It%26#039;s hard to change who you are. But you can.|||I think you can change your _behavior_ and be more caring, equal, accepting and unjealous. As you see rewards for changing those _behaviors_, perhaps your feelings/personality will fall into line behind it.|||I don%26#039;t believe that this is something you can achieve overnight, but if you work on it then yes, you can change! Really wanting to change means that you have already started to change. What you need to do is try to think about what you are saying and doing, and make a concious effort to change what you don%26#039;t like about it. Telling yourself that you want to be more caring towards other people isn%26#039;t going to do anything until you actually act on that. Yes, changing your personality is very possible and within reach, and anybody who says that it isn%26#039;t must not understand that the sky is the limit, and you can be any person you want to be.|||Try counselling|||A technique works on becoming those from the core may be
%26quot;to see the suffering of the others.%26quot;
The basic premise is that we all want happiness, but don%26#039;t always know the best way to be happy and stay happy.
Technique: when you look into the person%26#039;s eyes, deeply and gently you%26#039;ll see that the person is suffering from wanting the same thing but not getting it or got it but afraid to lost it.
Then, you%26#039;ll feel sadness for everyone involved and spontaneously feel more caring. The sense of equality happens instead of hostility.
Though, not always easy to be accepting from there on or unjealous, but by thinking how the other suffer (from jealousy, resentment or lack of sleep, tiredness, losing something they like...etc.) like you do, more space to work with your emotions and could sympathize the others%26#039; point of view. And then your own natural virtuous qualities will develop slowly but progressively.
Your personality will change and becoming more caring and please don%26#039;t expect reciprocation. People will notice you%26#039;re changing.
Wish this helps.
%26quot;to see the suffering of the others.%26quot;
The basic premise is that we all want happiness, but don%26#039;t always know the best way to be happy and stay happy.
Technique: when you look into the person%26#039;s eyes, deeply and gently you%26#039;ll see that the person is suffering from wanting the same thing but not getting it or got it but afraid to lost it.
Then, you%26#039;ll feel sadness for everyone involved and spontaneously feel more caring. The sense of equality happens instead of hostility.
Though, not always easy to be accepting from there on or unjealous, but by thinking how the other suffer (from jealousy, resentment or lack of sleep, tiredness, losing something they like...etc.) like you do, more space to work with your emotions and could sympathize the others%26#039; point of view. And then your own natural virtuous qualities will develop slowly but progressively.
Your personality will change and becoming more caring and please don%26#039;t expect reciprocation. People will notice you%26#039;re changing.
Wish this helps.
How long does it take to change your whole personality?And how do you do it?
I would like to change my personality-my thoughts,some of my beliefs and perceptions, the way i talk and interact with people. The reason for this is because there are many(not exaggerating) serious flaws in my personality and i have kept off doing something about it-as a result i developed some negative ways of thinking and behaviour.
Please help!|||Its fairly easy, just think why, out of all the people in the world, you are like yourself. You will see that you could be anyone else, and your personality is easy to change. Try saying your name over and over in your head until it sounds ridiculous and you wonder why youre called that.|||i could never change you would only get best from me =]]|||First totally positive dialog in your head. Ban all the words that have negative sounds or negative connotations.
Incorporate positive phrases. Like I can. I will. Wow, I did well there. I am on my way to something good.
Many of the things we do are no more than bad habits. You can only get rid of a bad habit, by replacing it with a good one.
Write down your bad habits.
Write down the good habits you want to start.|||Sorry, hate to break it to you, but you cannot change yourself. If it was something like addiction, then you can un-addict yourself from that. You can set goals to become more like something. If you believe something other than what you believe right now, you can decided to become part of that religion. But personality is something you can%26#039;t change. If someone told you they had a new boyfriend, and you are someone who would normally not be happy with that, then you can disguise your personality and be %26quot;happy%26quot; for them, but inside, you still have the same personality.|||That depends on what personality traits you want to change.
E-mail me, and i%26#039;ll try to help
Donavanlaturner@yahoo.com|||You have to accept your personality, both the good and bad parts. You will never feel satisfied unless you except yourself as you are. Changing your personality will only make things worse.
However, you can change your habits of thought and action. Breaking habits can be quite challenging, so be prepared for a lot of hard work.|||Well, since your doing this for a good reason I%26#039;ll help you.
First you need to think more of good and less on the negative. Don%26#039;t hold on to what you don%26#039;t like about your personality and on what you do like. For the interacting part, listen with interrupting, people like that, and also be interested in what they say. When they ask for you input, be nice and have courtesy of others feelings. Hang around with people with good perceptions and beliefs and you will grow for there..
I hope this helps because it%26#039;s helped me!!
Please help!|||Its fairly easy, just think why, out of all the people in the world, you are like yourself. You will see that you could be anyone else, and your personality is easy to change. Try saying your name over and over in your head until it sounds ridiculous and you wonder why youre called that.|||i could never change you would only get best from me =]]|||First totally positive dialog in your head. Ban all the words that have negative sounds or negative connotations.
Incorporate positive phrases. Like I can. I will. Wow, I did well there. I am on my way to something good.
Many of the things we do are no more than bad habits. You can only get rid of a bad habit, by replacing it with a good one.
Write down your bad habits.
Write down the good habits you want to start.|||Sorry, hate to break it to you, but you cannot change yourself. If it was something like addiction, then you can un-addict yourself from that. You can set goals to become more like something. If you believe something other than what you believe right now, you can decided to become part of that religion. But personality is something you can%26#039;t change. If someone told you they had a new boyfriend, and you are someone who would normally not be happy with that, then you can disguise your personality and be %26quot;happy%26quot; for them, but inside, you still have the same personality.|||That depends on what personality traits you want to change.
E-mail me, and i%26#039;ll try to help
Donavanlaturner@yahoo.com|||You have to accept your personality, both the good and bad parts. You will never feel satisfied unless you except yourself as you are. Changing your personality will only make things worse.
However, you can change your habits of thought and action. Breaking habits can be quite challenging, so be prepared for a lot of hard work.|||Well, since your doing this for a good reason I%26#039;ll help you.
First you need to think more of good and less on the negative. Don%26#039;t hold on to what you don%26#039;t like about your personality and on what you do like. For the interacting part, listen with interrupting, people like that, and also be interested in what they say. When they ask for you input, be nice and have courtesy of others feelings. Hang around with people with good perceptions and beliefs and you will grow for there..
I hope this helps because it%26#039;s helped me!!
How to change your personality to fit kira/Light Yagami (Death Note)?
I want act like light from Dewath note and how woul;d i do this
INCLUDE LISTS|||You have to be completely consumed by your greatness and that you treat everyone else like crap|||Well, I act like Light by doing this:
Be Smart. XD
Have a interragater%26#039;s mind.
Play some chess to sharpen your mind.
Think 100 times before act.
When doing things that you don%26#039;t want to engage, use others as pawns.
Get a real %26quot;Deathnote%26quot;, no death god%26#039;s eyes.
And that should get you to Yagami Light%26#039;s personality, 90%...|||1: First of all you have to act like a know-it-all.
2: You must have an EVIL laugh XD (There are lots of Light%26#039;s laughs on youtube)
3: Be prepared to MONOLOGUE!
4: You have to be serious but also have a side that is friendly and appealing.
Frankly, Light and L are very similar but for a Light/ L MIX you have to be:
1: Even more ingenious than before!
2: Eat sweets ^^ and potato chips
That%26#039;s all I got XD|||I don%26#039;t think Kira is the kind of person you should act like and besides you should have your own personality and not copy an anime character. However if you were to go through with this here are a few tips.
-Stay up to date with current news and act like you have a real sense for justice
-Wear simple, but stylish clothes. No gothic, emo, or punk looks.
-Light is very intelligent which should reflect your personality.
-Light likes to be alone most of the time probably to protect his true identity.
-He also has a very serious demeanor and doesn%26#039;t enjoy jokes or fooling around. That should also reflect your personality.
Even though Light Yagami is a %26quot;cool%26quot; character and is very popular he is still manipulative, egomaniacal, and a very disturbed sociopath. Acting like that will only have your friends and people around you judging you as a strange person.|||Take a potato chip... and EAT IT!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kaoy1QKxG鈥?/a>|||AS KIRA I SAY:
1. use people to help you kill MORE people
2. never let your guard down!
3. kill the people you use
4. get the highest test scores in the region
5. kill more criminals, even ones for minor crimes
6. don%26#039;t feed your shinigami apples in public, for te love of Kira!
7. dress nicely- no crap you kids all wear these days
8. look like zac efron
9. practice ur maniacal laugh!
INCLUDE LISTS|||You have to be completely consumed by your greatness and that you treat everyone else like crap|||Well, I act like Light by doing this:
Be Smart. XD
Have a interragater%26#039;s mind.
Play some chess to sharpen your mind.
Think 100 times before act.
When doing things that you don%26#039;t want to engage, use others as pawns.
Get a real %26quot;Deathnote%26quot;, no death god%26#039;s eyes.
And that should get you to Yagami Light%26#039;s personality, 90%...|||1: First of all you have to act like a know-it-all.
2: You must have an EVIL laugh XD (There are lots of Light%26#039;s laughs on youtube)
3: Be prepared to MONOLOGUE!
4: You have to be serious but also have a side that is friendly and appealing.
Frankly, Light and L are very similar but for a Light/ L MIX you have to be:
1: Even more ingenious than before!
2: Eat sweets ^^ and potato chips
That%26#039;s all I got XD|||I don%26#039;t think Kira is the kind of person you should act like and besides you should have your own personality and not copy an anime character. However if you were to go through with this here are a few tips.
-Stay up to date with current news and act like you have a real sense for justice
-Wear simple, but stylish clothes. No gothic, emo, or punk looks.
-Light is very intelligent which should reflect your personality.
-Light likes to be alone most of the time probably to protect his true identity.
-He also has a very serious demeanor and doesn%26#039;t enjoy jokes or fooling around. That should also reflect your personality.
Even though Light Yagami is a %26quot;cool%26quot; character and is very popular he is still manipulative, egomaniacal, and a very disturbed sociopath. Acting like that will only have your friends and people around you judging you as a strange person.|||Take a potato chip... and EAT IT!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kaoy1QKxG鈥?/a>|||AS KIRA I SAY:
1. use people to help you kill MORE people
2. never let your guard down!
3. kill the people you use
4. get the highest test scores in the region
5. kill more criminals, even ones for minor crimes
6. don%26#039;t feed your shinigami apples in public, for te love of Kira!
7. dress nicely- no crap you kids all wear these days
8. look like zac efron
9. practice ur maniacal laugh!
What are 4 reasons how addiction to alcohol and drugs can change your personality?
1.
2.
3.
4.
???
THANKS SO MUCH|||1) making you mean
2)making you abusive
3)might have sex unknowingly (you will feel different but not remember what happened)
...and 4)you will become depressed when you find out that you are dying from overdose
*stay above the influence :)|||I believe you need to answer by yourself to that question|||1. Violence
2. memory loss
3. anger issues
4. kills brain cells|||1. less concerned with honesty
2. lose interest in hobbies.
3. less committed to responsibilities.
4. less concerned with how your behaviour affects those around you.
2.
3.
4.
???
THANKS SO MUCH|||1) making you mean
2)making you abusive
3)might have sex unknowingly (you will feel different but not remember what happened)
...and 4)you will become depressed when you find out that you are dying from overdose
*stay above the influence :)|||I believe you need to answer by yourself to that question|||1. Violence
2. memory loss
3. anger issues
4. kills brain cells|||1. less concerned with honesty
2. lose interest in hobbies.
3. less committed to responsibilities.
4. less concerned with how your behaviour affects those around you.
How long does it take to change your whole personality?And how do you do it?
How long does it take to change your whole personality?And how do you do it?
I would like to change my personality-my thoughts,some of my beliefs and perceptions, the way i talk and interact with people. The reason for this is because there are many(not exaggerating) serious flaws in my personality and i have kept off doing something about it-as a result i developed some negative ways of thinking and behaviour.
Please help!|||Personality comes from the word persona. Our persona%26#039;s are not really who we are deep down. They are profiles or personalities we cling to and attach our self to give us a meaning. So, to answer you Q, it can be changed. Have you seen people to travel to other countries, become different than they were before. They think differently, their beliefs change. They %26#039;see%26#039; the other side and realize they were living in a prison of their minds all along. If you acknowledge what it is that you want to change and change it for the better. Become a better version of you.
Good luck !|||All your Life. Please study a lot|||Probably varies for different people. Check out ego death, it seems to be a good starting place: www.egodeath.com/
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ego_death|||The answer is; The same amount of time as it takes to become an alcoholic. If you just want short term personality change then just binge drink ;p|||A Lifetime. Only once each Lifetime. When you finally get it right - You will not have to do it again.|||there%26#039;s no time limit set so-to-speak. I know almost exactly what you%26#039;re going through because I%26#039;m sick of the way I%26#039;ve been and I just don%26#039;t want to be like I am the rest of my life. You have to take it one day at a time, little things like your work ethic and then just work your way up until you%26#039;re satisfied as to how you live your life. if you need any advice or someone to talk to in depth I%26#039;m here. oh
P.S. I%26#039;m just a junior in H.S. but I%26#039;ve been through a lot.|||u can never change ur personality its who u r as a person! just think positive and it will make a diff,every1 has flaws ur not alone...........u need 2 express ur feelings 2 understand!|||it takes in a quick minute, by my surroundings|||You cannot change your personality, only your behaviour.
There are a couple of good books that will help if you want to understand yourself and others. Lateral Thinking by Eduard de Bono and Psychology For Dummies by Adam Cash. Ignore the odd title of the last book, it really is full of useful tips which you will find intriguing.|||List the changes desired then practice, practice, practice and more practice daily - the time for each individual is different, so continue until satisfied.|||So, I see no answer for how long it takes...
It takes 21 days to replace a habit on purpose with another habit. Without the drive to replace the habit it can take from 3 to 10 times longer to have a habit that is not being used to change on its own... but the first time you snap back into the old habit, the time to replace starts all over again.
I recommend picking up 2 books and reading them or listening to them on tape from the library; Please Understand Me 1%26amp;2. They deal with the Keirsey personality test, such as this Overview of Keirsey%26#039;s Four Temperaments; http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
Temperament is a configuration of observable personality traits, such as habits of communication, patterns of action, and sets of characteristic attitudes, values, and talents. It also encompasses personal needs, the kinds of contributions that individuals make in the workplace, and the roles they play in society. Dr. David Keirsey has identified mankind%26#039;s four basic temperaments as the Artisan, the Guardian, the Rational, and the Idealist.
Each temperament has its own unique qualities and shortcomings, strengths and challenges. What accounts for these differences? To use the idea of Temperament most effectively, it is important to understand that the four temperaments are not simply arbitrary collections of characteristics, but spring from an interaction of the two basic dimensions of human behavior: our communication and our action, our words and our deeds, or, simply, what we say and what we do.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Guardians%26quot; are the cornerstone of society, for they are the temperament given to serving and preserving our most important social institutions. Guardians have natural talent in managing goods and services--from supervision to maintenance and supply -- and they use all their skills to keep things running smoothly in their families, communities, schools, churches, hospitals, and businesses.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Idealists%26quot;, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self -- always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination. And they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Artisans%26quot; are the temperament with a natural ability to excel in any of the arts, not only the fine arts such as painting and sculpting, or the performing arts such as music, theater, and dance, but also the athletic, military, political, mechanical, and industrial arts, as well as the %26quot;art of the deal%26quot; in business.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Rationals%26quot; are the problem solving temperament, particularly if the problem has to do with the many complex systems that make up the world around us. Rationals might tackle problems in organic systems such as plants and animals, or in mechanical systems such as railroads and computers, or in social systems such as families and companies and governments. But whatever systems fire their curiosity, Rationals will analyze them to understand how they work, so they can figure out how to make them work better.
ME!
While I Thank You my Spiritual Brother Fredric, I can only take credit for forgetting to add the URL I got most of the information from... Then again, these books helped me many years ago. Here are the URL%26#039;s in the source box. Anyone who desires a treat should read some of Sir Fredric%26#039;s Poems sometime.
Be sure to check out the URL%26#039;s for all I showed here is the first paragraph or two...
.|||i was going to answer your question but after reading what my friend orpheus wrote i%26#039;ll just shut up and go back to sleep|||You can%26#039;t possibly change your entire personality. Something as complex and ingrained as that can%26#039;t simply be changed. It%26#039;s much easier to address your flaws than to address all of you. Perhaps the fact that you have such negative ways of thinking has led you to believe that you have major flaws. Maybe you aren%26#039;t as bad as you seem to think you are (chicken or the egg?) and you need to reflect on yourself before you undergo something so radical. There must be someone who accepts you for who you are, even if it%26#039;s not you yet.|||as long as it takes a giant squid to change a light bulb...|||Well the first thing is - you really need to want to change.
It can take weeks, months or even years to change your whole personality. At the of this process you will no longer the person you once were. Are you sure you need to go to that extreme?
I suggest concentrating on what you think are your greatest flaws first. If you have put off doing something about it then procrastination is one of your flaws (you are not alone.) To minimise this I would suggest developing self-discipline. Don%26#039;t worry this isn%26#039;t as bad or as hard as it sounds!
You can start developing your self-discipline by buying, reading and doing the exercises in the below book. The book is %26quot;Self Discipline In 10 days.%26quot; It is actually 12 days to do it. A day to do preparation section and a day on review section. Tip: Do the whole preparation section in one sitting as you will naturally resist yourself!
I would like to change my personality-my thoughts,some of my beliefs and perceptions, the way i talk and interact with people. The reason for this is because there are many(not exaggerating) serious flaws in my personality and i have kept off doing something about it-as a result i developed some negative ways of thinking and behaviour.
Please help!|||Personality comes from the word persona. Our persona%26#039;s are not really who we are deep down. They are profiles or personalities we cling to and attach our self to give us a meaning. So, to answer you Q, it can be changed. Have you seen people to travel to other countries, become different than they were before. They think differently, their beliefs change. They %26#039;see%26#039; the other side and realize they were living in a prison of their minds all along. If you acknowledge what it is that you want to change and change it for the better. Become a better version of you.
Good luck !|||All your Life. Please study a lot|||Probably varies for different people. Check out ego death, it seems to be a good starting place: www.egodeath.com/
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ego_death|||The answer is; The same amount of time as it takes to become an alcoholic. If you just want short term personality change then just binge drink ;p|||A Lifetime. Only once each Lifetime. When you finally get it right - You will not have to do it again.|||there%26#039;s no time limit set so-to-speak. I know almost exactly what you%26#039;re going through because I%26#039;m sick of the way I%26#039;ve been and I just don%26#039;t want to be like I am the rest of my life. You have to take it one day at a time, little things like your work ethic and then just work your way up until you%26#039;re satisfied as to how you live your life. if you need any advice or someone to talk to in depth I%26#039;m here. oh
P.S. I%26#039;m just a junior in H.S. but I%26#039;ve been through a lot.|||u can never change ur personality its who u r as a person! just think positive and it will make a diff,every1 has flaws ur not alone...........u need 2 express ur feelings 2 understand!|||it takes in a quick minute, by my surroundings|||You cannot change your personality, only your behaviour.
There are a couple of good books that will help if you want to understand yourself and others. Lateral Thinking by Eduard de Bono and Psychology For Dummies by Adam Cash. Ignore the odd title of the last book, it really is full of useful tips which you will find intriguing.|||List the changes desired then practice, practice, practice and more practice daily - the time for each individual is different, so continue until satisfied.|||So, I see no answer for how long it takes...
It takes 21 days to replace a habit on purpose with another habit. Without the drive to replace the habit it can take from 3 to 10 times longer to have a habit that is not being used to change on its own... but the first time you snap back into the old habit, the time to replace starts all over again.
I recommend picking up 2 books and reading them or listening to them on tape from the library; Please Understand Me 1%26amp;2. They deal with the Keirsey personality test, such as this Overview of Keirsey%26#039;s Four Temperaments; http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
Temperament is a configuration of observable personality traits, such as habits of communication, patterns of action, and sets of characteristic attitudes, values, and talents. It also encompasses personal needs, the kinds of contributions that individuals make in the workplace, and the roles they play in society. Dr. David Keirsey has identified mankind%26#039;s four basic temperaments as the Artisan, the Guardian, the Rational, and the Idealist.
Each temperament has its own unique qualities and shortcomings, strengths and challenges. What accounts for these differences? To use the idea of Temperament most effectively, it is important to understand that the four temperaments are not simply arbitrary collections of characteristics, but spring from an interaction of the two basic dimensions of human behavior: our communication and our action, our words and our deeds, or, simply, what we say and what we do.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Guardians%26quot; are the cornerstone of society, for they are the temperament given to serving and preserving our most important social institutions. Guardians have natural talent in managing goods and services--from supervision to maintenance and supply -- and they use all their skills to keep things running smoothly in their families, communities, schools, churches, hospitals, and businesses.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Idealists%26quot;, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self -- always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination. And they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.
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%26quot;Artisans%26quot; are the temperament with a natural ability to excel in any of the arts, not only the fine arts such as painting and sculpting, or the performing arts such as music, theater, and dance, but also the athletic, military, political, mechanical, and industrial arts, as well as the %26quot;art of the deal%26quot; in business.
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%26quot;Rationals%26quot; are the problem solving temperament, particularly if the problem has to do with the many complex systems that make up the world around us. Rationals might tackle problems in organic systems such as plants and animals, or in mechanical systems such as railroads and computers, or in social systems such as families and companies and governments. But whatever systems fire their curiosity, Rationals will analyze them to understand how they work, so they can figure out how to make them work better.
ME!
While I Thank You my Spiritual Brother Fredric, I can only take credit for forgetting to add the URL I got most of the information from... Then again, these books helped me many years ago. Here are the URL%26#039;s in the source box. Anyone who desires a treat should read some of Sir Fredric%26#039;s Poems sometime.
Be sure to check out the URL%26#039;s for all I showed here is the first paragraph or two...
.|||i was going to answer your question but after reading what my friend orpheus wrote i%26#039;ll just shut up and go back to sleep|||You can%26#039;t possibly change your entire personality. Something as complex and ingrained as that can%26#039;t simply be changed. It%26#039;s much easier to address your flaws than to address all of you. Perhaps the fact that you have such negative ways of thinking has led you to believe that you have major flaws. Maybe you aren%26#039;t as bad as you seem to think you are (chicken or the egg?) and you need to reflect on yourself before you undergo something so radical. There must be someone who accepts you for who you are, even if it%26#039;s not you yet.|||as long as it takes a giant squid to change a light bulb...|||Well the first thing is - you really need to want to change.
It can take weeks, months or even years to change your whole personality. At the of this process you will no longer the person you once were. Are you sure you need to go to that extreme?
I suggest concentrating on what you think are your greatest flaws first. If you have put off doing something about it then procrastination is one of your flaws (you are not alone.) To minimise this I would suggest developing self-discipline. Don%26#039;t worry this isn%26#039;t as bad or as hard as it sounds!
You can start developing your self-discipline by buying, reading and doing the exercises in the below book. The book is %26quot;Self Discipline In 10 days.%26quot; It is actually 12 days to do it. A day to do preparation section and a day on review section. Tip: Do the whole preparation section in one sitting as you will naturally resist yourself!
How to Change Your Personality?
What are ways to change my personality? I want to become a different person. I%26#039;m tired of who I am now.|||I would say identify the parts of your personality that you dislike and make a serious resolution to change them through your actions and attitude. I%26#039;m not sure exactly what you want to change about yourself, but here are some examples: If you%26#039;re a pessimistic person, decide that you ARE going to think positive thoughts. The next time you start looking at the downside of something, take a moment to stop and consider the brighter side. If you%26#039;re rude or unfriendly on a regular basis, try giving someone a genuine compliment instead of making a negative remark. If you find yourself lacking in confidence, challenge yourself to do something you think would be very difficult for you to accomplish, and stick to it until you prevail. An earnest effort will often take you farther than you ever thought you could go. It is sometimes possible to change your behavior and your way of thinking by repeatedly and consistently making yourself think thoughts and perform actions that support the ideals of the type of person you want to be. To provide a better answer I would have to ask you what it is about your personality you really wish to change. Sometimes it%26#039;s better to learn to love who you are and accept yourself that way, but if your actions are harmful to you or other people, it might be time for a change. Either way, if you want to change, it%26#039;s up to you to decide that you WILL change. Once you get to that point, there ain%26#039;t nothin%26#039; to it but to do it.|||See yourself. Seek a closer conscious contact with God.
You must know who and what you are first.
Become the witness of what you think,say and do.
Watch everything and everyone in your enviroment.Your enviroment is a reflection of your spiritual condition.
Your thoughts words and deeds create your life circumstances. choose them wisely.
Start by rejecting negative thought.
Seek forgiveness,give forgiveness to others and forget.|||Set a diffrent goal everyday and try to acheive it.
Try to keep thoes goals up as time passes.
Evaluate yourself by keeping a journal of some sorts; think about where you messed up and how you could improve. Also congradulate yourself when you do something good.
Try to think of something that will help you remember what you%26#039;re working for.|||Map out the changes that you want to make and set some goals -
Clothes help after all persona is linked to performance - as it means the mask that you speak though in ancient greek tragedies.
Play with the idea of perforimng as the new persona for a while till you meld with your ideal self.
i was interested to learn that some actors never come down from their roles as they are scared of being themselves so just get blotted out with alcohol till the next role comes along and they never have to meet themselves.
My son changed by giving himself a reason - he decided to be a writer and writers have to have lots of experiences so he went from being shy to being outgoing pretty much overnight.
I changed at the age of 16 when I left home and changed my name and constructed a new self in order to go to work and be more popular. I sloughed off my old life like a snakeskin and succeeded in forgetting it as it was pretty traumatic - later when I was stronger I revisited it and did the healing but wasnt capable at that time so I juts changed. Its easy if you let your past self go.|||Some resources that have helped many people:
%26quot;Sacred Psychology of Change: Life as a Voyage of Transformation,%26quot; Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D.
http://www.easwaran.org
%26quot;The Great Divorce,%26quot; C. S. Lewis,
%26quot;The Master of Lucid Dreams,%26quot; Dr. Olga Kharitidi,
%26quot;The Masters and Their Retreats,%26quot; Mark Prophet,
%26quot;The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?%26quot;, Free and Wilcock,
%26quot;Man, Master of His Destiny,%26quot; O. M. Aivanhov, and
http://www.carolbowman.com
http://www.dreamhealer.com
http://www.dreamviews.com
%26quot;To Live Within,%26quot; Lizelle Reymond,
%26quot;Autobiography of a Yogi,%26quot; Yogananda,
http://www.heartmath.org
http://www.noetic.org
Reviews at http://www.amazon.com|||first of all accept whole heartily u are..no matter how tired u get of urself...u will gradually *** 2 luv urself in the time 2 ***..and so will others..
for the time being...
don%26#039;t copy anybody..........just b what u are....more than changing the your
appearance and attire, focus more on inside thing.. just behave cool...make or rather convince others that u have changed completely...for betterr...
|||Get different friends. Do different things. Move to a new place. New wardrobe couldnt hurt. You are partly your surroundings, so if you change them, you yourself might follow. |||try to become better in evry sappect you think you need a change and I ahd a simmilar problem. I changed but then I got tired of it too. But then LOve ****** me up badly.
Good Luck though( : I%26#039;m rooting for ya|||wear a funny wig and do a horrible british accent, just run around and annoy the heck out of every one.
You must know who and what you are first.
Become the witness of what you think,say and do.
Watch everything and everyone in your enviroment.Your enviroment is a reflection of your spiritual condition.
Your thoughts words and deeds create your life circumstances. choose them wisely.
Start by rejecting negative thought.
Seek forgiveness,give forgiveness to others and forget.|||Set a diffrent goal everyday and try to acheive it.
Try to keep thoes goals up as time passes.
Evaluate yourself by keeping a journal of some sorts; think about where you messed up and how you could improve. Also congradulate yourself when you do something good.
Try to think of something that will help you remember what you%26#039;re working for.|||Map out the changes that you want to make and set some goals -
Clothes help after all persona is linked to performance - as it means the mask that you speak though in ancient greek tragedies.
Play with the idea of perforimng as the new persona for a while till you meld with your ideal self.
i was interested to learn that some actors never come down from their roles as they are scared of being themselves so just get blotted out with alcohol till the next role comes along and they never have to meet themselves.
My son changed by giving himself a reason - he decided to be a writer and writers have to have lots of experiences so he went from being shy to being outgoing pretty much overnight.
I changed at the age of 16 when I left home and changed my name and constructed a new self in order to go to work and be more popular. I sloughed off my old life like a snakeskin and succeeded in forgetting it as it was pretty traumatic - later when I was stronger I revisited it and did the healing but wasnt capable at that time so I juts changed. Its easy if you let your past self go.|||Some resources that have helped many people:
%26quot;Sacred Psychology of Change: Life as a Voyage of Transformation,%26quot; Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D.
http://www.easwaran.org
%26quot;The Great Divorce,%26quot; C. S. Lewis,
%26quot;The Master of Lucid Dreams,%26quot; Dr. Olga Kharitidi,
%26quot;The Masters and Their Retreats,%26quot; Mark Prophet,
%26quot;The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?%26quot;, Free and Wilcock,
%26quot;Man, Master of His Destiny,%26quot; O. M. Aivanhov, and
http://www.carolbowman.com
http://www.dreamhealer.com
http://www.dreamviews.com
%26quot;To Live Within,%26quot; Lizelle Reymond,
%26quot;Autobiography of a Yogi,%26quot; Yogananda,
http://www.heartmath.org
http://www.noetic.org
Reviews at http://www.amazon.com|||first of all accept whole heartily u are..no matter how tired u get of urself...u will gradually *** 2 luv urself in the time 2 ***..and so will others..
for the time being...
don%26#039;t copy anybody..........just b what u are....more than changing the your
appearance and attire, focus more on inside thing.. just behave cool...make or rather convince others that u have changed completely...for betterr...
|||Get different friends. Do different things. Move to a new place. New wardrobe couldnt hurt. You are partly your surroundings, so if you change them, you yourself might follow. |||try to become better in evry sappect you think you need a change and I ahd a simmilar problem. I changed but then I got tired of it too. But then LOve ****** me up badly.
Good Luck though( : I%26#039;m rooting for ya|||wear a funny wig and do a horrible british accent, just run around and annoy the heck out of every one.
Can your profession change your personality drastically?
especially while you are having tough time at work. How to overcome this?|||Yes your job can take a toll of how you view the world around you.It is often taken out on the family members you love. I know this from experience. So what we did was take time away from everyone, and enjoyed a very long vacation. That made all the difference for us.
Does going through college change your personality?
Has anyone%26#039;s personality changed A LOT after going through college? I really hope mine will for the better...I%26#039;m really shy right now and I hope I can be more social and outgoing after these next 4 years. I just came back from orientation and feel slightly (very slightly) less shy since I had to talk to lots of strangers these past few days.
By the way I%26#039;m going to a college with like 25,000-30,000 people (not sure exactly how much)|||Your personality will very much so change. I changed a whole lot my first semester away. My friends from home even noticed. Generally I would say college makes you a lot more outgoing and accepting and open to things. It%26#039;s a whole new lifestyle and it is a proven study that people with a college eduaction are much more likely to be liberal than those without one (again emphasizing the more openness...)|||Yes it will, that%26#039;s the beauty about college. You get to experience so much and before you know it you start to figure out who you really are and what you want to do for a living. I am in my third year of college and I have noticed how much I have changed and look at the world. So yea, your personality is most likely going to change but it will only be for the better. Oh yea, don%26#039;t worry about being shy cause college will demolish that cause I was also shy before I entered college and now I will pretty much approach anybody.|||It did with me. I was shy and only had a few friends in hs. I still only have one really good friend but, I do find it easier to talk to people. I have also become stronger at voicing my opinon if I have something to say on a topic. If you have really good professors that challenge you to think and not care what you think but just to think then your personality will definally change a lot. I was forturat enough to have a few of these type of professors. If you get involved in an activity that will also help. You get to know those people and interact with more of the campus.|||Well going to college allowed me to discover my personality. I mean my real personality, not the personality I%26#039;ve always pretended to have. It helps you figure you out... realize who you are. Don%26#039;t mess up like me though.. don%26#039;t lose yourself...|||you%26#039;ll definitely change...good luck, have fun, and don%26#039;t drink 2 much|||Have fun in college . You will meet lots of people
some you will become friends with , and others you
will want to run and hide from when you see them
coming .
Important TIP at those party%26#039;s keep your wits about you at all times , very important this is.|||like everything else, practice makes you better at something...so practice talking to people and hanging with them.|||When college was in session i was a straight party animal. As i grew up more, i stopped partying so much and started to think of my career i wanted to.|||you can change your perssonality. some will change, some will not. Its up to the student.|||well all you have to do is is hang out with good friends to have a better additude. but to make sure your attitude doesnt go bad then dont join any sororities|||Same with me. I%26#039;m a Junior now but when i went to some orientation thing back when I was about to begin college, my parents didn%26#039;t go with me. And I knew nobody at orientation (about 6,000 newly admitted freshmen) and they didn%26#039;t know me or what kind of person i was, and i did not act shy, and now I%26#039;m a changed person. I have a whole new set of friends, and life it great now. The school I go to have around 45,000 students and the streets can get very crowded (like a NYC scene) when I go to my next class or to the library, and I doubt it%26#039;s a place for the really shy. GOOD LUCK to you!|||If you let it, college will make you less shy. You%26#039;re going to school with a lot of people, there will be many opportunities to find people to connect with. Don%26#039;t rely on fate! If you want to become more social, get involved. There%26#039;s a million clubs at universities, one of them will meet your tastes. And if you live on campus, there%26#039;s even more.|||Every major event in your life provides experiences on which your personality grows. How you interpret those events determines your positive or negative worth.
By the way I%26#039;m going to a college with like 25,000-30,000 people (not sure exactly how much)|||Your personality will very much so change. I changed a whole lot my first semester away. My friends from home even noticed. Generally I would say college makes you a lot more outgoing and accepting and open to things. It%26#039;s a whole new lifestyle and it is a proven study that people with a college eduaction are much more likely to be liberal than those without one (again emphasizing the more openness...)|||Yes it will, that%26#039;s the beauty about college. You get to experience so much and before you know it you start to figure out who you really are and what you want to do for a living. I am in my third year of college and I have noticed how much I have changed and look at the world. So yea, your personality is most likely going to change but it will only be for the better. Oh yea, don%26#039;t worry about being shy cause college will demolish that cause I was also shy before I entered college and now I will pretty much approach anybody.|||It did with me. I was shy and only had a few friends in hs. I still only have one really good friend but, I do find it easier to talk to people. I have also become stronger at voicing my opinon if I have something to say on a topic. If you have really good professors that challenge you to think and not care what you think but just to think then your personality will definally change a lot. I was forturat enough to have a few of these type of professors. If you get involved in an activity that will also help. You get to know those people and interact with more of the campus.|||Well going to college allowed me to discover my personality. I mean my real personality, not the personality I%26#039;ve always pretended to have. It helps you figure you out... realize who you are. Don%26#039;t mess up like me though.. don%26#039;t lose yourself...|||you%26#039;ll definitely change...good luck, have fun, and don%26#039;t drink 2 much|||Have fun in college . You will meet lots of people
some you will become friends with , and others you
will want to run and hide from when you see them
coming .
Important TIP at those party%26#039;s keep your wits about you at all times , very important this is.|||like everything else, practice makes you better at something...so practice talking to people and hanging with them.|||When college was in session i was a straight party animal. As i grew up more, i stopped partying so much and started to think of my career i wanted to.|||you can change your perssonality. some will change, some will not. Its up to the student.|||well all you have to do is is hang out with good friends to have a better additude. but to make sure your attitude doesnt go bad then dont join any sororities|||Same with me. I%26#039;m a Junior now but when i went to some orientation thing back when I was about to begin college, my parents didn%26#039;t go with me. And I knew nobody at orientation (about 6,000 newly admitted freshmen) and they didn%26#039;t know me or what kind of person i was, and i did not act shy, and now I%26#039;m a changed person. I have a whole new set of friends, and life it great now. The school I go to have around 45,000 students and the streets can get very crowded (like a NYC scene) when I go to my next class or to the library, and I doubt it%26#039;s a place for the really shy. GOOD LUCK to you!|||If you let it, college will make you less shy. You%26#039;re going to school with a lot of people, there will be many opportunities to find people to connect with. Don%26#039;t rely on fate! If you want to become more social, get involved. There%26#039;s a million clubs at universities, one of them will meet your tastes. And if you live on campus, there%26#039;s even more.|||Every major event in your life provides experiences on which your personality grows. How you interpret those events determines your positive or negative worth.
Can you actually change your personality?
I am very emotional, clingy type person. Personally I feel it sucks. I am always the one who experiences a crisis the most and takes it personally. I wish I were quite the opposite. I can not handle anything without blowing up. How am I ever going to make it through life if I am so emotional?|||when something bad happens block it. block all emotions %26amp; all thoughts of the bad situation. keep ur mind occupied on other thoughts, take a deep breath, try 2 make yourself believe that the situation isnt important %26amp; u should be fine|||I believe so, but I like to look at it as personal growth, a friend once told me that it makes more sense to help a person grow, (personal growth), then to change them. But on the whole, it would take willingness and a strong desire to change one%26#039;s personality.|||Yes, it is possible to change these aspects of your personality, although I prefer to word it that %26quot;I am more like myself than I have ever been.%26quot;
There is nothing wroing with experiencing a crisis and taking it personally. It is a crisis. Those who block trauma are seriously damaged individuals who have frozent their feelings in order to survive in the past and now live in that cryogenic hell.
However, I understand about your concern about over-reacting in blowing up and being clingy, etc. My life exploded into shambles some years back, to put it mildly, leaving me without family or home. I became so upset that a thing like a pan boiling over was the absolute last straw.
I did a number of things to work with these parts of me that I was not particularly proud of. I found a therapist I feel completely comfortable with, and he works weekly with me on my self-esteem and hashing out what is reality and worth real estate in my head, and what is not. I also attend a support group specific to concerns in my life. Here I have made friends and practice interacting with others who are also trying to live their life in a healthier way. I read leterature specific to my concerns. I have delved into what sprituality means for me, personally.
These things opened my mind and my heart to create, yes, a personality that I would never in a million years have thought would be %26quot;me%26quot;. It keeps getting better and better, too. With my development of boundaries and personal resolve and self-respect, people have come into my life that I didn%26#039;t think existed. I am grateful every day that I do this work, and yes, it is a project that will continue as long as I do.|||Find people whoo inspires you, before I was so shy, buh my sister inpired me now people think im crazy and thats wy they love me:) find people who inspires you and you wanna be.|||Yes you can change it. When I was a child I was angry and mean basically hated everyone and that was my choice. As I got older I was tired of not having friends so I decided to relax and turn off some of the hate. Now because of the hurt people can%26#039;t help but bring upon others I think I will go back to the old mickey and shut down only caring about me. Do you understand. This life is your game, play it like you want. You make the rules and say who the winner is. : ) within reason don%26#039;t go out of your head and do anything stupid your in charge of your life only. (and kids).|||At depth your personality is a constant. But you can change traits of your personality like clinginess. Just set yourself concrete goals and make the change.
One of the best ways to deal with emotionalism is to remember that feelings aren%26#039;t facts, and try and stay out of the business of second guessing your reactions and just concentrate on your ACTIONS and WORDS. What I think and feel about stuff is none of my concern. Just doing good and useful things.|||I do believe that you can change your personality but you have to really try. Its like for example in The Incredibles movie. I don%26#039;t know if you ever saw it before but the girl in it is SUPER shy and then at the end of the movie she is much more confident. Its definately a different situation but what I would do as fas as dating goes is to tell the person your dating about this problem and maybe they can help. You should have one good friend, maybe thats the problem, you don%26#039;t have someone in your life that you can trust and depend on without having to do anything to get that friendship. You should maintain a really close friend and they can prolly help you the most. Good luck! When in doubt ask Jesus:)|||I love the book Personality Plus by florence littauer. It%26#039;s not a christian-y book, but i got a christian bookstore to order it for me. we are born with certain personality characteristics. there are 4 main personality types, although no one is all one type -- we%26#039;re all individuals, after all. you don%26#039;t have to change the type of person you are, just strive to become the best you that you can be. that%26#039;s all that i can do. Celebrate your enthusiasm, work on strengthening your independent spirit: no one can give you emotional strength. don%26#039;t be so hard on yourself, and don%26#039;t be too critical of others. don%26#039;t expect from others, that%26#039;s how we get disappointed. i suspect you are a creative person who really needs a good deal of time alone. take it slow with people. don%26#039;t come on too strong. you have strengths, and i know you need affirmation from others. only be close to people who are genuinely supportive. dealing with %26quot;blow-ups%26quot; has been a lifelong challenge for me. it gets you nowhere. at my age I think and hope i%26#039;ve become tired of the drama (guys don%26#039;t like it either) you can take a step back, calm down. always remember, whoever cares the most loses.
There is nothing wroing with experiencing a crisis and taking it personally. It is a crisis. Those who block trauma are seriously damaged individuals who have frozent their feelings in order to survive in the past and now live in that cryogenic hell.
However, I understand about your concern about over-reacting in blowing up and being clingy, etc. My life exploded into shambles some years back, to put it mildly, leaving me without family or home. I became so upset that a thing like a pan boiling over was the absolute last straw.
I did a number of things to work with these parts of me that I was not particularly proud of. I found a therapist I feel completely comfortable with, and he works weekly with me on my self-esteem and hashing out what is reality and worth real estate in my head, and what is not. I also attend a support group specific to concerns in my life. Here I have made friends and practice interacting with others who are also trying to live their life in a healthier way. I read leterature specific to my concerns. I have delved into what sprituality means for me, personally.
These things opened my mind and my heart to create, yes, a personality that I would never in a million years have thought would be %26quot;me%26quot;. It keeps getting better and better, too. With my development of boundaries and personal resolve and self-respect, people have come into my life that I didn%26#039;t think existed. I am grateful every day that I do this work, and yes, it is a project that will continue as long as I do.|||Find people whoo inspires you, before I was so shy, buh my sister inpired me now people think im crazy and thats wy they love me:) find people who inspires you and you wanna be.|||Yes you can change it. When I was a child I was angry and mean basically hated everyone and that was my choice. As I got older I was tired of not having friends so I decided to relax and turn off some of the hate. Now because of the hurt people can%26#039;t help but bring upon others I think I will go back to the old mickey and shut down only caring about me. Do you understand. This life is your game, play it like you want. You make the rules and say who the winner is. : ) within reason don%26#039;t go out of your head and do anything stupid your in charge of your life only. (and kids).|||At depth your personality is a constant. But you can change traits of your personality like clinginess. Just set yourself concrete goals and make the change.
One of the best ways to deal with emotionalism is to remember that feelings aren%26#039;t facts, and try and stay out of the business of second guessing your reactions and just concentrate on your ACTIONS and WORDS. What I think and feel about stuff is none of my concern. Just doing good and useful things.|||I do believe that you can change your personality but you have to really try. Its like for example in The Incredibles movie. I don%26#039;t know if you ever saw it before but the girl in it is SUPER shy and then at the end of the movie she is much more confident. Its definately a different situation but what I would do as fas as dating goes is to tell the person your dating about this problem and maybe they can help. You should have one good friend, maybe thats the problem, you don%26#039;t have someone in your life that you can trust and depend on without having to do anything to get that friendship. You should maintain a really close friend and they can prolly help you the most. Good luck! When in doubt ask Jesus:)|||I love the book Personality Plus by florence littauer. It%26#039;s not a christian-y book, but i got a christian bookstore to order it for me. we are born with certain personality characteristics. there are 4 main personality types, although no one is all one type -- we%26#039;re all individuals, after all. you don%26#039;t have to change the type of person you are, just strive to become the best you that you can be. that%26#039;s all that i can do. Celebrate your enthusiasm, work on strengthening your independent spirit: no one can give you emotional strength. don%26#039;t be so hard on yourself, and don%26#039;t be too critical of others. don%26#039;t expect from others, that%26#039;s how we get disappointed. i suspect you are a creative person who really needs a good deal of time alone. take it slow with people. don%26#039;t come on too strong. you have strengths, and i know you need affirmation from others. only be close to people who are genuinely supportive. dealing with %26quot;blow-ups%26quot; has been a lifelong challenge for me. it gets you nowhere. at my age I think and hope i%26#039;ve become tired of the drama (guys don%26#039;t like it either) you can take a step back, calm down. always remember, whoever cares the most loses.
Is it possible to change your personality if yes then how?
Do you know any websites? I can%26#039;t get angry or upset at ppl and they tend to take advantage of me? (I can%26#039;t afford psychotherapy) I kno this question sounds silly but I need to get more asertive and learn to love myself. I kno i have to i just don%26#039;t kno how.|||your personality changes every day but only small changes but it is possible to change your personality like if your bad temper (I%26#039;m not saying you are) you have to be nice instead of mean. then in time your personality will change|||i think so, i would just search %26quot;assertiveness help%26quot; or something similar, gl! i wouldn%26#039;t say 100% personality change cuz that%26#039;s what it sounds like from your question, but def, at least i hope so, cuz i%26#039;m like you in a way,|||well, the first step is to recognize that you%26#039;re like that..so good job..
now you just need to recognize when you%26#039;re doing it and stop it..
i%26#039;ll try to find some links for ya..
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/鈥?/a>
hope this helps..it details how you can fix things yourself..|||There are hundreds of self help books... head to your local Library. Just by asking this question proves you are a person who is very worthy... most peolpe go through life never trying to improve themselves. You have a promising future... good luck :)|||well no your personality will always be. but you can change certain behaviors. focus on the behavior instead of suppressing yourself. loving yourself is a personal battle, you can practice being more assertive by putting yourself in situations that need it.|||theirs more websites to look at.|||you can read websites and %26quot;expert advice%26quot; all day and probably get something out of it. ultimately though you should be aware it is a choice, like most everything. you are entirely equipped at this moment to be the person you want to be. %26quot;cogito, ergo sum%26quot; good luck :)
now you just need to recognize when you%26#039;re doing it and stop it..
i%26#039;ll try to find some links for ya..
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/鈥?/a>
hope this helps..it details how you can fix things yourself..|||There are hundreds of self help books... head to your local Library. Just by asking this question proves you are a person who is very worthy... most peolpe go through life never trying to improve themselves. You have a promising future... good luck :)|||well no your personality will always be. but you can change certain behaviors. focus on the behavior instead of suppressing yourself. loving yourself is a personal battle, you can practice being more assertive by putting yourself in situations that need it.|||theirs more websites to look at.|||you can read websites and %26quot;expert advice%26quot; all day and probably get something out of it. ultimately though you should be aware it is a choice, like most everything. you are entirely equipped at this moment to be the person you want to be. %26quot;cogito, ergo sum%26quot; good luck :)
Is it possible to change your personality completely?
If so how long would it take and what steps would you have to take?|||Not at all. There are some things you can never change. For those who think that they have changed already, you%26#039;ve only suppressed one part of yourself and revealed the other. Alteration can happen at a certain level, some parts of your personality can be altered but not the whole of it. Personality is formed by different components. One is a biological INHERITED component such as the chances of getting schizophrenia, being a depressive (having MDD) person, part of your intelligence, and even your likelihood of getting divorced. Back in class we studied the case of two twins called the Jim Twins. The case study was done at the university of Minnesota by Thomas Bouchard. These twins were reared apart and only met after 40 years of their birth. Both had been nail biters and fretful sleepers. Both had migraines. Both had married first wives names Linda, second wives named Betty. Lewis named his first son James Allen, Springer named his James Alan. For years, they both had taken holidays on the same Florida beach. They both drank Miller Lite, smoked Salem cigarettes, loved stock car racing, disliked baseball, left regular love notes to their wives, made doll furniture in their basements, and had added circular white benches around the trees in their backyards. Their IQs, habits, facial expressions, brain waves, heartbeats, and handwriting were nearly identical. The Jim twins lived apart but died on the same day, from the same illness.That is the power of your genes, it%26#039;s something that you have almost no control over. Moreover your personality is developed greatly in your childhood. The slightest things back then have formed a whole matrix called your personality. Unless you%26#039;re a prodigy like none other you can not completely dissolve and reconstruct your personality. However you can change your behavior and the way your personality is expressed. It shouldn%26#039;t be too hard to change your behavioral patterns, it would take around a few months. The first step is deciding to change. Once you decide to change your behavior you can then plan out the behavior you are working to get. Once you have that imagine in your mind, compare it to your current self and start by drawing plans on how to become that image. A clinical psychologist would be of a great help in that instrumental change. If you are a teenager, then just let yourself be, you%26#039;ll change without even pulling a finger.|||Well, I was able to, it took me a few years but I was able to escape most of my depression by keeping myself on a constant sugar rush and always acting happy and crazy. I guess it depends on how you were raised and what your first personality was.|||yeah change your metaphysical outlook if you see differently you will have something different to react to and you will also be different.
or
be continually objective and simply choose random personality traits to display. although this will be a facade whereas the metaphysical change will affect the real you!|||Take it one day and a time.
or
be continually objective and simply choose random personality traits to display. although this will be a facade whereas the metaphysical change will affect the real you!|||Take it one day and a time.
Can you change your personality to be outgoing?
I feel like my introverted and shy nature is ruining my life and preventing me from making friends. How can I become a naturally outgoing person?|||You simply cannot change your entire personality all at once, or even overnight. It%26#039;s a gradual process. If you try to change too much at once, you can end up startling yourself and retreating right back to square one.
Baby steps! Try one thing at a time. You have to become accustomed to the changes you%26#039;re making to your own behavior. For example, this week you could start off by complimenting one random person per day. What does this accomplish? Well, obviously you%26#039;re working on becoming more outgoing, so the more you get used to talking openly with random people, the less you%26#039;ll worry about it and it will eventually not be such a big deal anymore. Secondly, you%26#039;re brightening a random person%26#039;s day. If they were in a bad mood before you said something nice to them, you could potentially turn their day around. Or, if they were having a good day, your nice comment can make it that much better. See? It%26#039;s win-win.
I could go on and on... but I%26#039;ll stop for now and let you decide what you want to do from here. If you%26#039;d like any other suggestions, just ask!|||Be friendly. Be generous. And be a %26quot;social butterfly%26quot; All it is to be out going, is to have a positive out look on life and try and ONLY see the positive in people. Cheer them up, if they are down. It is just being a person who cares really... and who knows such things, as the golden rule....
Really, just be kind.... be expressive but most of all be you... do not under any circumstance be a conformist if it conflicts with your values and/or morality.|||As an introverted person myself, you can learn to socialize, but as far as being outgoing, there isn%26#039;t anything you can, or should want to do.
Our society makes it out to be that the only way to be happy is partying with lots of friends, one night stands getting drunk and doing drugs and going out and being plain stupid. Introverted people normally enjoy solidarity because we don%26#039;t see the point in all that stupid crap. We are perfectly happy with being with a select few friends and doing the things we enjoy.
You just have to learn to be happy with who you are, if you can;t be happy as an introvert than you would never make it as an extrovert when you have all the abuse, using, drama and fighting it comes with.|||Well, if you are introverted and shy naturally, then you can not become a naturally outgoing person. You can become outgoing but it won%26#039;t be natural for you to do so, it will be a learned and forced behavior.
Having said that, you will just have to get started. Start by joining some clubs, or athletic events, something where there is a lot of ppl, and they are doing the same things that you like to do. Then it will be easier to start up conversations and seem relaxed and natural. After some initial success with talking to ppl, you will become more relaxed, and it will show. Next thing you know, you will be a naturally self made extrovert! You can do it!|||It%26#039;s pretty impossible to change your actual personality. If that were possible, then there would be perfect little clones everywhere. But shyness is more of a self-esteem issue, too. Maybe you don%26#039;t feel comfortable with people because you aren%26#039;t used to social interaction. Maybe when you were very young, something happened that made you withdraw into yourself. First, address the reason why you are shy. Then, find ways to improve self-esteem and social styles. In the morning, smile in the mirror and list everything that%26#039;s great about you.
Think to yourself-Today is going to be a great day, I won%26#039;t let anything get in my way. I%26#039;m going to make new friends. Roll your shoulders back, put your chin up and walk around with a slight smile in your eyes. If you see someone by themselves, go over to them and begin with an ice-breaking interaction. Make more friends and over time, you will become more comfortable with people.
Good luck!|||Well that is you individuality as a unique person but you can flex. Help yousdelf by gradually doing what extroverts do. Mingle with people and be open to new experiences of the outgoing life!
Baby steps! Try one thing at a time. You have to become accustomed to the changes you%26#039;re making to your own behavior. For example, this week you could start off by complimenting one random person per day. What does this accomplish? Well, obviously you%26#039;re working on becoming more outgoing, so the more you get used to talking openly with random people, the less you%26#039;ll worry about it and it will eventually not be such a big deal anymore. Secondly, you%26#039;re brightening a random person%26#039;s day. If they were in a bad mood before you said something nice to them, you could potentially turn their day around. Or, if they were having a good day, your nice comment can make it that much better. See? It%26#039;s win-win.
I could go on and on... but I%26#039;ll stop for now and let you decide what you want to do from here. If you%26#039;d like any other suggestions, just ask!|||Be friendly. Be generous. And be a %26quot;social butterfly%26quot; All it is to be out going, is to have a positive out look on life and try and ONLY see the positive in people. Cheer them up, if they are down. It is just being a person who cares really... and who knows such things, as the golden rule....
Really, just be kind.... be expressive but most of all be you... do not under any circumstance be a conformist if it conflicts with your values and/or morality.|||As an introverted person myself, you can learn to socialize, but as far as being outgoing, there isn%26#039;t anything you can, or should want to do.
Our society makes it out to be that the only way to be happy is partying with lots of friends, one night stands getting drunk and doing drugs and going out and being plain stupid. Introverted people normally enjoy solidarity because we don%26#039;t see the point in all that stupid crap. We are perfectly happy with being with a select few friends and doing the things we enjoy.
You just have to learn to be happy with who you are, if you can;t be happy as an introvert than you would never make it as an extrovert when you have all the abuse, using, drama and fighting it comes with.|||Well, if you are introverted and shy naturally, then you can not become a naturally outgoing person. You can become outgoing but it won%26#039;t be natural for you to do so, it will be a learned and forced behavior.
Having said that, you will just have to get started. Start by joining some clubs, or athletic events, something where there is a lot of ppl, and they are doing the same things that you like to do. Then it will be easier to start up conversations and seem relaxed and natural. After some initial success with talking to ppl, you will become more relaxed, and it will show. Next thing you know, you will be a naturally self made extrovert! You can do it!|||It%26#039;s pretty impossible to change your actual personality. If that were possible, then there would be perfect little clones everywhere. But shyness is more of a self-esteem issue, too. Maybe you don%26#039;t feel comfortable with people because you aren%26#039;t used to social interaction. Maybe when you were very young, something happened that made you withdraw into yourself. First, address the reason why you are shy. Then, find ways to improve self-esteem and social styles. In the morning, smile in the mirror and list everything that%26#039;s great about you.
Think to yourself-Today is going to be a great day, I won%26#039;t let anything get in my way. I%26#039;m going to make new friends. Roll your shoulders back, put your chin up and walk around with a slight smile in your eyes. If you see someone by themselves, go over to them and begin with an ice-breaking interaction. Make more friends and over time, you will become more comfortable with people.
Good luck!|||Well that is you individuality as a unique person but you can flex. Help yousdelf by gradually doing what extroverts do. Mingle with people and be open to new experiences of the outgoing life!
How do you change your personality to become funny?
i want to be sarcastic or funny. i have no friends and i want to be cool, how do i change myself from socially awkward to cool?
also how do i get rid of stage fright. my stomach twists and turns in fear|||Put a little red ball on the end of your nose.|||comes naturally.
i used to be a nerdish in 3rd grade?. popular nerd, but still.
sarcasm just came along with getting older.
;)|||don%26#039;t worry so much.. you shouldn%26#039;t have to change yourself to be %26#039;cool%26#039;.. just be you.. if someone doesn%26#039;t think youre cool enough the way you are then, they%26#039;re definetly not worth worrying about :p
just dont try too hard!
and as far as the stage fright.. once again don%26#039;t let it get to you.. just be you.. theres nothing you can do to change who you are.. you%26#039;ll always be you! so everyone%26#039;s just gotta like you or hate you.. and YOU have to live with it...
:)|||you don%26#039;t need to be the class clown to make friends. Sometimes if you overdue it not only will no one ever take you seriously, but they%26#039;ll be laughing at you, not with you. My suggestion is to just start talking to people and just see what you have in common. If you want to be funny, share experiences you have had in your life which are now seen as funny.|||there is no reall way to change your personality just be yourselff, and eventuallly your funny part of you will come out.|||Yeah I was kinda a cool nerd too things like that just come to you and when you want to say somthing just say it without thinking, thinking just messes up everything|||It艣 not that easy to change your personality. You shouldn麓t be something you are not. If you want to make friends, just like ask a question to someone next to you. Then you can start a conversation. And then introduce yourself after you have warmed up to them.|||You should buy a joke-book and read jokes and you might get into it and that should help a little to become more funny. And with the stage fright,act like there is no one there and your just alone, or if that doesn%26#039;t work , think that everyone is in their underwear and being more embaressed than you. I hope everything works out well. =)|||Sarcasm can backfire quickly. Funny is good, but not at the expense of others%26#039; feelings. Tell funny stories that have actually happened to you (not gossip about others).|||When people are talking to you pay attention to every word they say. Stay sharp and be quick-witted. I used to be a lot more shy. Just break out of your shell. Introduce yourself to people. I always tell myself, %26quot;what%26#039;s the worst thing that can happen? Either a person will be kind to you or snub you.%26quot; In the end it%26#039;s always beneficial to introduce yourself to people and find out what your common interests are. That%26#039;s how you build relationships.|||Well don%26#039;t change your attitude completely then you might loose friends. Like if someone does something really dumb or idiotic than crack some hilarious joke about that stupid incident. Soon enough you%26#039;ll be a pro at it. Also about the stage fright thing I have that to but there just people don%26#039;t be afraid of them unless you have a fear of people which would just be toetally odd.
Wish you luck
Wish you luck
also how do i get rid of stage fright. my stomach twists and turns in fear|||Put a little red ball on the end of your nose.|||comes naturally.
i used to be a nerdish in 3rd grade?. popular nerd, but still.
sarcasm just came along with getting older.
;)|||don%26#039;t worry so much.. you shouldn%26#039;t have to change yourself to be %26#039;cool%26#039;.. just be you.. if someone doesn%26#039;t think youre cool enough the way you are then, they%26#039;re definetly not worth worrying about :p
just dont try too hard!
and as far as the stage fright.. once again don%26#039;t let it get to you.. just be you.. theres nothing you can do to change who you are.. you%26#039;ll always be you! so everyone%26#039;s just gotta like you or hate you.. and YOU have to live with it...
:)|||you don%26#039;t need to be the class clown to make friends. Sometimes if you overdue it not only will no one ever take you seriously, but they%26#039;ll be laughing at you, not with you. My suggestion is to just start talking to people and just see what you have in common. If you want to be funny, share experiences you have had in your life which are now seen as funny.|||there is no reall way to change your personality just be yourselff, and eventuallly your funny part of you will come out.|||Yeah I was kinda a cool nerd too things like that just come to you and when you want to say somthing just say it without thinking, thinking just messes up everything|||It艣 not that easy to change your personality. You shouldn麓t be something you are not. If you want to make friends, just like ask a question to someone next to you. Then you can start a conversation. And then introduce yourself after you have warmed up to them.|||You should buy a joke-book and read jokes and you might get into it and that should help a little to become more funny. And with the stage fright,act like there is no one there and your just alone, or if that doesn%26#039;t work , think that everyone is in their underwear and being more embaressed than you. I hope everything works out well. =)|||Sarcasm can backfire quickly. Funny is good, but not at the expense of others%26#039; feelings. Tell funny stories that have actually happened to you (not gossip about others).|||When people are talking to you pay attention to every word they say. Stay sharp and be quick-witted. I used to be a lot more shy. Just break out of your shell. Introduce yourself to people. I always tell myself, %26quot;what%26#039;s the worst thing that can happen? Either a person will be kind to you or snub you.%26quot; In the end it%26#039;s always beneficial to introduce yourself to people and find out what your common interests are. That%26#039;s how you build relationships.|||Well don%26#039;t change your attitude completely then you might loose friends. Like if someone does something really dumb or idiotic than crack some hilarious joke about that stupid incident. Soon enough you%26#039;ll be a pro at it. Also about the stage fright thing I have that to but there just people don%26#039;t be afraid of them unless you have a fear of people which would just be toetally odd.
Wish you luck
Wish you luck
What are some effective ways to completely change your personality?
I want to know how to enjoy being social, instead of doing it because i force myself.|||You cannot completely change your personality, but once you are decided to become more sociable, you can start by setting some simple goals in social situations; then gradually work towards more difficult ones. You don%26#039;t need to force yourself through these goals.
For example, you can start by smiling at people you have seen before and find them quite pleasant-looking, or you don%26#039;t know them but have enjoyed a short chat with them before.
Then gradually work towards the eventual goal of being the first person to start the ball rolling in a group/party situation. In between, there should be heaps of intermediate goals for you to set and work on.|||try doing it slowly, building a good social network requires time, and due to your nature you%26#039;ll end up only with the right kind of ppl...only good friends, share interests (my experience)
care about others feelings, call them once a week, or whatever makes you comfortable...youll see you grow addicted to them in time :D
if you do it slowly you wont beforcing, get to know your friends friends
best of luck!|||I don%26#039;t know if you can totally change your personality - but if you want to be more social, maybe start by saying hi to a few people you work with or associate with. Ask how their day is, how their weekend was, etc. Slowly but surely a few conversations will develop. If you put interest in others, you will appear to be more social and they will appreciate your attempt at breaking out of your shell and will also appreciate the fact that you are taking an interest in them.
Take baby steps and maybe choose one or two people and have coffee with them. You%26#039;ll be surprised at how much your comfort level will increase.
I%26#039;m not good socially in large groups, but I%26#039;m starting to be more social with smaller ones by doing what I told you to.
If you force yourself in a social situation, you%26#039;re withdrawal will only deepen I think. So start small with things you are comfortable with.|||Why would you want to change your personality completely? That is part of who you are!
Don%26#039;t get caught up along the way, with not knowing who you are anymore.
Are you trying to please others? Or are you trying to be happy? Believe me, changing who you are completely to me is not such a good idea if you don%26#039;t know what you are doing.
I believe in adjustments in some parts of our personalities if we feel the need to for whatever reasons.
Be yourself when socializing; humor, being positve, honesty, intelligence, and being real are all factors that contribute to social intellect.
Hope this helps!|||you CANNOT change your personality, LOL, you can only modify your actions! If you%26#039;re an innate INNIE or OUTIE, then well that%26#039;s how you%26#039;re biologically wired, say you%26#039;re an innie (introvert) and you want to learn to socialize more well, you%26#039;re still going to be drained from the interaction, but at least you%26#039;re making an attempt, which is fine. If you%26#039;re an OUTTIE )extrovert) and you want to learn how to be comfortable being by yourself, or do more INTROSPECTION (which is waht INNIES do) then you%26#039;ll take the time more to do so, but it still drains you, you can only change you actions, not your personlity. there%26#039;s nothing wrong with you, unless you have a mood disorder or an anxiety disorder or schizophrenia|||first you have to have your life in order and love yourself. Loving yourself is the most important thing that you do. Be yourself when you go out, show people your heart and the rest will follow.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey through life.|||There is the inscape, what is going on inside of you and the outscape, what is going on, on the outside of you. Your inscape can change the outscape and the outscape your inscape.
So if you are totally involved with something, an interest or a hobby. Your socialising will become almost incidental. At first you may have to force yourself to walk up to someone. giving that person a greeting and looking straight into their eyes. When you ask, how are you doing? Mean it.
Your enjoyment will come, because people will find you absorbing and interesting. Even if at times you are so absorbed that you seem a little preoccupied.To understand your inscape, you need to think in terms of a landscpe. It has a fixed patern that you can remember. Our personalities are like that. I%26#039;m not saying that once you have planned your night out, down to the ninth degree. That you should then go off and do the opposite. But this does give some of the gist of where i am going with this.
You will always be you, but certain tweaks can give you a whole new dimension. Be sincere, encouraging and kind to others. Although it is often used derogatively, we are in worlds of our own. So let your special inner worldliness be your place. At first you will have to force yourself. But you will realise it%26#039;s worth it,when you see the tonic it has given your outer worldliness. Your immediate social circle and beyond.|||ACT!
Act at first impulse.
Say your tghouts right at the moment.
Smile!
Be happy!
Be positive!
For example, you can start by smiling at people you have seen before and find them quite pleasant-looking, or you don%26#039;t know them but have enjoyed a short chat with them before.
Then gradually work towards the eventual goal of being the first person to start the ball rolling in a group/party situation. In between, there should be heaps of intermediate goals for you to set and work on.|||try doing it slowly, building a good social network requires time, and due to your nature you%26#039;ll end up only with the right kind of ppl...only good friends, share interests (my experience)
care about others feelings, call them once a week, or whatever makes you comfortable...youll see you grow addicted to them in time :D
if you do it slowly you wont beforcing, get to know your friends friends
best of luck!|||I don%26#039;t know if you can totally change your personality - but if you want to be more social, maybe start by saying hi to a few people you work with or associate with. Ask how their day is, how their weekend was, etc. Slowly but surely a few conversations will develop. If you put interest in others, you will appear to be more social and they will appreciate your attempt at breaking out of your shell and will also appreciate the fact that you are taking an interest in them.
Take baby steps and maybe choose one or two people and have coffee with them. You%26#039;ll be surprised at how much your comfort level will increase.
I%26#039;m not good socially in large groups, but I%26#039;m starting to be more social with smaller ones by doing what I told you to.
If you force yourself in a social situation, you%26#039;re withdrawal will only deepen I think. So start small with things you are comfortable with.|||Why would you want to change your personality completely? That is part of who you are!
Don%26#039;t get caught up along the way, with not knowing who you are anymore.
Are you trying to please others? Or are you trying to be happy? Believe me, changing who you are completely to me is not such a good idea if you don%26#039;t know what you are doing.
I believe in adjustments in some parts of our personalities if we feel the need to for whatever reasons.
Be yourself when socializing; humor, being positve, honesty, intelligence, and being real are all factors that contribute to social intellect.
Hope this helps!|||you CANNOT change your personality, LOL, you can only modify your actions! If you%26#039;re an innate INNIE or OUTIE, then well that%26#039;s how you%26#039;re biologically wired, say you%26#039;re an innie (introvert) and you want to learn to socialize more well, you%26#039;re still going to be drained from the interaction, but at least you%26#039;re making an attempt, which is fine. If you%26#039;re an OUTTIE )extrovert) and you want to learn how to be comfortable being by yourself, or do more INTROSPECTION (which is waht INNIES do) then you%26#039;ll take the time more to do so, but it still drains you, you can only change you actions, not your personlity. there%26#039;s nothing wrong with you, unless you have a mood disorder or an anxiety disorder or schizophrenia|||first you have to have your life in order and love yourself. Loving yourself is the most important thing that you do. Be yourself when you go out, show people your heart and the rest will follow.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey through life.|||There is the inscape, what is going on inside of you and the outscape, what is going on, on the outside of you. Your inscape can change the outscape and the outscape your inscape.
So if you are totally involved with something, an interest or a hobby. Your socialising will become almost incidental. At first you may have to force yourself to walk up to someone. giving that person a greeting and looking straight into their eyes. When you ask, how are you doing? Mean it.
Your enjoyment will come, because people will find you absorbing and interesting. Even if at times you are so absorbed that you seem a little preoccupied.To understand your inscape, you need to think in terms of a landscpe. It has a fixed patern that you can remember. Our personalities are like that. I%26#039;m not saying that once you have planned your night out, down to the ninth degree. That you should then go off and do the opposite. But this does give some of the gist of where i am going with this.
You will always be you, but certain tweaks can give you a whole new dimension. Be sincere, encouraging and kind to others. Although it is often used derogatively, we are in worlds of our own. So let your special inner worldliness be your place. At first you will have to force yourself. But you will realise it%26#039;s worth it,when you see the tonic it has given your outer worldliness. Your immediate social circle and beyond.|||ACT!
Act at first impulse.
Say your tghouts right at the moment.
Smile!
Be happy!
Be positive!
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