How long does it take to change your whole personality?And how do you do it?
I would like to change my personality-my thoughts,some of my beliefs and perceptions, the way i talk and interact with people. The reason for this is because there are many(not exaggerating) serious flaws in my personality and i have kept off doing something about it-as a result i developed some negative ways of thinking and behaviour.
Please help!|||Personality comes from the word persona. Our persona%26#039;s are not really who we are deep down. They are profiles or personalities we cling to and attach our self to give us a meaning. So, to answer you Q, it can be changed. Have you seen people to travel to other countries, become different than they were before. They think differently, their beliefs change. They %26#039;see%26#039; the other side and realize they were living in a prison of their minds all along. If you acknowledge what it is that you want to change and change it for the better. Become a better version of you.
Good luck !|||All your Life. Please study a lot|||Probably varies for different people. Check out ego death, it seems to be a good starting place: www.egodeath.com/
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ego_death|||The answer is; The same amount of time as it takes to become an alcoholic. If you just want short term personality change then just binge drink ;p|||A Lifetime. Only once each Lifetime. When you finally get it right - You will not have to do it again.|||there%26#039;s no time limit set so-to-speak. I know almost exactly what you%26#039;re going through because I%26#039;m sick of the way I%26#039;ve been and I just don%26#039;t want to be like I am the rest of my life. You have to take it one day at a time, little things like your work ethic and then just work your way up until you%26#039;re satisfied as to how you live your life. if you need any advice or someone to talk to in depth I%26#039;m here. oh
P.S. I%26#039;m just a junior in H.S. but I%26#039;ve been through a lot.|||u can never change ur personality its who u r as a person! just think positive and it will make a diff,every1 has flaws ur not alone...........u need 2 express ur feelings 2 understand!|||it takes in a quick minute, by my surroundings|||You cannot change your personality, only your behaviour.
There are a couple of good books that will help if you want to understand yourself and others. Lateral Thinking by Eduard de Bono and Psychology For Dummies by Adam Cash. Ignore the odd title of the last book, it really is full of useful tips which you will find intriguing.|||List the changes desired then practice, practice, practice and more practice daily - the time for each individual is different, so continue until satisfied.|||So, I see no answer for how long it takes...
It takes 21 days to replace a habit on purpose with another habit. Without the drive to replace the habit it can take from 3 to 10 times longer to have a habit that is not being used to change on its own... but the first time you snap back into the old habit, the time to replace starts all over again.
I recommend picking up 2 books and reading them or listening to them on tape from the library; Please Understand Me 1%26amp;2. They deal with the Keirsey personality test, such as this Overview of Keirsey%26#039;s Four Temperaments; http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
Temperament is a configuration of observable personality traits, such as habits of communication, patterns of action, and sets of characteristic attitudes, values, and talents. It also encompasses personal needs, the kinds of contributions that individuals make in the workplace, and the roles they play in society. Dr. David Keirsey has identified mankind%26#039;s four basic temperaments as the Artisan, the Guardian, the Rational, and the Idealist.
Each temperament has its own unique qualities and shortcomings, strengths and challenges. What accounts for these differences? To use the idea of Temperament most effectively, it is important to understand that the four temperaments are not simply arbitrary collections of characteristics, but spring from an interaction of the two basic dimensions of human behavior: our communication and our action, our words and our deeds, or, simply, what we say and what we do.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Guardians%26quot; are the cornerstone of society, for they are the temperament given to serving and preserving our most important social institutions. Guardians have natural talent in managing goods and services--from supervision to maintenance and supply -- and they use all their skills to keep things running smoothly in their families, communities, schools, churches, hospitals, and businesses.
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%26quot;Idealists%26quot;, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self -- always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination. And they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=ke鈥?/a>
%26quot;Artisans%26quot; are the temperament with a natural ability to excel in any of the arts, not only the fine arts such as painting and sculpting, or the performing arts such as music, theater, and dance, but also the athletic, military, political, mechanical, and industrial arts, as well as the %26quot;art of the deal%26quot; in business.
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%26quot;Rationals%26quot; are the problem solving temperament, particularly if the problem has to do with the many complex systems that make up the world around us. Rationals might tackle problems in organic systems such as plants and animals, or in mechanical systems such as railroads and computers, or in social systems such as families and companies and governments. But whatever systems fire their curiosity, Rationals will analyze them to understand how they work, so they can figure out how to make them work better.
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While I Thank You my Spiritual Brother Fredric, I can only take credit for forgetting to add the URL I got most of the information from... Then again, these books helped me many years ago. Here are the URL%26#039;s in the source box. Anyone who desires a treat should read some of Sir Fredric%26#039;s Poems sometime.
Be sure to check out the URL%26#039;s for all I showed here is the first paragraph or two...
.|||i was going to answer your question but after reading what my friend orpheus wrote i%26#039;ll just shut up and go back to sleep|||You can%26#039;t possibly change your entire personality. Something as complex and ingrained as that can%26#039;t simply be changed. It%26#039;s much easier to address your flaws than to address all of you. Perhaps the fact that you have such negative ways of thinking has led you to believe that you have major flaws. Maybe you aren%26#039;t as bad as you seem to think you are (chicken or the egg?) and you need to reflect on yourself before you undergo something so radical. There must be someone who accepts you for who you are, even if it%26#039;s not you yet.|||as long as it takes a giant squid to change a light bulb...|||Well the first thing is - you really need to want to change.
It can take weeks, months or even years to change your whole personality. At the of this process you will no longer the person you once were. Are you sure you need to go to that extreme?
I suggest concentrating on what you think are your greatest flaws first. If you have put off doing something about it then procrastination is one of your flaws (you are not alone.) To minimise this I would suggest developing self-discipline. Don%26#039;t worry this isn%26#039;t as bad or as hard as it sounds!
You can start developing your self-discipline by buying, reading and doing the exercises in the below book. The book is %26quot;Self Discipline In 10 days.%26quot; It is actually 12 days to do it. A day to do preparation section and a day on review section. Tip: Do the whole preparation section in one sitting as you will naturally resist yourself!
