not in terms of career but in terms of personality. how to change your habits , and be more cool, and courageous.
i know its a long term process, its not easy but something you think might help! or if you know a good link, excersie or book that might be useful.|||I think it is wonderful that we have ways and means to change ourselves and mature into the kind of people we want to be. This process is quite often, unfortunately, left to nature by a lot of people.
The way to start this wonderful journey is to find a happy balance, between what it is that you want to become (Your destiny) and the realistic utilization of your physical resources (The ways and means of reaching this destiny.)
First of all you need to visualize the kind of person you wish to become. While you are doing this, you also need to look at your strenghts and weaknesses, to analyze the reality of your goal. Can you achieve this?
Then you have to prepare for this journey by accepting the fact that it may be a long and hard road ahead. And that you are going to have to make some sacrifices of time, some physical and mental exertions which you had not done in the past.
So start by writing down your final goal, and then work your way backwards by breaking up your journey in small parts. Again writing down these smaller steps by fixing a time frame for each step.
Remember that even a journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. So that you don%26#039;t give up along the way, you must make sure that each and every step of this journey is so interesting that it will make you want to continue forward. This is very important. You need to write down all the specifics of what you want to achieve at each and every step, no matter how silly and meaningless it may seem to you at the time. This is extremely important to help you achieve your own dream.
No matter what, you must never lose sight of your final goal. The type of person you wish to become some day. You need to etch this image into your memory for ever and one day you will become this person. Sooner than you think!|||personally, you%26#039;ll find better results if you are physically appealing....this allows the persons or person to feel more easily approachable ( so exercise is a help......but don%26#039;t be too stressed on the subject) the thing that has saved my life a few times is charm.....its really nothing special. When talking to other people....just be a relaxed version of yourself and refrain from doing anything physically unappealing to the other people that would set them off beat....in terms of changing a personality...you can%26#039;t......you can groom one...with time. some of the times its also good to consult a close friend who has a trait that u like. but the best thing is, is to really be yourself because truthfully there are a lot of people out in the world who are pretending to be what their not....and one can%26#039;t help but to feel a hollowness to the joy he/ she has when doing so ..... well anyway, hope this helped..
-ookami|||Find a role model and ask yourself what they would do in a situation. Kind of like the What Would Jesus Do? question. Instead, I ask myself What Would Bob Do? If Bob was my role model because I thought Bob was a really decent guy and did things like buy homeless people food even though he was living paycheck to paycheck himself. And say I wanted to be courages like Margaret because she would run into traffic to save a child. I%26#039;d ask myself What Would Margaret Do? Then I%26#039;d do those things.
Basically, think of what you want and then do it. But two rules. You can%26#039;t change everything overnight, like you said, it%26#039;s a process. And if you mess up, don%26#039;t beat yourself up, just get back up and try again.
Good luck!|||The first step is to look at yourself completely honestly; consider your flaws and strengths and how others react to the way you act. Try to find out why you act the way you do and try to decide how you might change it. You should aim to change the underlying cause of your behaviour, not simply the behaviour itself.|||By *doing* what it takes to make positive changes and accepting that Rome wasn%26#039;t built in a day per say - so self-patience is required. We didn%26#039;t learn how to spell on the first day of school and to expect that would be *being* an impatient person. To expect a teacher to teach at that pace would be nuts.
When we are born we have no positive habits ...except of course that we are all born cute as button ...seems to be a freebie ; ) Babies are reliant on their parents, family, environment though and rightfully so they can%26#039;t *do* much. It isn%26#039;t long after that that we begin to notice that others are coaxing us to a bit more civil, caring/sharing, accepting in responsibility, and self-reliant each step we take. Some invite consequences into their life by not accepting that. I%26#039;ve seen children fight guidance from their parents and seek out validation from others for negative behavior well into their adult lives(personal waste of time). It is the assumption that getting away with shirking personal responsibility(bad habit) will create positive and is = to chasing a healthy wild bird and expecting to catch it. Now that%26#039;s definately blowing things out of proportion aka: arrogance. But...that doesn%26#039;t mean people %26quot;can%26#039;t%26quot; change because there is always the opposite available concerning mind, body, and spirit even if the person chose to put too much or all of their time into being a stinker and so blew positive off during their childhoods and/or adulthoods due to *doing* rejection and non-acceptance - which are not positive habits.
One Example: Grumpy? Spread some cheer...will you age with graceful smile lines or frowny wrickles? After all a smile is a frowned turned upside down =( ~~~~~%26gt; : )
Smiling is good for the soul and so by *doing* affects attitude - just like frowns/gloom. Nope life will never be absent of times where a frown has it%26#039;s rightful place but let%26#039;s not blow that of proportion.
