i%26#039;d like to be more caring, equal, accepting, and unjealous. can i achieve this and how? i really do want to.|||You should never have to change who you are. And you will find that it is very hard to change the way you have been all your life. But you can change the things you do. For example, if you want to be more caring, pull your friends to your shoulder when they cry, talk to your parents late in the night when they need it, or simply hold the door open for a stranger walking out of a restraunt. you will find that over time, you will do this without thinking about it.|||no|||It takes time, patience, ambition, endurence, passion, and inspiration. It%26#039;s hard to change who you are. But you can.|||I think you can change your _behavior_ and be more caring, equal, accepting and unjealous. As you see rewards for changing those _behaviors_, perhaps your feelings/personality will fall into line behind it.|||I don%26#039;t believe that this is something you can achieve overnight, but if you work on it then yes, you can change! Really wanting to change means that you have already started to change. What you need to do is try to think about what you are saying and doing, and make a concious effort to change what you don%26#039;t like about it. Telling yourself that you want to be more caring towards other people isn%26#039;t going to do anything until you actually act on that. Yes, changing your personality is very possible and within reach, and anybody who says that it isn%26#039;t must not understand that the sky is the limit, and you can be any person you want to be.|||Try counselling|||A technique works on becoming those from the core may be
%26quot;to see the suffering of the others.%26quot;
The basic premise is that we all want happiness, but don%26#039;t always know the best way to be happy and stay happy.
Technique: when you look into the person%26#039;s eyes, deeply and gently you%26#039;ll see that the person is suffering from wanting the same thing but not getting it or got it but afraid to lost it.
Then, you%26#039;ll feel sadness for everyone involved and spontaneously feel more caring. The sense of equality happens instead of hostility.
Though, not always easy to be accepting from there on or unjealous, but by thinking how the other suffer (from jealousy, resentment or lack of sleep, tiredness, losing something they like...etc.) like you do, more space to work with your emotions and could sympathize the others%26#039; point of view. And then your own natural virtuous qualities will develop slowly but progressively.
Your personality will change and becoming more caring and please don%26#039;t expect reciprocation. People will notice you%26#039;re changing.
Wish this helps.
