I'm being told by a friend that i need to be less outgoing and rowdy. She says that she enjoys me better when i'm mysterious and less %26quot;loud%26quot; what is the best way to act to draw the lovely ladies in? im not bad looking but i tent to be slightly loud in a public setting (football games, dances, school in general)
Advice?
Please no %26quot;just act yourself, you cant help change your personality%26quot; type answers. thanks!
How to act around teenage girls?
It all depends on the type of guy the girl likes. Some girls like outgoing types others like the more quiet types. You can't change your personality completely and act the way a girl wants you to act.
For me I like guys who are mysterious and outgoing. Yet, at the same time is caring, kind, and funny. All girls have different ideas of the %26quot;perfect%26quot; guy.
Being rowdy can be a negative for mostly all girls. As the other answerer said, be mature. Girls like that.
How to act around teenage girls?
show them ur big penises every girl in hs and middle school are total slutz
Yea, if your rowdy.. i imagine how that could be annoying,
you should act more mature.. then girls may be more likely to approach you.
i don't like when guys are loud either =/
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I personally go after the loud outgoing type. everyone has a different type, maybe she just likes the quiet mysterious type. haha sorry to use the word %26quot;type%26quot; so much x]
It's okay to be loud sometimes, it's your personality. But don't overdo it, that's when it gets annoying. Let someone else have the spotlight sometimes. Be nice and smile to the ladies, complement them every now and then 1 or 2 times a week.
just think about life(in general), then you start to day dreaming at school events then girls will wonder what u r thinking and fall for you. Or think about random unimportant stuff then your mind will wander...
some girls like loud and rowdy. im one of those girls.
but if your a little bit more quiet and are more mysterious more girls will be attracted to youu.
trust me on this one.
i have a guy like you and then a mysterious type guy in one of my classes and i find all the girls looking at the mystery guy more often just cause he seems so......i cant even think of a word.
hbahaha
hope i helped
=]
Tbh, you should be quiet at relivent times, like if u r in school, at the cinema etc. but when your out and about, you can be as loud as you like.
dont act a certain way to make girls like you, just act like you would at any time tbh, im not meaning act yourself, just dont fake who u are...
Different girls like different types of boys :)
Hope i help :)
i think i'd agree with your friend, but don't be too quiet, make sure you still have a laugh too. but don't totally change yourself just to please others.
Wednesday 26 October 2011
My b/f is mad at me because I dont stick up for myself and is tired of my complainig how people treat me.?
Now he is in a bad mood and doesnt feel like speaking with me. This has been a problem in the past and I am trying to work on my actions, but we all know that it is hard to change your personality and I really am slowly getting better. How do I get him to start talking to me again?
My b/f is mad at me because I dont stick up for myself and is tired of my complainig how people treat me.?
Raise your self esteem .. take a risk .. stick up for yourself and stop complaining .. complaining hardly ever changes anything .. it just causes more headaches for the person that's listening to you
My b/f is mad at me because I dont stick up for myself and is tired of my complainig how people treat me.?
Raise your self esteem .. take a risk .. stick up for yourself and stop complaining .. complaining hardly ever changes anything .. it just causes more headaches for the person that's listening to you
How many people here think Lady Gaga is a pretentious con artist?
Just curious because I find it odd that earlier videos of her make her seem like a blonde pop star bimbo from a rich New York family but newer ones show an arrogant so called self proclaimed performing artist.
Here's what I mean:
Old interviews:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k7e3dLcCVU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWF3GhS_WQA
New interviews:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxHTtNWdAns%26amp;feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xlAOx9op_M
Oh and don't give me crap about how she has grown as an artist because you don't change your personality that quick in one year. Fame has and will always show that she is an arrogant *****.
Furthermore,what's her point of constantly name dropping respected and well known artist especially ones from the 70s ans 80s to seem culturally relevant and edgy. She is no different from any hipster in Williamsburg.
Also, no responses that kiss her sorry *** and make her seem like some premier artist or saint.
How many people here think Lady Gaga is a pretentious con artist?
It's not a big step from blonde pop star bimbo from a rich New York family to arrogant self proclaimed (you can't be so called self proclaimed actually unless you're suggesting she isn't self proclaimed) performing artist.
That aside... IT'S POP MUSIC! It's not going to put a stamp on cultural history, the whole thing about pop culture is exactly that it lacks culture and only lasts until people get tired of you. I don't care how she acts and you should really set interviews aside from her music. Unless you are the type of person who lets an artist's personal life and attitude influence whether or not you like the music they make. Because I sure don't, or I wouldn't have been a fan of U2 ages ago. Not to mention the Who.
So let it go, I don't give a **** what this woman is like and I doubt that a lot of people do. So why do you?
How many people here think Lady Gaga is a pretentious con artist?
Dude, I don't like her either--but %26quot;pop star%26quot; and %26quot;con artist%26quot; are pretty much synonymous these days, which is why popular music has gone down the drain. People will change their image or try to be as %26quot;edgy%26quot; or %26quot;controversial%26quot; or whatever it takes to get more more more attention and sell more more more albums. Lady Gaga is particularly annoying because some people are stupid enough to actually believe her short-bus %26quot;fashion%26quot; (pure crap, although I can imagine her abs must be in great shape from she and all of her handlers laughing their a**es off about their %26quot;artistic statement%26quot; of the day) and pretentious interviews are genuine expression and not highly manufactured and deliberate media manipulation. Like you said, any glimpse of her past shows that %26quot;oops, my singer-songwriter schtick didn't work, and neither did my original nose, so I guess I'll get some plastic surgery, go blonde, and try being edgy to see if that gets me more attention!%26quot; Marilyn Manson did all the same kind of spectacle and nonsense a few years ago, the only difference being he is actually a pretty smart dude and acknowledges that the persona is a media act, whereas Gaga keeps the verbal diarrhea flowing like she's actually soooo deeeeeep. Gag-gag.
But, let's face it. Anyone with a fourth-grade understanding of culture knows she is not an artist, rather a con artist, but she is not alone. Britney played a naughty school girl, and when the sexy teen novelty wore off, she put on a nude bodysuit and a boa, and then made out with Madonna, etc. etc. Katy Perry tried for years and years to release an album as a songwriter and then decided to come up with that turd %26quot;I Kissed a Girl%26quot; hoping that the pseudo-lesbianism and controversy would get her a career, and it worked. All 3 of them can sing as good as any American Idol, fine, but the collective musical talent pool there is a fat zero. But fame-w**ring? A + + +. At least for the next 15 minutes.1 web hosting take advice fron me
Here's what I mean:
Old interviews:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k7e3dLcCVU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWF3GhS_WQA
New interviews:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxHTtNWdAns%26amp;feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xlAOx9op_M
Oh and don't give me crap about how she has grown as an artist because you don't change your personality that quick in one year. Fame has and will always show that she is an arrogant *****.
Furthermore,what's her point of constantly name dropping respected and well known artist especially ones from the 70s ans 80s to seem culturally relevant and edgy. She is no different from any hipster in Williamsburg.
Also, no responses that kiss her sorry *** and make her seem like some premier artist or saint.
How many people here think Lady Gaga is a pretentious con artist?
It's not a big step from blonde pop star bimbo from a rich New York family to arrogant self proclaimed (you can't be so called self proclaimed actually unless you're suggesting she isn't self proclaimed) performing artist.
That aside... IT'S POP MUSIC! It's not going to put a stamp on cultural history, the whole thing about pop culture is exactly that it lacks culture and only lasts until people get tired of you. I don't care how she acts and you should really set interviews aside from her music. Unless you are the type of person who lets an artist's personal life and attitude influence whether or not you like the music they make. Because I sure don't, or I wouldn't have been a fan of U2 ages ago. Not to mention the Who.
So let it go, I don't give a **** what this woman is like and I doubt that a lot of people do. So why do you?
How many people here think Lady Gaga is a pretentious con artist?
Dude, I don't like her either--but %26quot;pop star%26quot; and %26quot;con artist%26quot; are pretty much synonymous these days, which is why popular music has gone down the drain. People will change their image or try to be as %26quot;edgy%26quot; or %26quot;controversial%26quot; or whatever it takes to get more more more attention and sell more more more albums. Lady Gaga is particularly annoying because some people are stupid enough to actually believe her short-bus %26quot;fashion%26quot; (pure crap, although I can imagine her abs must be in great shape from she and all of her handlers laughing their a**es off about their %26quot;artistic statement%26quot; of the day) and pretentious interviews are genuine expression and not highly manufactured and deliberate media manipulation. Like you said, any glimpse of her past shows that %26quot;oops, my singer-songwriter schtick didn't work, and neither did my original nose, so I guess I'll get some plastic surgery, go blonde, and try being edgy to see if that gets me more attention!%26quot; Marilyn Manson did all the same kind of spectacle and nonsense a few years ago, the only difference being he is actually a pretty smart dude and acknowledges that the persona is a media act, whereas Gaga keeps the verbal diarrhea flowing like she's actually soooo deeeeeep. Gag-gag.
But, let's face it. Anyone with a fourth-grade understanding of culture knows she is not an artist, rather a con artist, but she is not alone. Britney played a naughty school girl, and when the sexy teen novelty wore off, she put on a nude bodysuit and a boa, and then made out with Madonna, etc. etc. Katy Perry tried for years and years to release an album as a songwriter and then decided to come up with that turd %26quot;I Kissed a Girl%26quot; hoping that the pseudo-lesbianism and controversy would get her a career, and it worked. All 3 of them can sing as good as any American Idol, fine, but the collective musical talent pool there is a fat zero. But fame-w**ring? A + + +. At least for the next 15 minutes.
I'm 16 i'm under-confident!! :(?
hi i'm 16 (male).
is there anything i can do to make myself feel a bit more confident? it's been getting me a bit down lately because i keep feeling a bit smaller than everyone else.
at college, we do a thing where we've gotta show our work to the group and talk about it. after a few seconds of myself talking about it, i feel my face go hot and i know i'm turning red with embarrassment. i hate it. i think if i never went red it'd be a lot better.
also, at college, we had to have tutor interviews (like when they tell you how everythings going and ask questions about the future...), after she said i was doing well and i felt happy and a bit more confident, she said to me %26quot;one more thing, do you think there's any way you can be a bit more err louder and join in more?%26quot;. i felt really bad then and i just said to her %26quot;i'd like to be%26quot;. I don't know why she said that because how are you meant to change your personality overnight? I don't in anyway want to try and be someone I'm not. Yep, i'd like to be a bit louder, but I can't.
I do talk to quite a few people at college, but it's usually whenever they've spoke to me first. I can be funny and I don't really consider myself to be a horrible person.
in the future, i'd absolutely love to be a newscaster (news reader). I know you need a lot of experience, but that's where i'd love to see myself in the future. but, i know i won't make it that high because i am under-confident.
but, will i always be like this? because I really don't want to be! :(
cheers in advance.
also... sorry the question is a bit like an essay, and i didn't know what category to put it in... so it's mens health lol.
I'm 16 i'm under-confident!! :(?
hello,
you seem to want to mingle more with peers around you and be a good public speaker...i'll give you some advice... hopefully it will help
firstly, you should be %26quot;out there%26quot;.. so don't stand back and watch... give it a go even though you're not great at it... so if there's any group activity, you should try suggesting things and if teacher asks the class anything, put you hand up :D
secondly, i did debating and this dramatically,,, let me repeat... DRAMATICALLY!!! improved my public speaking... when you first start it though it can get a bit freaky cuz you are pressured to do well but after a while, you'll become ownage at it and also, joining debating and othe co curricular activities will help you form stronger friendship among the people attending the one that you are doing.
Thirdly, dont talk softly or act shy... cuz people will think something is wrong with you... you should talk with a strong voice and confidently... then people will understand you clearly and won't think you have some issues
and the best advice is to smile... smiling can lift up the way a person judges you so yea.. dont have an emo look or anything, just be cool, calm and happy :D
hopefully this helped cuz im 16 as well and i have over 200 friends on msn and stuff so im very out there :) well, good luck!
I'm 16 i'm under-confident!! :(?
what can i say man u just have to believe in yourself and be more confident , stop worrying about what other people think about you just do what you want............hahah im 16 too
Remember, confidence comes with self knowledge. Knowledge about yourself is one key to the puzzle. The more you know about yourself the more confident you will be around others. Put yourself in positions that you normally wouldn't get into. This will allow you to learn. Realizing that you are under-confident and shy in certain circumstances may mean you are not prepared.
Most of the time we are way too critical about ourselves. Remember to say %26quot;fuc it%26quot; sometimes, don't worry so much, and when it comes down to it we are shy because of other people. Take a close look at those people around you. They are not perfect either. If they expect you to be then they probably need another kick to the face. Help them out.
is there anything i can do to make myself feel a bit more confident? it's been getting me a bit down lately because i keep feeling a bit smaller than everyone else.
at college, we do a thing where we've gotta show our work to the group and talk about it. after a few seconds of myself talking about it, i feel my face go hot and i know i'm turning red with embarrassment. i hate it. i think if i never went red it'd be a lot better.
also, at college, we had to have tutor interviews (like when they tell you how everythings going and ask questions about the future...), after she said i was doing well and i felt happy and a bit more confident, she said to me %26quot;one more thing, do you think there's any way you can be a bit more err louder and join in more?%26quot;. i felt really bad then and i just said to her %26quot;i'd like to be%26quot;. I don't know why she said that because how are you meant to change your personality overnight? I don't in anyway want to try and be someone I'm not. Yep, i'd like to be a bit louder, but I can't.
I do talk to quite a few people at college, but it's usually whenever they've spoke to me first. I can be funny and I don't really consider myself to be a horrible person.
in the future, i'd absolutely love to be a newscaster (news reader). I know you need a lot of experience, but that's where i'd love to see myself in the future. but, i know i won't make it that high because i am under-confident.
but, will i always be like this? because I really don't want to be! :(
cheers in advance.
also... sorry the question is a bit like an essay, and i didn't know what category to put it in... so it's mens health lol.
I'm 16 i'm under-confident!! :(?
hello,
you seem to want to mingle more with peers around you and be a good public speaker...i'll give you some advice... hopefully it will help
firstly, you should be %26quot;out there%26quot;.. so don't stand back and watch... give it a go even though you're not great at it... so if there's any group activity, you should try suggesting things and if teacher asks the class anything, put you hand up :D
secondly, i did debating and this dramatically,,, let me repeat... DRAMATICALLY!!! improved my public speaking... when you first start it though it can get a bit freaky cuz you are pressured to do well but after a while, you'll become ownage at it and also, joining debating and othe co curricular activities will help you form stronger friendship among the people attending the one that you are doing.
Thirdly, dont talk softly or act shy... cuz people will think something is wrong with you... you should talk with a strong voice and confidently... then people will understand you clearly and won't think you have some issues
and the best advice is to smile... smiling can lift up the way a person judges you so yea.. dont have an emo look or anything, just be cool, calm and happy :D
hopefully this helped cuz im 16 as well and i have over 200 friends on msn and stuff so im very out there :) well, good luck!
I'm 16 i'm under-confident!! :(?
what can i say man u just have to believe in yourself and be more confident , stop worrying about what other people think about you just do what you want............hahah im 16 too
Remember, confidence comes with self knowledge. Knowledge about yourself is one key to the puzzle. The more you know about yourself the more confident you will be around others. Put yourself in positions that you normally wouldn't get into. This will allow you to learn. Realizing that you are under-confident and shy in certain circumstances may mean you are not prepared.
Most of the time we are way too critical about ourselves. Remember to say %26quot;fuc it%26quot; sometimes, don't worry so much, and when it comes down to it we are shy because of other people. Take a close look at those people around you. They are not perfect either. If they expect you to be then they probably need another kick to the face. Help them out.
United States Military Academy? I'll gives stars to ppl w/ good answers.?
Answer this good and I'll give you stars and all those other points.
What kind of uniform do you wear?
When do you wear those gray uniforms?
What are the exact hair length requirements?
Do you have bathroom privacy?
Do you have any privacy?
Does everyone have to play a sport?
Physical requirements, how to be prepared?
How do you study late at night?
Do they go through your things when you get there?
Is it possible to sneak in personal things?
Will going there change your personality, for better or worse?
How are there science programs?
What are my options about medical school?
What do I do after I graduate?
What jobs are there related to the health field?
How is the education compared to Ivy leagues?
Exactly how much money will I have when service is up?
How much of my graduate college will they pay for?
United States Military Academy? I'll gives stars to ppl w/ good answers.?
You will get more replies if you ask each question one by one.
What kind of uniform do you wear?
When do you wear those gray uniforms?
What are the exact hair length requirements?
Do you have bathroom privacy?
Do you have any privacy?
Does everyone have to play a sport?
Physical requirements, how to be prepared?
How do you study late at night?
Do they go through your things when you get there?
Is it possible to sneak in personal things?
Will going there change your personality, for better or worse?
How are there science programs?
What are my options about medical school?
What do I do after I graduate?
What jobs are there related to the health field?
How is the education compared to Ivy leagues?
Exactly how much money will I have when service is up?
How much of my graduate college will they pay for?
United States Military Academy? I'll gives stars to ppl w/ good answers.?
You will get more replies if you ask each question one by one.
Can someone advice me?
when you fall in love with someone and you really dont know what you want from that.....you just and only care for that person and want to be with him in what ever way and whatever form.....you do all things possible to attract him towards you you just get hooked to him and dont know where it trails.........on his one word one suggestion one comment you change your personality completely as he said......when all you do is not going right and you see he is not on your side........when you know he does not want you and he just does not care but still you keep doing crazy things dont know what you want from there.........you get stubbornly hooked and he goes away in woods.........you feel empty without him and do all the things to attract him you just cannot cannot get over him.........
.why am i acting so helpless so needy so despirate so stubborn I was a very cheerful happy go lucky girl sometime......but now i feel lonely friendless and so low and cheap and with no will no self esteem.........what is it in him that makes me so much want him..........why cannot i throw this feeling when i know he is just in love with me........why do i still have faith and belief and this stubborn strong feelings in my trueness of love.........whom am i proving this why am i doing this
i lie to everyone do all the nasty baseless cheap things for him.......but i just just cannot lie to him........and he does not even care or desire and he just does not value that. why how what who.......should i talk to how can i break this chain and this loop......
i honestly feel deeply for him........and i know i can live without he being physically there for me.........then why am i torturing myself with this cyclic contiuous pain..of being hurt by his uncaring emotional game.........and i really really love him but in vein
Can someone advice me?
Congratulations, you are in whats known as %26quot;Puppy Love%26quot; or %26quot;Infatuation%26quot;. You'll get over it given time, might be 3 hours, might be 3 months, but you WILL get over it.
You'll discover that you're in REAL love when you wake up one day, think %26quot;How in the heck did I get here with this guy? But he's not so bad...%26quot; when you reach this point, then you'll know you're in love.
Can someone advice me?
You have to talk to this guy that your in love with and tell him about everything you have just said right now.
And tell him your sick off his games and if he feels the same way and then just go home and go in your room with a tub of ice cream waiting for him to call or msg but you can't call or msg but if you then your showing him that you are weak and that he can keep playing those games so wait and if he does not msg or call you leave him because that means HE'S INTO YOU.
.why am i acting so helpless so needy so despirate so stubborn I was a very cheerful happy go lucky girl sometime......but now i feel lonely friendless and so low and cheap and with no will no self esteem.........what is it in him that makes me so much want him..........why cannot i throw this feeling when i know he is just in love with me........why do i still have faith and belief and this stubborn strong feelings in my trueness of love.........whom am i proving this why am i doing this
i lie to everyone do all the nasty baseless cheap things for him.......but i just just cannot lie to him........and he does not even care or desire and he just does not value that. why how what who.......should i talk to how can i break this chain and this loop......
i honestly feel deeply for him........and i know i can live without he being physically there for me.........then why am i torturing myself with this cyclic contiuous pain..of being hurt by his uncaring emotional game.........and i really really love him but in vein
Can someone advice me?
Congratulations, you are in whats known as %26quot;Puppy Love%26quot; or %26quot;Infatuation%26quot;. You'll get over it given time, might be 3 hours, might be 3 months, but you WILL get over it.
You'll discover that you're in REAL love when you wake up one day, think %26quot;How in the heck did I get here with this guy? But he's not so bad...%26quot; when you reach this point, then you'll know you're in love.
Can someone advice me?
You have to talk to this guy that your in love with and tell him about everything you have just said right now.
And tell him your sick off his games and if he feels the same way and then just go home and go in your room with a tub of ice cream waiting for him to call or msg but you can't call or msg but if you then your showing him that you are weak and that he can keep playing those games so wait and if he does not msg or call you leave him because that means HE'S INTO YOU.
Girls: How can i be more conservative and lady-like?
Well first off a description of me. I'm loud, can get very annoying, immature, outgoing, thrill seeker/dare devil, spontaneous, short-shorts wearing girl with a horrible sense of style. But i really want to be more conservative...you know, like reserved, well styled, lady-like, mysterious, effortless, classy, %26quot;less is more%26quot; and not all in your face kinda girl. I know that you can't change your personality but....i don't know, i get embarrassed by the way i act. And i'm 16 by the way :] so you could imagine. Please, someone must have advice for me!
Girls: How can i be more conservative and lady-like?
I think you'd do well by watching Pretty Woman and My Fair Lady, as both of these movies are about young, boisterous women who face changing their appearance and personality to become more sophisticated. They show a positive way to mix your natural exuberance with etiquette.
Beyond that, changing your clothes is easy. Look for clothing that isn't too revealing or tight. Consider taking a class that will teach you some kind of discipline, whether it's a class in etiquette, ballroom dancing, jazz dance, or horseback riding. All of these things require disciplining your mind and body to succeed which will teach you how to control yourself in other aspects of your life.
Don't forget, a lady is also confident and loves herself. If you're the crazy girl amongst your friends then be proud and learn to harness your naturally fun persona.
Girls: How can i be more conservative and lady-like?
lil b - violate that *****_
You can get many books at stores like Barnes and Noble about etiquette and class, or look it up on the internet. Or, just ask yourself %26quot;what would Audrey Hepburn do?%26quot; or Carla Bruni, or any classy lady. Watch some old movies, where women acted more classy and learn from them. Like Breakfast at Tiffanys. As for style, avoid stores like Love Culture and Wet Seal, and get books from the library about Givenchy, and designers, and then when shopping look for clean cut items that resemble those of high fashion.
i was kind of the same way back in middle school.
i would recommend changing your wardrobe slightly. maybe try wearing more skirts and blouses with necklaces and flats. check out places like forever 21 and charlotte rousse next time you're at the mall. they're both very lady-like and still very fashionable. also try toneing down make-up. i'm not sure how much you wear but maybe only wear alittle maskara and blush. that way you can still be outgoing but it's seen more in a %26quot;cute/girly%26quot; kind of way.
everything you say you are , be opposite ? lol but only change yourself if you really really want to change . don't do it because you feel like you have to or should . if you're unhappy the way you are now , then change until you feel like you're perfect . if you want to change your style , pick a few celebrity role models , look at how they dress , then start dressing similar to that . being classy takes practice , you won't just be good at it over night . if you have something obnoxious to say , try keeping it in your head . don't be in everyone's faces . well , good luck ! (:
study ingrid bergman and audrey hepburn
It really sets you apart to have class these days as a woman
most girls speak trashy dress trashy and dance trashy
don't gossip be kind but it's important to not become a snob
just add some of those characteristics to yourself and dismiss the ones you dont like
but dont try to become someone else because originality is much more lady like then being a carbon copy of someone else
Girls: How can i be more conservative and lady-like?
I think you'd do well by watching Pretty Woman and My Fair Lady, as both of these movies are about young, boisterous women who face changing their appearance and personality to become more sophisticated. They show a positive way to mix your natural exuberance with etiquette.
Beyond that, changing your clothes is easy. Look for clothing that isn't too revealing or tight. Consider taking a class that will teach you some kind of discipline, whether it's a class in etiquette, ballroom dancing, jazz dance, or horseback riding. All of these things require disciplining your mind and body to succeed which will teach you how to control yourself in other aspects of your life.
Don't forget, a lady is also confident and loves herself. If you're the crazy girl amongst your friends then be proud and learn to harness your naturally fun persona.
Girls: How can i be more conservative and lady-like?
lil b - violate that *****_
You can get many books at stores like Barnes and Noble about etiquette and class, or look it up on the internet. Or, just ask yourself %26quot;what would Audrey Hepburn do?%26quot; or Carla Bruni, or any classy lady. Watch some old movies, where women acted more classy and learn from them. Like Breakfast at Tiffanys. As for style, avoid stores like Love Culture and Wet Seal, and get books from the library about Givenchy, and designers, and then when shopping look for clean cut items that resemble those of high fashion.
i was kind of the same way back in middle school.
i would recommend changing your wardrobe slightly. maybe try wearing more skirts and blouses with necklaces and flats. check out places like forever 21 and charlotte rousse next time you're at the mall. they're both very lady-like and still very fashionable. also try toneing down make-up. i'm not sure how much you wear but maybe only wear alittle maskara and blush. that way you can still be outgoing but it's seen more in a %26quot;cute/girly%26quot; kind of way.
everything you say you are , be opposite ? lol but only change yourself if you really really want to change . don't do it because you feel like you have to or should . if you're unhappy the way you are now , then change until you feel like you're perfect . if you want to change your style , pick a few celebrity role models , look at how they dress , then start dressing similar to that . being classy takes practice , you won't just be good at it over night . if you have something obnoxious to say , try keeping it in your head . don't be in everyone's faces . well , good luck ! (:
study ingrid bergman and audrey hepburn
It really sets you apart to have class these days as a woman
most girls speak trashy dress trashy and dance trashy
don't gossip be kind but it's important to not become a snob
just add some of those characteristics to yourself and dismiss the ones you dont like
but dont try to become someone else because originality is much more lady like then being a carbon copy of someone else
My gf asked me why im shy around other people and basically told me to become more social but idk how?
this is my gf and i first year of college and i have always been a shy guy thats just how i am. last night she asked me why im shy around other people and why i cant act around others the way i act around her. its because im comfortable around her and my friends. i cant shut up when im with them but im just not the center of attention its not me. she said i just want you to but dont change your personality. i feel like she wants me to be who im not and it bugs me when she tells me to change.
My gf asked me why im shy around other people and basically told me to become more social but idk how?
drink alcohol.
that will make you seem like someone else but it's actually all you.
My gf asked me why im shy around other people and basically told me to become more social but idk how?
Take a course in personal development.
I would try to slowly repeat the social process and become more comfortable to it.
tell your gf you dont like her pressuring you 2 do something that isnt you.
i'm shy too :) but my bf understands this and he's amazing :D
tell her to shut the F@ck up
That's pretty bold of her to demand you to change who you are. A person like that is never good to be with. I would leave her while you still have a chance.
be yourself, dont worry about the critics. but sooner or later in life you will have to learn to be at least a little bit social with strangers. it just seems to be the way things work.
wow shes trying to change u.
eff her!
Behavior in relationships derives from feelings. Your self assessment is that you are shy, especially around other people. I am assuming your girlfriend's assesment of your behavior has more to do with her feelings than yours. There are distinct personality types. I would surmise that you are an Introvert and perhaps your girl friend is an Extrovert. Discuss with her the importance of this issue to her and to you. You can change a specific behavior without changing your personality. This is best achieved with the appropriate motivation. Does she have behaviors that are irksome or bothersome to you? If so, negotiation and compromise are the key that unlocks a successful relationship that works for both of you. It does take %26quot;Two to Tango%26quot;, as it were. There must be give and take on the part of both parties.good online schools email
My gf asked me why im shy around other people and basically told me to become more social but idk how?
drink alcohol.
that will make you seem like someone else but it's actually all you.
My gf asked me why im shy around other people and basically told me to become more social but idk how?
Take a course in personal development.
I would try to slowly repeat the social process and become more comfortable to it.
tell your gf you dont like her pressuring you 2 do something that isnt you.
i'm shy too :) but my bf understands this and he's amazing :D
tell her to shut the F@ck up
That's pretty bold of her to demand you to change who you are. A person like that is never good to be with. I would leave her while you still have a chance.
be yourself, dont worry about the critics. but sooner or later in life you will have to learn to be at least a little bit social with strangers. it just seems to be the way things work.
wow shes trying to change u.
eff her!
Behavior in relationships derives from feelings. Your self assessment is that you are shy, especially around other people. I am assuming your girlfriend's assesment of your behavior has more to do with her feelings than yours. There are distinct personality types. I would surmise that you are an Introvert and perhaps your girl friend is an Extrovert. Discuss with her the importance of this issue to her and to you. You can change a specific behavior without changing your personality. This is best achieved with the appropriate motivation. Does she have behaviors that are irksome or bothersome to you? If so, negotiation and compromise are the key that unlocks a successful relationship that works for both of you. It does take %26quot;Two to Tango%26quot;, as it were. There must be give and take on the part of both parties.
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
i am havig thoughts about the culture clash when I was out with my date, she was latina, people would make rude comments, but i don't know if they were racist if there are certain ways i should act to be more 'culturally aware' around the latins, I mean I donnt know exactly what Im supposed to do, I know spanish and i have darker skin,,so sometimes i can pass as a spainard, It seems they treat me a lot better when I role play in this way, I wear differnt clothes, change my sense of humor, no sarcasm, more cuteness, and 'macho' humor, latinos don't get sarcasm mor self loathing humor for some reason, and i will kiss all the women i greet take a phony interset in soccer
has anyone been in a cross cultural relationship,,how much should you be expected to change your personality to please other people
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
who cares what others think, be yourself!
also whoever you date can't except that, than move on
latinos have a stereotype of being macho etc, but it doesn't mean they're all like that either...
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
No, I don't think they do.
well Latino men do seem more romantic and flirts.
Just my opinion but people think the same for me too but because I have been around alot of them I began to pick up an accent so then I look and sound like one. So if you hang out with a lot of them you will get that anyway. But be yourself why change?
Would you act that way around her family too?
To poster number 4 and counting me starting from the top.....he is a gentleman which is awesome and I was never raised that way either but whats wrong with cleaning and cooking?....ok I am old fashion maybe but I would be fine with that. (yes a flaw)
I love Chicano boys!!! HOT! but...... I have realized their culture treats women like S*!# Out of all the guys I know,.... the Mexican, hispanic, latino, spanish men all treat their women HORRIBLE. They cheat, and they usually end up being abusive. My best friend is Chicano and he says it's poison in their blood. :) It sucks for me because these are the hottest guys!
I don't think so. I'm married to one, he was very gentlemanly before I married him though! To a certain extent, yes, I've conformed to his way of doing things a LOT! I was expected to learn Spanish, cook Mexican food, and shoulder most, if not all of the housework. Don't get me wrong, he's a good person. He was just raised believing that it's supposed to be this way. I wasn't.
I don't think any culture treats any one better as a whole. Each person is an individual.
has anyone been in a cross cultural relationship,,how much should you be expected to change your personality to please other people
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
who cares what others think, be yourself!
also whoever you date can't except that, than move on
latinos have a stereotype of being macho etc, but it doesn't mean they're all like that either...
Do you think Latino men treat their women better,,,more gentlemanly?
No, I don't think they do.
well Latino men do seem more romantic and flirts.
Just my opinion but people think the same for me too but because I have been around alot of them I began to pick up an accent so then I look and sound like one. So if you hang out with a lot of them you will get that anyway. But be yourself why change?
Would you act that way around her family too?
To poster number 4 and counting me starting from the top.....he is a gentleman which is awesome and I was never raised that way either but whats wrong with cleaning and cooking?....ok I am old fashion maybe but I would be fine with that. (yes a flaw)
I love Chicano boys!!! HOT! but...... I have realized their culture treats women like S*!# Out of all the guys I know,.... the Mexican, hispanic, latino, spanish men all treat their women HORRIBLE. They cheat, and they usually end up being abusive. My best friend is Chicano and he says it's poison in their blood. :) It sucks for me because these are the hottest guys!
I don't think so. I'm married to one, he was very gentlemanly before I married him though! To a certain extent, yes, I've conformed to his way of doing things a LOT! I was expected to learn Spanish, cook Mexican food, and shoulder most, if not all of the housework. Don't get me wrong, he's a good person. He was just raised believing that it's supposed to be this way. I wasn't.
I don't think any culture treats any one better as a whole. Each person is an individual.
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
Be forwarned that you should not even attempt to answer these if you have not seen the full series because these questions do contain spoilers.
1. Why did Lucy kill the director's son if he wanted to mate with her and create a new world of diclonius? I thought that was what she wanted all along?
2. Was there some kind of statement in the anime which told you what happens when a diclonius has it's horn taken off?
3. Did the new prosthetics added to that ruthless soldier (the one who wears shades and hates the diclonius) make him superhuman or was he already like that since when he acquired the new prosthetics, he seemed to be jumping around like spiderman a lot more?
4. I don't get it, was Nana really Kurama's daghter or was he just acting as a father figure toward her to keep her state of mind stable? So was his daughter really the most powerful diclonius(Can't remember the name)
5. Did Kurama commit suicide with his daughter in the end of the anime because he had took the lives of other people's children which were diclonius in the past but he never had the heart to kill his own so he felt selfish? And did he kill himself as well as his daughter because he felt too selfish to stay alive?
6. What was your most disturbing/difficult to watch scene? Mine was when the boys were bashing the puppy to death, I found that really hard to watch but I did. In fact any scene where Mayu's(I think that's her name, I mean that runaway girl) puppy was in danger or any scene where those boys were abusing Lucy was really difficult to watch, but I did.
7. What does Lucy and Khotda kissing those blank dummies in the intro symbolise?
8. Did you cry at any scenes in this? If so, what were they and how sad would you rate them on a scale of 1 - 10? 1 being the least saddest and 10 being the most saddest.
9. I know it's just an anime but don't you think it's strange how the diclonius in this anime have been isolated all their life with no education and can actually verbally construct a sentence when talking to someone?
10. What happened to that man that I mentioned in question 3 at the end of the anime?
11. Why did Lucy have that helmet on at the start of the anime? It's a wonder, especially since the other diclonius didn't have any on?
12. How were the director of the diclonius facility and his son watered down diclonius'? Did they only have slight traces of diclonius DNA inide them when they were born?
13. What happened to Mayu's(runaway girl) original father?
14. What happened to Lucy in the scene when the soldiers started to shoot at her offscreen and her other horn came off in the final episode?
15. This is possibly my biggest query; I just didn't get the ending. What happened to Lucy in the scene where the soldiers shot at her and her horn was shot off in the final episode? Why did the clock start working when the silhouette appeared at the entrance of the house and was that silhouette Lucy? How did she survive when the soldiers shot her horn off? Can't the diclonius not use their vectors when they're in pain and getting her horn shot off would hurt like hell since I think she was knocked unconscious when she got her first one taken off!?
16. Why did she go to the soldiers near the end of the final episode when she could have easily escaped with Khotda ?
17. Did this anime deeply touch your heart, change your personality and give you a whole new perspective on life? What would you give it out of 10 and give it a small review please?
Than you very much for answering these questions!
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
It's been a while since I watched it and some of your questions are a little tricky, so my answers might be more opinion than fact. ^^;
1. I think she might have wanted to do all that alone and not be like the trophy bride of the person who managed it. That, or she was pissed that he kidnapped and drugged her...
2. Not that I recall, no...
3. Pretty sure that was with the help of his prothetics.
4. Nana was Kurama's adopted daughter since his real daughter was kept locked up because she was so insanely powerful. And yes, the creepy one with a billion vectors was his real daughter.
5. I think he killed himself with his daughter out of guilt and shame for what she had become as well as out of guilt for not killing her sooner, which led to her living a horrible life and killing several people.
6. A lot of that anime was hard to watch, but I can't remember the worst part because whatever it was has been overshadowed by Higurashi no Naku Koro Ni.
7. Good question...
8. The saddest part for me was when Lucy killed Kouta's family.
9. It's called %26quot;suspension of disbelief%26quot;. Just go with it. XP
(Though I bet they are also super smart or something, so they might just pick up on things faster than the average person)
10. Uh... I have no clue... :/ Bet he died or something.
11. I think it was so she couldn't see so she'd have more trouble attacking. Or just be calmer. It's been proven that animals and people don't struggle as much when their eyes are covered.
12. It's because the gene isn't as strong in men, so they just turn into carriers (not talking about the people who are touched by a vector. The carriers were born diclonius, but by being male, nothing really happened).
13. He molested her, she ran off. There's nothing more said. If you're an optimist, he was arrested. If you're a pessimist, he raped more little girls.
14. I didn't understand that part, honestly... But I heard that only her horn came off and no other injury came to her.
15. I didn't understand the ending... :/
16. Probably to be 100% sure he escaped and/or show she was a good person. And maybe it was her plan to have them shoot off her horn. Idk...
17. I'd have to say a 7 or an 8 overall. It was good, but there were some slow parts (I almost stopped watching...) and the ending was very confusing (though I tend to like those kinds of endings a little more than the kind that spell everything out).
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
I can only answer some of the questions so here it goes!
#2. Most Diclonius die after having their horns taken off.
#4.Nana wasn't his daughter i guess he felt and kind of sentiment towards her.
#6. The puppy scene almost made me cry i thought it was horrible.
#7. The whole intro was a tribute to the painting %26quot;The Kiss%26quot; by Gustav Klimt.
I personally think this is an anime where you have to watch it more than once to understand some of it. I loved this series and it seems that you did too! :)
1. she doesn't need his help to do this or so she claimed.
2. no it is just implied by the results that they lose their power. or could it be one of lucy's tricks.
3. he was near the peak of human ability when he 1st appeared his prosthetics havenot done much his arm is stronger and he has better vision and thats about it.
4. no he acts as her farther to keep her stable and have better control over her and as pennance for killing his real daughter.
5. kurama dies in the final episode of the anime as he cradles Mariko in his arms aftr setting off he bomb in her.
6. no problems for me.
7. no idea
8. nope
9. you learn to speak through passive learning and in the compound they must be taught some stuff because they can act like normal people.
10. he dies protecting mayu from lucy
11. i hink it was used to demonise lucy so people watching it know thats shes evil from the start
12. they are the product of cross breeding between humans and diclonius over time the diclonius blood became very thined by the human blood
13. no idea either left or died
14. cant remember
15. no idea
16. mayby by staying with khotda she gains some humanity or something
17. 10/10
1. Why did Lucy kill the director's son if he wanted to mate with her and create a new world of diclonius? I thought that was what she wanted all along?
2. Was there some kind of statement in the anime which told you what happens when a diclonius has it's horn taken off?
3. Did the new prosthetics added to that ruthless soldier (the one who wears shades and hates the diclonius) make him superhuman or was he already like that since when he acquired the new prosthetics, he seemed to be jumping around like spiderman a lot more?
4. I don't get it, was Nana really Kurama's daghter or was he just acting as a father figure toward her to keep her state of mind stable? So was his daughter really the most powerful diclonius(Can't remember the name)
5. Did Kurama commit suicide with his daughter in the end of the anime because he had took the lives of other people's children which were diclonius in the past but he never had the heart to kill his own so he felt selfish? And did he kill himself as well as his daughter because he felt too selfish to stay alive?
6. What was your most disturbing/difficult to watch scene? Mine was when the boys were bashing the puppy to death, I found that really hard to watch but I did. In fact any scene where Mayu's(I think that's her name, I mean that runaway girl) puppy was in danger or any scene where those boys were abusing Lucy was really difficult to watch, but I did.
7. What does Lucy and Khotda kissing those blank dummies in the intro symbolise?
8. Did you cry at any scenes in this? If so, what were they and how sad would you rate them on a scale of 1 - 10? 1 being the least saddest and 10 being the most saddest.
9. I know it's just an anime but don't you think it's strange how the diclonius in this anime have been isolated all their life with no education and can actually verbally construct a sentence when talking to someone?
10. What happened to that man that I mentioned in question 3 at the end of the anime?
11. Why did Lucy have that helmet on at the start of the anime? It's a wonder, especially since the other diclonius didn't have any on?
12. How were the director of the diclonius facility and his son watered down diclonius'? Did they only have slight traces of diclonius DNA inide them when they were born?
13. What happened to Mayu's(runaway girl) original father?
14. What happened to Lucy in the scene when the soldiers started to shoot at her offscreen and her other horn came off in the final episode?
15. This is possibly my biggest query; I just didn't get the ending. What happened to Lucy in the scene where the soldiers shot at her and her horn was shot off in the final episode? Why did the clock start working when the silhouette appeared at the entrance of the house and was that silhouette Lucy? How did she survive when the soldiers shot her horn off? Can't the diclonius not use their vectors when they're in pain and getting her horn shot off would hurt like hell since I think she was knocked unconscious when she got her first one taken off!?
16. Why did she go to the soldiers near the end of the final episode when she could have easily escaped with Khotda ?
17. Did this anime deeply touch your heart, change your personality and give you a whole new perspective on life? What would you give it out of 10 and give it a small review please?
Than you very much for answering these questions!
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
It's been a while since I watched it and some of your questions are a little tricky, so my answers might be more opinion than fact. ^^;
1. I think she might have wanted to do all that alone and not be like the trophy bride of the person who managed it. That, or she was pissed that he kidnapped and drugged her...
2. Not that I recall, no...
3. Pretty sure that was with the help of his prothetics.
4. Nana was Kurama's adopted daughter since his real daughter was kept locked up because she was so insanely powerful. And yes, the creepy one with a billion vectors was his real daughter.
5. I think he killed himself with his daughter out of guilt and shame for what she had become as well as out of guilt for not killing her sooner, which led to her living a horrible life and killing several people.
6. A lot of that anime was hard to watch, but I can't remember the worst part because whatever it was has been overshadowed by Higurashi no Naku Koro Ni.
7. Good question...
8. The saddest part for me was when Lucy killed Kouta's family.
9. It's called %26quot;suspension of disbelief%26quot;. Just go with it. XP
(Though I bet they are also super smart or something, so they might just pick up on things faster than the average person)
10. Uh... I have no clue... :/ Bet he died or something.
11. I think it was so she couldn't see so she'd have more trouble attacking. Or just be calmer. It's been proven that animals and people don't struggle as much when their eyes are covered.
12. It's because the gene isn't as strong in men, so they just turn into carriers (not talking about the people who are touched by a vector. The carriers were born diclonius, but by being male, nothing really happened).
13. He molested her, she ran off. There's nothing more said. If you're an optimist, he was arrested. If you're a pessimist, he raped more little girls.
14. I didn't understand that part, honestly... But I heard that only her horn came off and no other injury came to her.
15. I didn't understand the ending... :/
16. Probably to be 100% sure he escaped and/or show she was a good person. And maybe it was her plan to have them shoot off her horn. Idk...
17. I'd have to say a 7 or an 8 overall. It was good, but there were some slow parts (I almost stopped watching...) and the ending was very confusing (though I tend to like those kinds of endings a little more than the kind that spell everything out).
I have finally watched all of Elfen Lied, now I have some questions regarding it?
I can only answer some of the questions so here it goes!
#2. Most Diclonius die after having their horns taken off.
#4.Nana wasn't his daughter i guess he felt and kind of sentiment towards her.
#6. The puppy scene almost made me cry i thought it was horrible.
#7. The whole intro was a tribute to the painting %26quot;The Kiss%26quot; by Gustav Klimt.
I personally think this is an anime where you have to watch it more than once to understand some of it. I loved this series and it seems that you did too! :)
1. she doesn't need his help to do this or so she claimed.
2. no it is just implied by the results that they lose their power. or could it be one of lucy's tricks.
3. he was near the peak of human ability when he 1st appeared his prosthetics havenot done much his arm is stronger and he has better vision and thats about it.
4. no he acts as her farther to keep her stable and have better control over her and as pennance for killing his real daughter.
5. kurama dies in the final episode of the anime as he cradles Mariko in his arms aftr setting off he bomb in her.
6. no problems for me.
7. no idea
8. nope
9. you learn to speak through passive learning and in the compound they must be taught some stuff because they can act like normal people.
10. he dies protecting mayu from lucy
11. i hink it was used to demonise lucy so people watching it know thats shes evil from the start
12. they are the product of cross breeding between humans and diclonius over time the diclonius blood became very thined by the human blood
13. no idea either left or died
14. cant remember
15. no idea
16. mayby by staying with khotda she gains some humanity or something
17. 10/10
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
My big brother has always been my hero and role model in life. I've always been able to go to him for anything and he always knows the right thing to say. But lately, all he ever talks about is how much he smokes weed and how I better not go my whole life without smoking because he thinks it's just one of those life experiences. We'll I'm completely against drugs because I don't think anything should enter your body that's going to change your personality. He has completely changed since he started smoking weed. I really want my old big brother back. Is there anyway I can convince him to stop smoking? I miss the old him. :'(
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
naa you cant change him,,,you just have to be smart enough and grateful that he always gave you good advice,,,,because of your older bothers previous influence on you,,you are strong and smart enough to know that drugs are the wrong way to go,,,nobody is perfect, perhaps now he needs you to be a friend,,but don't play the big brother just be a friend... in other words don't tell him what not to do ,,,just be there 4 him
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
keep standing firm on your beliefs. You may not convince him, but don't let him swat you. I hear your sorrow, but it is his (bad) choice...sorry.
tell him all the side affects how much you love him get him a gf and how he might die and everyone is worried about him
First,
dont ever give up and
you might even convince him you should always tell him what should happen when hes not home through all his weed away
talk to him about how you fell about this and give him all the sideeffects on smoking and how he could die in a couple years now how your whole family fells about him.
i guess you are going to have to stand up for yourself now. i am sorry for your loss. gee, you could always make up a story and then say, oh i used to be able to go to you but now you are not any help at all. depends on how high he is at the time of the telling though. he really does not care about you now. sorry.
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
naa you cant change him,,,you just have to be smart enough and grateful that he always gave you good advice,,,,because of your older bothers previous influence on you,,you are strong and smart enough to know that drugs are the wrong way to go,,,nobody is perfect, perhaps now he needs you to be a friend,,but don't play the big brother just be a friend... in other words don't tell him what not to do ,,,just be there 4 him
Please help me. I don't know what to do...?
keep standing firm on your beliefs. You may not convince him, but don't let him swat you. I hear your sorrow, but it is his (bad) choice...sorry.
tell him all the side affects how much you love him get him a gf and how he might die and everyone is worried about him
First,
dont ever give up and
you might even convince him you should always tell him what should happen when hes not home through all his weed away
talk to him about how you fell about this and give him all the sideeffects on smoking and how he could die in a couple years now how your whole family fells about him.
i guess you are going to have to stand up for yourself now. i am sorry for your loss. gee, you could always make up a story and then say, oh i used to be able to go to you but now you are not any help at all. depends on how high he is at the time of the telling though. he really does not care about you now. sorry.
How much would you...?
want to weigh?
how tall would you want to be?
and would you change your personality?
How much would you...?
155 lbs, 6'2 no I have a great personality.
What I am now 180 lbs, 5'5 Personality is the same.
How much would you...?
What I would
133
5'11%26quot;
Yes I would
What I am
133
5'7%26quot;
Gangster/Jock
that is to much to write everyone wants to be different then what they are i mean come on if that was not true then we would not have plastic surgeons all over the place
145
5'9''(for basketball)
sure
i love my weight------103
i love my height-----5'1
and i love my personality because thats is apart of who i am.
weigh: 115 or 120 (i weigh 130)
height: 5'5 (i'm 5'6 1/2)
personality: be more funny!!!
You already know the answer
185 to 195 would like to be 6/1 I'm 5/11 would never change my personality i think that's the most important thing about a person
i would be the same and so would you vicki people like you for who you are and you dont need to change anything
nice and caring person...
i want to way....120 or 150...
i way 192 and im fat! so i will lose it....
i think im around 5.2 i not sure...really
but i want to be about 6.2 or so.
how tall would you want to be?
and would you change your personality?
How much would you...?
155 lbs, 6'2 no I have a great personality.
What I am now 180 lbs, 5'5 Personality is the same.
How much would you...?
What I would
133
5'11%26quot;
Yes I would
What I am
133
5'7%26quot;
Gangster/Jock
that is to much to write everyone wants to be different then what they are i mean come on if that was not true then we would not have plastic surgeons all over the place
145
5'9''(for basketball)
sure
i love my weight------103
i love my height-----5'1
and i love my personality because thats is apart of who i am.
weigh: 115 or 120 (i weigh 130)
height: 5'5 (i'm 5'6 1/2)
personality: be more funny!!!
You already know the answer
185 to 195 would like to be 6/1 I'm 5/11 would never change my personality i think that's the most important thing about a person
i would be the same and so would you vicki people like you for who you are and you dont need to change anything
nice and caring person...
i want to way....120 or 150...
i way 192 and im fat! so i will lose it....
i think im around 5.2 i not sure...really
but i want to be about 6.2 or so.
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
Ok i don't know what is wrong with me or is it just my imagination. My friends always get a boyfriend and then dump him and get a new one and dump him too and so on. When they are dating they always ask me who should they choose and should they break up with their boyfriend? But I'm the only one of them that hasn't had a boyfriend in a very long time. I'm just an average middle school girl, not fat and not too skinny, not ugly and not beautifull, not too popular but i have lots of friend. I can feel that lots of guys like me I like some of them too but they would never ask me out. Is all that a good thing or a bad thing am i always gonna be a friend that gives advice on how to build a relationship but never have one myself? I need some advice what should i do? And don't say like turn into a ho or change your hair color or change your personality because i want people like me for who I am
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe u just havent found a guy u really like, wait some time eventually youll find a guy u really like aned if he doesnt ask u out the you be the bold one and ask him out, u might just be a tad shy.
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe ask the guy out you never know what he would say ;)
just get urself out there, start dating, ask those guys who like you on a date
make urself known and speak ur mind
dont be shy
stand out
Well first thing you should do is that change your attitude or behavior, don't always act like well-wisher, try and look for your love. As you said that there are some guys to whom you have a crush.
Its not important that the other person loves you or not, what matters is that you love him. Try to express your love with him,share your thoughts it will help you a lot to find your prince.
If there is anyone very close to you and you love him badly then you should go ahead and propose him.
Change your lifestyle.Best of luck !vb myspace quotes
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe u just havent found a guy u really like, wait some time eventually youll find a guy u really like aned if he doesnt ask u out the you be the bold one and ask him out, u might just be a tad shy.
Need an advice!!!!!!!!!!?
maybe ask the guy out you never know what he would say ;)
just get urself out there, start dating, ask those guys who like you on a date
make urself known and speak ur mind
dont be shy
stand out
Well first thing you should do is that change your attitude or behavior, don't always act like well-wisher, try and look for your love. As you said that there are some guys to whom you have a crush.
Its not important that the other person loves you or not, what matters is that you love him. Try to express your love with him,share your thoughts it will help you a lot to find your prince.
If there is anyone very close to you and you love him badly then you should go ahead and propose him.
Change your lifestyle.Best of luck !
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
Maturity. I need to change. Man I cannot stress this enough. I WANT TO CHANGE!! NOT FOR THEM, FOR MYSELF!!! Ok. Thats outta my system. Well. I want to act more mature. I am a funny guy (I guess, people say I am) but sometimes I just act too crazy. I talk WAY to much. I yell things in class, people look at me funny. You get the point. My question is How do I shut the hell up, and calm the f*ck down? Lol. Excuse my computer lingo. Also how do you change your personality in such a way? I want to start thinking before I speak. But how do I go about that? It's like instinct for me to just blurt it out. I hope you were able to understand this. Thanks in advance.
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
Sometimes the toughest thing to learn to do is to sit back and listen. It's all about self discipline. I used to be like you and I realized that it was selfish of me (also somewhat arrogant) to always be in the forefront.
Perhaps in some way I liked the attention and liked the feeling of validation for my opinions. But this feeling of self importance was an illusion as others often had just as much to say if not more but never spoke up which made me see myself in a different light.
There are many out there who lack the confidence or will to just speak their mind and I made and effort to bring other people out of their shell. I realized that classes are there for other people to learn as well and I try to let other people have their turn to speak whether they were right or wrong.
Its best to begin with baby steps. Just make a vow to spend one entire class period without speaking at all and I'm sure you'll end up learning a lot about yourself and more importantly about others. Everyone needs a time to shine and this cannot happen when I was hogging the spotlight.
You'll find that being quiet is like holding back a dam but over time you'll find that the most memorable opinions are the ones that one has spent their time to thoroughly think through.
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
In order to mature, you need to learn self control. You will eventually have to learn how to control your actions anyway.
Why not start now, and make it easier for the future?
Oh boy do I know your situation lol. I'm always like that in class and end up getting kicked out. You just have to learn to control your mouth. It's hard, but sometimes it really works, and just blurting stuff out can get you into serious trouble sometimes.
Yeah, I know your type. The kind of person who likes to talk a lot, and cracks jokes often, ya know? I don't know for sure how you can change, maybe you're just hyper or something, I dunno. LOL
Homework. Community service. Listening to others with sincere compassion. Staying in school.
well i dont really think that you can completely change who you are but just simply tone it down
do exactly what you said and THINK...dont just say the first thing that comes in to your mind. give it thought
just act like ur lips r nailed shut i dont know but im to old 4 i like guys who r funny and talk to da-mn much
Maturity, as you've alluded to, is the ability to see beyond. Acting immature is fun for the moment, but not good beyond that moment, not good for your future, for relationships, etc.
You know how to stop it? Just STOP. That's called making a choice. As an adult, you can make choices, that you couldn't as a child. So you can do it. STOP your immature behavior.
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The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
Sometimes the toughest thing to learn to do is to sit back and listen. It's all about self discipline. I used to be like you and I realized that it was selfish of me (also somewhat arrogant) to always be in the forefront.
Perhaps in some way I liked the attention and liked the feeling of validation for my opinions. But this feeling of self importance was an illusion as others often had just as much to say if not more but never spoke up which made me see myself in a different light.
There are many out there who lack the confidence or will to just speak their mind and I made and effort to bring other people out of their shell. I realized that classes are there for other people to learn as well and I try to let other people have their turn to speak whether they were right or wrong.
Its best to begin with baby steps. Just make a vow to spend one entire class period without speaking at all and I'm sure you'll end up learning a lot about yourself and more importantly about others. Everyone needs a time to shine and this cannot happen when I was hogging the spotlight.
You'll find that being quiet is like holding back a dam but over time you'll find that the most memorable opinions are the ones that one has spent their time to thoroughly think through.
The only thing separating me and a relationship.?
In order to mature, you need to learn self control. You will eventually have to learn how to control your actions anyway.
Why not start now, and make it easier for the future?
Oh boy do I know your situation lol. I'm always like that in class and end up getting kicked out. You just have to learn to control your mouth. It's hard, but sometimes it really works, and just blurting stuff out can get you into serious trouble sometimes.
Yeah, I know your type. The kind of person who likes to talk a lot, and cracks jokes often, ya know? I don't know for sure how you can change, maybe you're just hyper or something, I dunno. LOL
Homework. Community service. Listening to others with sincere compassion. Staying in school.
well i dont really think that you can completely change who you are but just simply tone it down
do exactly what you said and THINK...dont just say the first thing that comes in to your mind. give it thought
just act like ur lips r nailed shut i dont know but im to old 4 i like guys who r funny and talk to da-mn much
Maturity, as you've alluded to, is the ability to see beyond. Acting immature is fun for the moment, but not good beyond that moment, not good for your future, for relationships, etc.
You know how to stop it? Just STOP. That's called making a choice. As an adult, you can make choices, that you couldn't as a child. So you can do it. STOP your immature behavior.
http://helpGlobe.com
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
I'm 25 btw. My sister is starting high school in a new city soon. She was made fun of a lot in her old school and now has big dreams of being popular at the new school.
She is a pretty girl but certain aspects of her personality I think were more to blame than her looks. She has self depriciating humor (i.e. calls herself stupid trying to make others laugh, instead they just start calling her stupid!) likes to gossip about other people, sterotypes people a lot, has some gross personal habits (chewing on her hair and clothing, weird I know) but she just won't listen when I tell her this is a BIG part of her problem. She is really focused on her looks and clothing and is ignoring much bigger issues.
I am really scared she will come home crying (again!) when she realizes nice hair, clothing and makeup don't change your personality. I am really afraid she will repeat the same patterns then come cry to me when %26quot;Nobody%26quot; likes her. I have been going around in circles with her on thisfor years. She also seems to have the idea that being popular is some great, elusive thing that will somehow make her happy. I have done my best to explain that it doesn't matter when you grow up but she won't listen. She keeps begging me to help her with the hair and clothing and 'image' but when I start bringing up her personality she either cries, argues or ignores me!
I keep suggesting that my mom put her in therapy. It's almost like she has some mental problem or something but I can't find one that fits. My mom keeps insisting she is a good kid and nothing is wrong with her. I agree she is a good kid but I can't agree that nothing is wrong! What could be wrong and how do I help her?
I will give an extra 10 pts if you can answer this other long question regarding the same issue. It's long but way more detailed. This really means a lot to me, I will give 20 points if someone can give me a helpful answer on both!
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
if you have AIM or MSN or HOTMAIL put it on the added details and i will IM or EMAIL you.
she needs to try to meet some people on the first day but not everyone. She needs to remain mysterious.
On the first day she needs to wear something comfortable but cute since she will be walking around alot
.She needs to try to dress cute for the first week and then she can dress normally.
She needs to try to be confident in herself because it will make her seem more approachable.
I used to be very popular (which is what i THOUGHT i wanted)
but then i realized that being popular wasn't important it was more important to be nice to people and make friends and have fun.
I have more friends now then when i was popular.
When you are popular you don't have ANY friends. every is only pretending to be you friend so they can be popular too.
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
tell her to talk a lot.
be confident.
try her hardest to be humorous [:
it really depends on the personality and type of person.
You can't really help your sister get popular.
It's up to your sister to improve her attitude/personality.
I don't know if therapy is needed, but you DO need to talk to your sister.
I know this sounds stupid but try getting someone %26quot;popular%26quot; to her and explain to her that it doesn't matter with makeup/clothing, but about your personality.
tell her to be herself. there is no point of being popular because its point less and your not happy. you have to fake who you are and it only lasts till the end of school and nothing more.
tell her to be herself. she will end up with friends who like her for her and thats what really counts to happiness
Sit her down , and tell her politely, kindly but firmly what she is dong wrong. Tell her to try not do the things you mentioned. Be kind and supportive.
Tell her to act confident, but not over confident, be interested in others,don't put her self down with humour, and try to remember not to show her .habits. in public. Ask her if she would like you to arrange counselling.
Tell her(politely) how her not listening is making you feel. Tell her she is pretty and nice girl who people will like if she tries abit harder. Maybe arrange for her to get anti depressants as well as counselling, or a herbal anti depressant. Also, try to get her to exercise, eat healthily and take a multi vitamin. They will help give her a better sense of well being. Tell her you love her! Good luck !
She cant force people to like her
I was very lukcy when i started my school, i managed to fit in with the popular crowd, all the girls and boys etc...but i didnt look down on the less popular kids, there called bullies, not all popular people are mean
I suggest she justs fits in where she feels comfatable, if she gets on with unpopular people she should hang out with them
I think talking to her will make her upset, who cares about all that 'be yourself' stuff, people like u people dont
Tell her to hang out with people who like her, or help her make mates that like her for who she is
She is a pretty girl but certain aspects of her personality I think were more to blame than her looks. She has self depriciating humor (i.e. calls herself stupid trying to make others laugh, instead they just start calling her stupid!) likes to gossip about other people, sterotypes people a lot, has some gross personal habits (chewing on her hair and clothing, weird I know) but she just won't listen when I tell her this is a BIG part of her problem. She is really focused on her looks and clothing and is ignoring much bigger issues.
I am really scared she will come home crying (again!) when she realizes nice hair, clothing and makeup don't change your personality. I am really afraid she will repeat the same patterns then come cry to me when %26quot;Nobody%26quot; likes her. I have been going around in circles with her on thisfor years. She also seems to have the idea that being popular is some great, elusive thing that will somehow make her happy. I have done my best to explain that it doesn't matter when you grow up but she won't listen. She keeps begging me to help her with the hair and clothing and 'image' but when I start bringing up her personality she either cries, argues or ignores me!
I keep suggesting that my mom put her in therapy. It's almost like she has some mental problem or something but I can't find one that fits. My mom keeps insisting she is a good kid and nothing is wrong with her. I agree she is a good kid but I can't agree that nothing is wrong! What could be wrong and how do I help her?
I will give an extra 10 pts if you can answer this other long question regarding the same issue. It's long but way more detailed. This really means a lot to me, I will give 20 points if someone can give me a helpful answer on both!
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
if you have AIM or MSN or HOTMAIL put it on the added details and i will IM or EMAIL you.
she needs to try to meet some people on the first day but not everyone. She needs to remain mysterious.
On the first day she needs to wear something comfortable but cute since she will be walking around alot
.She needs to try to dress cute for the first week and then she can dress normally.
She needs to try to be confident in herself because it will make her seem more approachable.
I used to be very popular (which is what i THOUGHT i wanted)
but then i realized that being popular wasn't important it was more important to be nice to people and make friends and have fun.
I have more friends now then when i was popular.
When you are popular you don't have ANY friends. every is only pretending to be you friend so they can be popular too.
My 14 year old sister wants to be popular. How can I help?
tell her to talk a lot.
be confident.
try her hardest to be humorous [:
it really depends on the personality and type of person.
You can't really help your sister get popular.
It's up to your sister to improve her attitude/personality.
I don't know if therapy is needed, but you DO need to talk to your sister.
I know this sounds stupid but try getting someone %26quot;popular%26quot; to her and explain to her that it doesn't matter with makeup/clothing, but about your personality.
tell her to be herself. there is no point of being popular because its point less and your not happy. you have to fake who you are and it only lasts till the end of school and nothing more.
tell her to be herself. she will end up with friends who like her for her and thats what really counts to happiness
Sit her down , and tell her politely, kindly but firmly what she is dong wrong. Tell her to try not do the things you mentioned. Be kind and supportive.
Tell her to act confident, but not over confident, be interested in others,don't put her self down with humour, and try to remember not to show her .habits. in public. Ask her if she would like you to arrange counselling.
Tell her(politely) how her not listening is making you feel. Tell her she is pretty and nice girl who people will like if she tries abit harder. Maybe arrange for her to get anti depressants as well as counselling, or a herbal anti depressant. Also, try to get her to exercise, eat healthily and take a multi vitamin. They will help give her a better sense of well being. Tell her you love her! Good luck !
She cant force people to like her
I was very lukcy when i started my school, i managed to fit in with the popular crowd, all the girls and boys etc...but i didnt look down on the less popular kids, there called bullies, not all popular people are mean
I suggest she justs fits in where she feels comfatable, if she gets on with unpopular people she should hang out with them
I think talking to her will make her upset, who cares about all that 'be yourself' stuff, people like u people dont
Tell her to hang out with people who like her, or help her make mates that like her for who she is
This is the end of my essay, will you proof read please?
On to college, being a radiologic technologist doesn’t require a huge amount of college. Knowing computers is an additional thing I found that was important in this line of employment, this is because working the x-ray machine includes working with circuit boards, processors, electronic equipment, computer hardware and computer software. This topic is something I could defiantly learn a lot about. Two years, or an associates degree at a technical school is needed. During these two years my class load would be heavy, some students prefer to space the courses out and go to college for 3 years (Radiologic Technologists and Technicians). Things studied during college are radiation protection, pathology, patient care procedures and medical ethics among other things. After college, you can become certified or licensed by the American Registry of Radiologic Technologists, certification will help you when applying for a job. To get this certification I would have to pass an exam on everything I learned in college (How To Be an X-Ray…). Another helpful piece of advice I’ve found was that to get more experience you should train or take an intern ship at a hospital , or enlist in an accredited radiography program (How To Be an X-Ray…).
I think when looking for a job or researching a career you should look for one that you already have the personality traits for considering it is hard to change your personality. One trait I think is common sense is, caring for people and being a people person. Through out the day in this field you are helping people, trying to make them less in pain, help them know what is wrong, or talking to various doctors and medical personal. So being someone who can get along with a lot of people would greatly help in this occupation. This is something I feel I would be good at because I enjoy being around people and am a people person. Also I have found out that time management is a good skill or trait to have as an x-ray technologist (Radiologic Technologist). You need to keep in mind at all times the other injured patients waiting to be taken care of. Next I think another skill that goes hand-in-hand with time management is coordination. Career Zone explains this skill as “adjusting actions in relation to others’ actions”. Two more personality traits that I think easily relate to one another are being able to think critically and being able to instruct others easily. The first, critical thinking or logic, is needed when comparing and contrasting individual solutions and outcomes. Critical thinking is needed to instruct others, every situation will be different working in this field (Radiologic Technologist). For example, one day you may be instructing a little boy with a broken arm how to waterproof his cast before showering, where as the next day you could be informing an elderly lady about her broken ankle. Overall I think I have these skills but if I do plan on being a radiologic technologist I should work on my instruction skills.
So far this seems like a rewarding career but when exploring this job I have found two other jobs that are rather thought-provoking, for one, a radiation therapist. People in this career make about the same salary as an x-ray technologist, have more schooling but can provide radiation therapy. These professionals can still take x-rays though (Radiation Therapists). This job sounds nice but an radiologic technologist still sounds better. The next job I came across that I was curious about was a nuclear medicine technologist. People in this career most times have to get a bachelors degree and have a slightly higher salary. Nuclear medicine technology is not about bones and the human body, which is what I’m interested in. This career involves more knowledge, diagnostics, and radiation therapy of the blood, cells, fat and muscles (Nuclear Medicine Technologist). Both of these careers would be more striking if I wanted to broaden my radiologic technologist career.
Even after my research of a radiologic technologist, I have still do not have a great idea of what I want to be when I get out of high school. Radiologic technology has proven to me it is a very interesting field with a lot of room for growth but I’m still not totally convinced that this is the job for me.
This is the end of my essay, will you proof read please?
No, as a matter of fact, I will not proofread for you! Sorry.
This is the end of my essay, will you proof read please?
who cares its so long and complicated the spelling wont matter
generally, in essays it is considered improper to refer to yourself in the first or second person.
basically in an essay you want it to be readable to applicable to everyone who reads it, not just a personalized journal entry.
hopefully you are very young and only in 7th or 8th grade, because that is not a very well written paper, and would not pass any high school english class. it may get a C in middle school, though
This is full of misspellings, sentence fragments, poor punctuation usage and sentence structure, and run on sentences. If this is the END of your essay, it is a bit lengthy - your topic seems to meander in and out of personal account, opinion, and irrelevant details. You need to focus and identify a theme for every paragraph, with each paragraph leading to the next in an intuitive fashion. I could not begin to proof this in the Y!A format - you would need to make it available in a Word format, with comments enables, or give out a hard-copy with a red pen. EX - %26quot;This topic is something I could defiantly learn a lot about.%26quot; This is an empty sentence, not conveying anything of worth on the topic of careers; it seems to be your thought as you think on the subject, which is not appropriate for a paper. Additionally - %26quot;defiantly%26quot; means having the characteristics of defiance, not a level of exactitude as the word %26quot;definitely%26quot; connotes.
In 'technical' writer-speak, this is 'throat clearing' - you've gotten a lot of stuff down on paper, but you now need to clear away what is unnecessary or redundant. Rewrite definitely needed. I generally look at something the day after I write it, even if I think it is awesome, to give the perspective of a good night's sleep. Then I revise! Focus! Keep the sentences short and concise; digestible, as it were.
Howwever, good luck! Expressing yourself clearly in the written word is a invaluable skill for career and life. This is a good start and you clearly have strong opinions.
I think when looking for a job or researching a career you should look for one that you already have the personality traits for considering it is hard to change your personality. One trait I think is common sense is, caring for people and being a people person. Through out the day in this field you are helping people, trying to make them less in pain, help them know what is wrong, or talking to various doctors and medical personal. So being someone who can get along with a lot of people would greatly help in this occupation. This is something I feel I would be good at because I enjoy being around people and am a people person. Also I have found out that time management is a good skill or trait to have as an x-ray technologist (Radiologic Technologist). You need to keep in mind at all times the other injured patients waiting to be taken care of. Next I think another skill that goes hand-in-hand with time management is coordination. Career Zone explains this skill as “adjusting actions in relation to others’ actions”. Two more personality traits that I think easily relate to one another are being able to think critically and being able to instruct others easily. The first, critical thinking or logic, is needed when comparing and contrasting individual solutions and outcomes. Critical thinking is needed to instruct others, every situation will be different working in this field (Radiologic Technologist). For example, one day you may be instructing a little boy with a broken arm how to waterproof his cast before showering, where as the next day you could be informing an elderly lady about her broken ankle. Overall I think I have these skills but if I do plan on being a radiologic technologist I should work on my instruction skills.
So far this seems like a rewarding career but when exploring this job I have found two other jobs that are rather thought-provoking, for one, a radiation therapist. People in this career make about the same salary as an x-ray technologist, have more schooling but can provide radiation therapy. These professionals can still take x-rays though (Radiation Therapists). This job sounds nice but an radiologic technologist still sounds better. The next job I came across that I was curious about was a nuclear medicine technologist. People in this career most times have to get a bachelors degree and have a slightly higher salary. Nuclear medicine technology is not about bones and the human body, which is what I’m interested in. This career involves more knowledge, diagnostics, and radiation therapy of the blood, cells, fat and muscles (Nuclear Medicine Technologist). Both of these careers would be more striking if I wanted to broaden my radiologic technologist career.
Even after my research of a radiologic technologist, I have still do not have a great idea of what I want to be when I get out of high school. Radiologic technology has proven to me it is a very interesting field with a lot of room for growth but I’m still not totally convinced that this is the job for me.
This is the end of my essay, will you proof read please?
No, as a matter of fact, I will not proofread for you! Sorry.
This is the end of my essay, will you proof read please?
who cares its so long and complicated the spelling wont matter
generally, in essays it is considered improper to refer to yourself in the first or second person.
basically in an essay you want it to be readable to applicable to everyone who reads it, not just a personalized journal entry.
hopefully you are very young and only in 7th or 8th grade, because that is not a very well written paper, and would not pass any high school english class. it may get a C in middle school, though
This is full of misspellings, sentence fragments, poor punctuation usage and sentence structure, and run on sentences. If this is the END of your essay, it is a bit lengthy - your topic seems to meander in and out of personal account, opinion, and irrelevant details. You need to focus and identify a theme for every paragraph, with each paragraph leading to the next in an intuitive fashion. I could not begin to proof this in the Y!A format - you would need to make it available in a Word format, with comments enables, or give out a hard-copy with a red pen. EX - %26quot;This topic is something I could defiantly learn a lot about.%26quot; This is an empty sentence, not conveying anything of worth on the topic of careers; it seems to be your thought as you think on the subject, which is not appropriate for a paper. Additionally - %26quot;defiantly%26quot; means having the characteristics of defiance, not a level of exactitude as the word %26quot;definitely%26quot; connotes.
In 'technical' writer-speak, this is 'throat clearing' - you've gotten a lot of stuff down on paper, but you now need to clear away what is unnecessary or redundant. Rewrite definitely needed. I generally look at something the day after I write it, even if I think it is awesome, to give the perspective of a good night's sleep. Then I revise! Focus! Keep the sentences short and concise; digestible, as it were.
Howwever, good luck! Expressing yourself clearly in the written word is a invaluable skill for career and life. This is a good start and you clearly have strong opinions.
How can I become a dependent person?
Okay so well I've been babied since I was well a baby. my mom's always been overprotective, so I can't go anywhere without an adult watching over me. So after awhile I'd become 'the baby' my friends protected me, I liked being the teachers pet and got awesome grades and things. During middle school I sought to rid my dependency and well had my mini rebellion phase, my grades dropped and I seemed to become a more dependent person. Now I'm 14, 15 in August, and I realize whether I think I am or not I'm still completely dependent on people. I went to a fast food restaurant and I couldn't even order I had to get my friend to order, I felt pathetic I didn't know how to order food, nor did I have guts enough to try it! My grades have shot up again and I'm a straight A student...I hate being dependent on people, so how do you change your personality? Can you change you personality? I want to get a job in August but I don't think I can the way I am now.
How can I become a dependent person?
you mean ''how can you become more independent from others as you asked it wrong...you asked ''how can I become more dependent'' well you don 't want that as you depend on others too much. You need to become more independent... able to do certain things for yourself and the best way to do this is to start with small things as you say you have been protected too much and been mollycoddled by your mom... that is the result now that you are depending on other people for everything because either they took away your self esteem that tells you ''I can do this on my own'' or they made decisions for you all your life... that is a habit hard to break but if you want more independence you have to ''jump over your own shadow'' and start with tiny things.. such as going into a Mc Donalds and place an order for yourself.. don't ask for help... It is very easy to do. Every item is written down. You look at the menu and you place an order.. that is a beginning and then in the future you have to set yourself some goals... even if it feels not comfortable to do something on your own for a ''first time'' once you have done this 2 or 3 times it will be very easy and you will gain a lot more self esteem and see no longer a ''big deal ''in doing that for yourself.. also it may be a good idea to join a sports club or a hobby club... something you want to do because you like it.. meet new people... do something that is fun, make new friends and learn new things .. .that would also be an independent decision you make..if you say '' I want to join xxxx club and then sign up for it and do it .. set yourself a goal, pursue it. that is independent on your part if you have a goal and you put effort into achieving it.. it will boost your self esteem when you succeed and reach this goal and you have done something independently of others.. you will then be on the right track towards more independence and if your friends or mom want to do things for you... learn to say '' I can do this on my own.. thank you'' and just do it, if you make mistakes it's not a problem. Mistakes are there to learn from. They will make you gain experience. All of us make mistakes... the only bad thing would be to do nothing and let others do it for you for fear of doing something wrong...then you will never learn...you have to believe in yourself and tell others ''I want to do this on my own even if perhaps you would like their help... the only way to learn to become more independent is to try it out on your own..''
How can I become a dependent person?
youre already dependant
Learn the difference between independence and dependence to demonstrate that you have at least an iota of intelligence. People will respect you more if they see you can use basic english properly. Respect breeds independence
I hope that is independent person
How can I become a dependent person?
you mean ''how can you become more independent from others as you asked it wrong...you asked ''how can I become more dependent'' well you don 't want that as you depend on others too much. You need to become more independent... able to do certain things for yourself and the best way to do this is to start with small things as you say you have been protected too much and been mollycoddled by your mom... that is the result now that you are depending on other people for everything because either they took away your self esteem that tells you ''I can do this on my own'' or they made decisions for you all your life... that is a habit hard to break but if you want more independence you have to ''jump over your own shadow'' and start with tiny things.. such as going into a Mc Donalds and place an order for yourself.. don't ask for help... It is very easy to do. Every item is written down. You look at the menu and you place an order.. that is a beginning and then in the future you have to set yourself some goals... even if it feels not comfortable to do something on your own for a ''first time'' once you have done this 2 or 3 times it will be very easy and you will gain a lot more self esteem and see no longer a ''big deal ''in doing that for yourself.. also it may be a good idea to join a sports club or a hobby club... something you want to do because you like it.. meet new people... do something that is fun, make new friends and learn new things .. .that would also be an independent decision you make..if you say '' I want to join xxxx club and then sign up for it and do it .. set yourself a goal, pursue it. that is independent on your part if you have a goal and you put effort into achieving it.. it will boost your self esteem when you succeed and reach this goal and you have done something independently of others.. you will then be on the right track towards more independence and if your friends or mom want to do things for you... learn to say '' I can do this on my own.. thank you'' and just do it, if you make mistakes it's not a problem. Mistakes are there to learn from. They will make you gain experience. All of us make mistakes... the only bad thing would be to do nothing and let others do it for you for fear of doing something wrong...then you will never learn...you have to believe in yourself and tell others ''I want to do this on my own even if perhaps you would like their help... the only way to learn to become more independent is to try it out on your own..''
How can I become a dependent person?
youre already dependant
Learn the difference between independence and dependence to demonstrate that you have at least an iota of intelligence. People will respect you more if they see you can use basic english properly. Respect breeds independence
I hope that is independent person
My mom's anxiety upsets me. I don't know what I should do?
My mom has always struggled with anxiety. She seems to have episodes of anxiety when something in her life changes. For example, when we move to a new house she gets so worked up with anxiety that it makes her sick. It has been hard for the rest of my family because she doesn't really help herself, she does go to a doctor but believes that talk or behavioral treatment doesn't help. I feel that there is no doctor on earth that will help her because it is part of her personality and they way she was taught to think. To me, its like trying to change your personality after so many years, it becomes difficult. My problem now is that we are moving to a new state in summer and she is starting to fill her mind with fears. She stopped going to a doctor many years ago because she was better. She is afraid of getting sick again, she is afraid of leaving my sister behind in california ( where we live) while we move to florida ( my sister is 30 years old with a fiance has a nice career etc). My mom doesn't want to do any talk therapy because she says it won't help. I am tired of having to deal with her worries and her trying to control my life with her unwarranted fears. I am so sick of it, even as I type this tears come to my eyes. I get frustrated with her attitude which is like %26quot; I can worry all I want and its okay for me to worry, and its just the way it is and I don't have to help myself%26quot;. I think what upsets me is her degree of selfishness that upsets me and I don't know how to deal with it anymore? I am almost 34 years old and I don't what to tell her or do? any bright ideas?
My mom's anxiety upsets me. I don't know what I should do?
i suggest you read and recommend a good book to her by dr. scott peck. he wrote this 20 years ago when therapy was focused on self-realization. the book is called a road less traveled. i am bipolar and didnt have faith in psychotherapy and when i read this alot of personal issues were recognized and a renewed faith in the profession. these people are here to help people scientifically get out or the dark and unpleasant behaviors. you do need her to understand clearly that she may not be bothered by her actions but how it negatively affects you - some sort of intervention. tell her to just try it and if she doesnt like the therapist, tell her to shop around. therapy resolves personal issues and allows us to discover a better way to live and look at life. she needs friends and being in a social group will perk her up. if you moving to a new place please her encourage her to find a club or take a class. getting out of the house will help her change her perspective. bless you and peace be with your family.
My mom's anxiety upsets me. I don't know what I should do?
Put your foot down that if she won't do the best she can to resolve this issue that you will no longer worry over it. She is a grown woman and MUST take full responsibility for her own health. That's a fact. Bottom line.
Anxiety is a scary thing to have to live with but it can be controlled. And if she doesn't care about herself then she will have to deal witIs it possible to execute Windows Script Hosting procedures in a web page script hair braiding
My mom's anxiety upsets me. I don't know what I should do?
i suggest you read and recommend a good book to her by dr. scott peck. he wrote this 20 years ago when therapy was focused on self-realization. the book is called a road less traveled. i am bipolar and didnt have faith in psychotherapy and when i read this alot of personal issues were recognized and a renewed faith in the profession. these people are here to help people scientifically get out or the dark and unpleasant behaviors. you do need her to understand clearly that she may not be bothered by her actions but how it negatively affects you - some sort of intervention. tell her to just try it and if she doesnt like the therapist, tell her to shop around. therapy resolves personal issues and allows us to discover a better way to live and look at life. she needs friends and being in a social group will perk her up. if you moving to a new place please her encourage her to find a club or take a class. getting out of the house will help her change her perspective. bless you and peace be with your family.
My mom's anxiety upsets me. I don't know what I should do?
Put your foot down that if she won't do the best she can to resolve this issue that you will no longer worry over it. She is a grown woman and MUST take full responsibility for her own health. That's a fact. Bottom line.
Anxiety is a scary thing to have to live with but it can be controlled. And if she doesn't care about herself then she will have to deal wit
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I looked up my symptoms and I appear to have Borderline Personality Syndrome and possibly an anxiety disorder. I recently told my friend that I think I might have it.... and it was the most awkward conversation of my life. She said that's it's not that big of a deal and that should I should just ignore it. But how can you ignore it when you're in depression and close to suicidal?
So I'm think of maybe telling my mother that I have this. [I'm so terrified she won't believe me, or will freak out.] She'll probably send me to a shrink, which will probably lead to anti-depressants. So here's my question: What do anti-depressants feel like? Do they change your personality? Do they make you happy? Do they make your feel like your happy and floating, or something along those lines?
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It sounds like you are indeed suffering from some form of a combination of %26quot;Mood Disorders.%26quot;
A neurosis is a condition of the mind suffered by one who is called a neurotic. It is when you have a very active imagination. The old saying - %26quot;a neurotic builds castles in the sky.%26quot; (Or a hyper-active daydreamer.) Excessive worry, anxiety, etc.
A psychotic is a person suffering a psychosis, and it is much a more serious condition. It must or should be treated because of the possible dangers to others or especially yourself. A psychosis is the state or condition or hearing noises and voices or seeing things (%26quot;hallucinating%26quot;) that re not really %26quot;there%26quot;,
and others cannot hear or see them. These sysmptoms are caused by chemcal unbalances in the brain.
You do need to discuss this calmly with your mother and seek professional help.
You may even need to be hospitalized for a short period of time to be under observation, (for proper diagnosis) cared for and until you are stabalized. This my not be absolutely necessary. The most important part is to get the psychosis under control with antipsychotic drug whic can world in a short as 4 days or a long a a week or two.
Once you have been properly diagnosed, you may also need to be on other longer terms drugs like anti-anxiety, mood contril and anti-depressants.
Anti-psychotics and/or mood control drugs do not make you feel like you are floating, feeling sleepy or tired. In fact they have a calming and relaxing effect that simply bring you back to the %26quot;real%26quot; world and they stop the voices, noises and hallucinations. They provide wonderful pleasant relief - that is all.
Anti-anxiety and mood control pills have various side effects depending on the type of drug used and the individual's tolerance to these drugs. Yes they will make you feel sleepy, tired and even a bit confused. Anti-depressants may also have similar effects depending on the drug brand. They generally %26quot;remove or counter%26quot; the effects of anxiety, depression, mania and excessive mood swings. And, they do not make you happy and/or floating. They do however reduce the %26quot;Dark Dogs of Unhappy Depression.%26quot; In that sense you will feel happier, but it is a normal happy. The myth of anti-depressants be %26quot;Happy Pills%26quot; is just that - a myth. In fact most people take months, years to actually feel the difference. then they begin to realize and appreciate just how %26quot;sick%26quot; they were. Their effect is mainly to bring you closer in line with reality and to stabilize your excessive mood swings and/or to prevent psychosis.
Need Some Advice On...?
i hated anti-depresents, ask for something else
alot of meds that are used to treat one thing, can treat another, i take something used for schisophrenia (spelt wrong) but it slows down my tumors,
i would tell your mom, get help before it gets worse
You're getting ahead of yourself, diagnosing yourself using the internet is pretty unreliable, but you know in yourself something isnt quite right.
Whatever it is you should tell your mum how you're feeling. She might be able to give better advice and support for you than meds can. But if you are feeling suicidal right now i do think its important you dont let anyone dismiss how you're feeling and to go to the doctor as soon as you can to talk things over and see whether meds might be helpful to you. BY no means do you have to take or do anything you dont want to, so dont see antidepressants as the only way to feel better- they are just one of many options.
Antidepressants arent so drastic to make you feel unrealistically happy. They dont make you floaty or dreamy, they dont change who you are. IIn my experience they make things 'not so bad anymore'.
They help you to cope with the things in your life that are bothering you. They make you see life more rationally so that you are less worried, anxious and bothered by things which perviously would make you feel awful.
They do help a lot of people cope with anxiety and depression but you cant rely on them to fix everything at once. You usually need to undergo some counselling to find out what was making you anxious/depressed, how you can change it, and how you can prevent it happening again.
All the best.
No, anti-depressants do not make you goofy or floaty or silly. Depression is caused by a lack of serotonin in the brain. Anti-depressants help bridge the gap between brain synapses and keep more of the serotonin where it's supposed to be. A person without depression would get no effect whatsoever.
BPD is a different story. I wouldn't claim to have it unless I was positive. It mimics lots of other diseases. I think they treat it with drugs, but I'm not sure which ones. Could be benzodiazipines like Xanax or Klonopin.
I wouldn't mention any specific diseases to my mother, I would just relate my symptoms and the fact that I need a doctor's help. Mental illnesses are no different than physical illnesses. If you had diabetes, she'd seek help for that, right?
I hope you get the help you need so you can get to feeling better.
Hi, McKenzie.
First, self-diagnosis isn't something you should count on being accurate.
Second, you're really worried about this, so get a professional opinion.
Third, if you don't want meds, say so to your counselor.
Fourth, if you do choose to take meds, and you don't like their effects, say so to your counselor. Meds should be adjusted to the individual because what works for one, doesn't work for all.
Tell your mother and/or maybe your school counselor. You can probably just tell your mother that you're extremely depressed and it's been going on for a long time, and you'd like to see a counselor to try to get better.
Don't let the what-ifs keep you down.
~Os
So I'm think of maybe telling my mother that I have this. [I'm so terrified she won't believe me, or will freak out.] She'll probably send me to a shrink, which will probably lead to anti-depressants. So here's my question: What do anti-depressants feel like? Do they change your personality? Do they make you happy? Do they make your feel like your happy and floating, or something along those lines?
Need Some Advice On...?
It sounds like you are indeed suffering from some form of a combination of %26quot;Mood Disorders.%26quot;
A neurosis is a condition of the mind suffered by one who is called a neurotic. It is when you have a very active imagination. The old saying - %26quot;a neurotic builds castles in the sky.%26quot; (Or a hyper-active daydreamer.) Excessive worry, anxiety, etc.
A psychotic is a person suffering a psychosis, and it is much a more serious condition. It must or should be treated because of the possible dangers to others or especially yourself. A psychosis is the state or condition or hearing noises and voices or seeing things (%26quot;hallucinating%26quot;) that re not really %26quot;there%26quot;,
and others cannot hear or see them. These sysmptoms are caused by chemcal unbalances in the brain.
You do need to discuss this calmly with your mother and seek professional help.
You may even need to be hospitalized for a short period of time to be under observation, (for proper diagnosis) cared for and until you are stabalized. This my not be absolutely necessary. The most important part is to get the psychosis under control with antipsychotic drug whic can world in a short as 4 days or a long a a week or two.
Once you have been properly diagnosed, you may also need to be on other longer terms drugs like anti-anxiety, mood contril and anti-depressants.
Anti-psychotics and/or mood control drugs do not make you feel like you are floating, feeling sleepy or tired. In fact they have a calming and relaxing effect that simply bring you back to the %26quot;real%26quot; world and they stop the voices, noises and hallucinations. They provide wonderful pleasant relief - that is all.
Anti-anxiety and mood control pills have various side effects depending on the type of drug used and the individual's tolerance to these drugs. Yes they will make you feel sleepy, tired and even a bit confused. Anti-depressants may also have similar effects depending on the drug brand. They generally %26quot;remove or counter%26quot; the effects of anxiety, depression, mania and excessive mood swings. And, they do not make you happy and/or floating. They do however reduce the %26quot;Dark Dogs of Unhappy Depression.%26quot; In that sense you will feel happier, but it is a normal happy. The myth of anti-depressants be %26quot;Happy Pills%26quot; is just that - a myth. In fact most people take months, years to actually feel the difference. then they begin to realize and appreciate just how %26quot;sick%26quot; they were. Their effect is mainly to bring you closer in line with reality and to stabilize your excessive mood swings and/or to prevent psychosis.
Need Some Advice On...?
i hated anti-depresents, ask for something else
alot of meds that are used to treat one thing, can treat another, i take something used for schisophrenia (spelt wrong) but it slows down my tumors,
i would tell your mom, get help before it gets worse
You're getting ahead of yourself, diagnosing yourself using the internet is pretty unreliable, but you know in yourself something isnt quite right.
Whatever it is you should tell your mum how you're feeling. She might be able to give better advice and support for you than meds can. But if you are feeling suicidal right now i do think its important you dont let anyone dismiss how you're feeling and to go to the doctor as soon as you can to talk things over and see whether meds might be helpful to you. BY no means do you have to take or do anything you dont want to, so dont see antidepressants as the only way to feel better- they are just one of many options.
Antidepressants arent so drastic to make you feel unrealistically happy. They dont make you floaty or dreamy, they dont change who you are. IIn my experience they make things 'not so bad anymore'.
They help you to cope with the things in your life that are bothering you. They make you see life more rationally so that you are less worried, anxious and bothered by things which perviously would make you feel awful.
They do help a lot of people cope with anxiety and depression but you cant rely on them to fix everything at once. You usually need to undergo some counselling to find out what was making you anxious/depressed, how you can change it, and how you can prevent it happening again.
All the best.
No, anti-depressants do not make you goofy or floaty or silly. Depression is caused by a lack of serotonin in the brain. Anti-depressants help bridge the gap between brain synapses and keep more of the serotonin where it's supposed to be. A person without depression would get no effect whatsoever.
BPD is a different story. I wouldn't claim to have it unless I was positive. It mimics lots of other diseases. I think they treat it with drugs, but I'm not sure which ones. Could be benzodiazipines like Xanax or Klonopin.
I wouldn't mention any specific diseases to my mother, I would just relate my symptoms and the fact that I need a doctor's help. Mental illnesses are no different than physical illnesses. If you had diabetes, she'd seek help for that, right?
I hope you get the help you need so you can get to feeling better.
Hi, McKenzie.
First, self-diagnosis isn't something you should count on being accurate.
Second, you're really worried about this, so get a professional opinion.
Third, if you don't want meds, say so to your counselor.
Fourth, if you do choose to take meds, and you don't like their effects, say so to your counselor. Meds should be adjusted to the individual because what works for one, doesn't work for all.
Tell your mother and/or maybe your school counselor. You can probably just tell your mother that you're extremely depressed and it's been going on for a long time, and you'd like to see a counselor to try to get better.
Don't let the what-ifs keep you down.
~Os
Do you think this would be a good book?
It would be like a %26quot;how to become more confident book%26quot; The writing may seem vague but remember the person reading it would know what it was about. Also sorry if there are any typos grammar isn't my strong suit.
Before I even begin writing this I feel the need to explain who I am and why I am writing this. I am writing this as kind of a memoir so I can remember these early details of my life without having to worry about forgetting them but also, If anyone is interested, this could maybe be used as a learning tool. As a kid I always had confidence problems, I don’t know why, I always had a lot of friends and was reasonably good looking, I just never had the confidence to do “normal things” like walk up to someone I didn’t know in school or ask a girl out. Many people are really good at stuff like that but I never was. I believe what I did was kind of unique, instead of succumbing to this fate and always being the nice kid but too shy. I wanted to be one of the “cool kids” at school and as I saw it the only way to do that was to become more outgoing. Some people say that it is not possible to change your personality but I don’t honestly believe that’s true. I think I did and so can anyone else who wants to. It’s not easy, you have to force yourself to do some things you don’t want to and it isn’t always fun but when you come out on the other side you realize you are a happier person because of your hard work and new social life. I didn’t have much guidance along the way and for that reason I made a fool of myself more times then I’d like to admit but in the end it was all worth it. I know plenty of people like me who want to “break out” of being frustratingly shy and this is partly for them too. Maybe this book would be able to give someone in my situation the guidance and wisdom I never had so they could change their personality and life quicker and better then I did. I’m no genius, expert, or scientist, I’m just someone who worked really hard and got the results he wanted. I’m Michael Spark and this is my story.
Thanks for reading!!! I would appreciate any constructive criticism, tips advice ETC. Even If I don't publish this I still want to write it even if it's just for myself.
Do you think this would be a good book?
Sounds really good to me. (Also sounds like we have a lot in common as well!) I was extremely shy in school and what made it worse was I was the oldest of six children .. all who were extremely outgoing, funny, cheerleaders, etc. My Mom always said I was a late bloomer and it took a lot for me to come out of my shell. Today, I am much better. I still tend to clam up around people that I have first met and in large group situations but I now stand in front of our church congregation each Sunday and do a little 3-5 minute Children's Story for all the kids. I really enjoy it. You couldn't have told me that I would be doing that 10 years ago .. I would have fainted!
The only thing I see changing .. is start off by saying: I'm Michael Spark and this is my story .. then space down a couple of lines and start a new paragraph with what you have written ... then expand on it even more by bringing up certain situations where you were terrified .. and have them read like a read story.
Also, when you are finished .. check into sending it to PublishAmerica.com I have had my first novel published through them just recently. You do have to be 18 though. Good luck to you!
Do you think this would be a good book?
Yeah,it would be a good story
Before I even begin writing this I feel the need to explain who I am and why I am writing this. I am writing this as kind of a memoir so I can remember these early details of my life without having to worry about forgetting them but also, If anyone is interested, this could maybe be used as a learning tool. As a kid I always had confidence problems, I don’t know why, I always had a lot of friends and was reasonably good looking, I just never had the confidence to do “normal things” like walk up to someone I didn’t know in school or ask a girl out. Many people are really good at stuff like that but I never was. I believe what I did was kind of unique, instead of succumbing to this fate and always being the nice kid but too shy. I wanted to be one of the “cool kids” at school and as I saw it the only way to do that was to become more outgoing. Some people say that it is not possible to change your personality but I don’t honestly believe that’s true. I think I did and so can anyone else who wants to. It’s not easy, you have to force yourself to do some things you don’t want to and it isn’t always fun but when you come out on the other side you realize you are a happier person because of your hard work and new social life. I didn’t have much guidance along the way and for that reason I made a fool of myself more times then I’d like to admit but in the end it was all worth it. I know plenty of people like me who want to “break out” of being frustratingly shy and this is partly for them too. Maybe this book would be able to give someone in my situation the guidance and wisdom I never had so they could change their personality and life quicker and better then I did. I’m no genius, expert, or scientist, I’m just someone who worked really hard and got the results he wanted. I’m Michael Spark and this is my story.
Thanks for reading!!! I would appreciate any constructive criticism, tips advice ETC. Even If I don't publish this I still want to write it even if it's just for myself.
Do you think this would be a good book?
Sounds really good to me. (Also sounds like we have a lot in common as well!) I was extremely shy in school and what made it worse was I was the oldest of six children .. all who were extremely outgoing, funny, cheerleaders, etc. My Mom always said I was a late bloomer and it took a lot for me to come out of my shell. Today, I am much better. I still tend to clam up around people that I have first met and in large group situations but I now stand in front of our church congregation each Sunday and do a little 3-5 minute Children's Story for all the kids. I really enjoy it. You couldn't have told me that I would be doing that 10 years ago .. I would have fainted!
The only thing I see changing .. is start off by saying: I'm Michael Spark and this is my story .. then space down a couple of lines and start a new paragraph with what you have written ... then expand on it even more by bringing up certain situations where you were terrified .. and have them read like a read story.
Also, when you are finished .. check into sending it to PublishAmerica.com I have had my first novel published through them just recently. You do have to be 18 though. Good luck to you!
Do you think this would be a good book?
Yeah,it would be a good story
Please fill out this survey about marijuana for me (smokers and nonsmokers please).?
I'm doing a term paper about marijuana for my Social Problems class and I need to survey people for it, so I figured the best place to survey people was on here.
Please no comments like %26quot;Pot stupid!' or %26quot;Weed Rocks!%26quot;, I just want honest, serious answers for my term paper. Please be detailed :)
Thank you!!!
1. Age
2. Have you ever smoked marijuana?
if yes:
A. How did you feel while you were on it (mentally and personality wise)?
B. How did you feel coming down from it?
C. Did you ever feel that it changed your personality? If so, how did it change?
D. If you were a frequent smoker, how did you feel when you weren't high?
E. If you have quit, do you still feel like marijuana still effects you today?
if no:
A. Have you ever experienced any type of mental or personality disorder? If so, what kind?
Please fill out this survey about marijuana for me (smokers and nonsmokers please).?
1. Age : 15
2. Have you ever smoked marijuana?
if yes: everyday
A. How did you feel while you were on it (mentally and personality wise)? I feel really happy, and I laugh outta the blue. Weed puts me in the best mood, and makes me feel like im on top of the world.
B. How did you feel coming down from it? Tired, and very thirsty and hungry.
C. Did you ever feel that it changed your personality? If so, how did it change? Yeah, it changes it dramitcally. From being bubbly, and outgoing, to hyper, and or just quit and lazy all the time.
D. If you were a frequent smoker, how did you feel when you weren't high? Depressed, sad, tired, and lazy.
E. If you have quit, do you still feel like marijuana still effects you today? Yes, very muchh. I;m trying to stop right now, and its very hard. i;ve been smoking it since i was 13 or 14. I'm cranky, and lazy. and i get shorten outta breath fast. even when im talking just on a normal convosation.
hope this helped. (;
Please fill out this survey about marijuana for me (smokers and nonsmokers please).?
1 - 33
2 - yes
A - relaxed
B - sleepy
C - no
D - tense
E - yes
1. 13
2. No, and I never plan to
3. Well.... I have a spinal tumor?
1. 19
2.yes
A.i felt different things like i was moving very slow but i really was not
B.horny lol
C.nope it didn't
D.i wasn't a frequent smoker
E.nope
A. no i have not
Please no comments like %26quot;Pot stupid!' or %26quot;Weed Rocks!%26quot;, I just want honest, serious answers for my term paper. Please be detailed :)
Thank you!!!
1. Age
2. Have you ever smoked marijuana?
if yes:
A. How did you feel while you were on it (mentally and personality wise)?
B. How did you feel coming down from it?
C. Did you ever feel that it changed your personality? If so, how did it change?
D. If you were a frequent smoker, how did you feel when you weren't high?
E. If you have quit, do you still feel like marijuana still effects you today?
if no:
A. Have you ever experienced any type of mental or personality disorder? If so, what kind?
Please fill out this survey about marijuana for me (smokers and nonsmokers please).?
1. Age : 15
2. Have you ever smoked marijuana?
if yes: everyday
A. How did you feel while you were on it (mentally and personality wise)? I feel really happy, and I laugh outta the blue. Weed puts me in the best mood, and makes me feel like im on top of the world.
B. How did you feel coming down from it? Tired, and very thirsty and hungry.
C. Did you ever feel that it changed your personality? If so, how did it change? Yeah, it changes it dramitcally. From being bubbly, and outgoing, to hyper, and or just quit and lazy all the time.
D. If you were a frequent smoker, how did you feel when you weren't high? Depressed, sad, tired, and lazy.
E. If you have quit, do you still feel like marijuana still effects you today? Yes, very muchh. I;m trying to stop right now, and its very hard. i;ve been smoking it since i was 13 or 14. I'm cranky, and lazy. and i get shorten outta breath fast. even when im talking just on a normal convosation.
hope this helped. (;
Please fill out this survey about marijuana for me (smokers and nonsmokers please).?
1 - 33
2 - yes
A - relaxed
B - sleepy
C - no
D - tense
E - yes
1. 13
2. No, and I never plan to
3. Well.... I have a spinal tumor?
1. 19
2.yes
A.i felt different things like i was moving very slow but i really was not
B.horny lol
C.nope it didn't
D.i wasn't a frequent smoker
E.nope
A. no i have not
I want to publish a poetry book. How would I go about doing it? Or meeting some publishers?
Here is a sample of what I can do I hope you like my poems!!
“Love”
Have you ever loved someone so much that love blinds your judgment
And no matter what you say you can never put anything above it
You change your personality to conform to this feeling
And try your best to let that love be your natural form of healing
You call upon that love, and hope it has your back
Wishing and praying to the Lord above that it will always be like that
You eat, sleep, and breathe that love waiting for the chance
For that love to open up your eyes and show you true romance
You're hoping it's not a tale that you've only read in books
And it's seeming like it's true from your lovers loving looks
The things that person says to you, got you really thinking
About all of the times where love has left your heart emotionally sinking
That feeling is finally gone and you really don't want it back
And the love that exist in your heart right now is definitely telling you that.
“Little Girl Lost”
Her hair is black and her eyes are brown
She's all alone, no one’s around
No one to smile and no one to frown
No one to pick her up or put her down
She's feeling sad and all alone
Can't find her place, too far from home
Ten years old and all she can do is cry
Keep screaming out the word why
Her clothes are torn her innocence gone
He walked away as if nothing was wrong
She lies there now sad and alone
Wondering if she'll ever make it home
She barely can walk from the pain she's feeling
Given a wound that will never see healing
Emotionally she's shattered and she doesn't understand
Why she was taken and violated by this man
Her eyes have darkened the sparkle is gone
Her feelings have harden while she's so far from home
People walk by her as if she isn't there
Not stopping to help her, no one really cares
She tries to stand but falls down to her knees
Still not understanding why her insides bleed
Ashamed of herself, did she do something wrong?
Was she a bad girl? Is that why she was taken from home
Her tears steadily flow and her eyes turn red
She feels she can’t go on so she drops her head
Not wanting to see another day, emotionally she’s dead
Looking for an explanation of how these events were lead
Too battered and too beaten to try to carry on
Looking for a good reason to make it back home
That man is there he took daddy’s place
Did bad things to her and smiled in mommy’s face
Did mommy know? Did mommy care?
Did mommy realize that this bad man was there?
Where had daddy gone, he’d save the day
She could imagine the things that daddy would say
His special little girl hasn’t been bad
She’s been a good little girl to her wonderful dad
But daddy’s not here, where has daddy gone?
Why has he left for this bad man to come in their home?
Mommy won’t believe her she’s already tried
Mommy screamed and yelled that she was telling lies
Mommy beat her and sent her right to bed
With a bleeding nose and a painfully bruised head
Hiding the scars had become a chore
From being thrown against furniture and left lying on the floor
Her stomach started getting bigger so he took her away
Did what he always did and left her to stay
But this little girl is lost and all alone
Has anyone actually noticed that she is gone?
Once happy and content in her little wonderful world
Doing all the fun things that make her a special little girl
Now she wishes to see those better days
When all was well and life was great
She sits in the alley all alone
This little girl’s lost and will never see home
I want to publish a poetry book. How would I go about doing it? Or meeting some publishers?
There is a regular magazine called Writer's Digest. It has a lot of info for the aspiring writer in all genre. It is worth looking at. Buy one at a bookstore like Borders, Walden, Barns %26amp; Noble. I used to have a subscription.
Anyway they have a lot of info on how and where to get published.
Your poems are nice. You should try. Don't let anyone sway you. It is hard, but it can be done. Don't give up even if you have go go all the way up hill. You do have talent and that will help.
I
I want to publish a poetry book. How would I go about doing it? Or meeting some publishers?
Hahahhahahahhahahahahaaaaa! Gasp! Haahaahhahahahahhahahha!
Oh, honey. I'm not laughing at your poetry. I would never do that....
The only way to get your poetry published is to go to a vanity press. That means YOU pay to have the book published. Period. No publisher would consider an entire book of an unknown poet.
You need to start by submitting your poems into contests for anthologies. Sometimes, you need to pay them to read it. It takes many, many years. TONS of rejection. You can do it.
“Love”
Have you ever loved someone so much that love blinds your judgment
And no matter what you say you can never put anything above it
You change your personality to conform to this feeling
And try your best to let that love be your natural form of healing
You call upon that love, and hope it has your back
Wishing and praying to the Lord above that it will always be like that
You eat, sleep, and breathe that love waiting for the chance
For that love to open up your eyes and show you true romance
You're hoping it's not a tale that you've only read in books
And it's seeming like it's true from your lovers loving looks
The things that person says to you, got you really thinking
About all of the times where love has left your heart emotionally sinking
That feeling is finally gone and you really don't want it back
And the love that exist in your heart right now is definitely telling you that.
“Little Girl Lost”
Her hair is black and her eyes are brown
She's all alone, no one’s around
No one to smile and no one to frown
No one to pick her up or put her down
She's feeling sad and all alone
Can't find her place, too far from home
Ten years old and all she can do is cry
Keep screaming out the word why
Her clothes are torn her innocence gone
He walked away as if nothing was wrong
She lies there now sad and alone
Wondering if she'll ever make it home
She barely can walk from the pain she's feeling
Given a wound that will never see healing
Emotionally she's shattered and she doesn't understand
Why she was taken and violated by this man
Her eyes have darkened the sparkle is gone
Her feelings have harden while she's so far from home
People walk by her as if she isn't there
Not stopping to help her, no one really cares
She tries to stand but falls down to her knees
Still not understanding why her insides bleed
Ashamed of herself, did she do something wrong?
Was she a bad girl? Is that why she was taken from home
Her tears steadily flow and her eyes turn red
She feels she can’t go on so she drops her head
Not wanting to see another day, emotionally she’s dead
Looking for an explanation of how these events were lead
Too battered and too beaten to try to carry on
Looking for a good reason to make it back home
That man is there he took daddy’s place
Did bad things to her and smiled in mommy’s face
Did mommy know? Did mommy care?
Did mommy realize that this bad man was there?
Where had daddy gone, he’d save the day
She could imagine the things that daddy would say
His special little girl hasn’t been bad
She’s been a good little girl to her wonderful dad
But daddy’s not here, where has daddy gone?
Why has he left for this bad man to come in their home?
Mommy won’t believe her she’s already tried
Mommy screamed and yelled that she was telling lies
Mommy beat her and sent her right to bed
With a bleeding nose and a painfully bruised head
Hiding the scars had become a chore
From being thrown against furniture and left lying on the floor
Her stomach started getting bigger so he took her away
Did what he always did and left her to stay
But this little girl is lost and all alone
Has anyone actually noticed that she is gone?
Once happy and content in her little wonderful world
Doing all the fun things that make her a special little girl
Now she wishes to see those better days
When all was well and life was great
She sits in the alley all alone
This little girl’s lost and will never see home
I want to publish a poetry book. How would I go about doing it? Or meeting some publishers?
There is a regular magazine called Writer's Digest. It has a lot of info for the aspiring writer in all genre. It is worth looking at. Buy one at a bookstore like Borders, Walden, Barns %26amp; Noble. I used to have a subscription.
Anyway they have a lot of info on how and where to get published.
Your poems are nice. You should try. Don't let anyone sway you. It is hard, but it can be done. Don't give up even if you have go go all the way up hill. You do have talent and that will help.
I
I want to publish a poetry book. How would I go about doing it? Or meeting some publishers?
Hahahhahahahhahahahahaaaaa! Gasp! Haahaahhahahahahhahahha!
Oh, honey. I'm not laughing at your poetry. I would never do that....
The only way to get your poetry published is to go to a vanity press. That means YOU pay to have the book published. Period. No publisher would consider an entire book of an unknown poet.
You need to start by submitting your poems into contests for anthologies. Sometimes, you need to pay them to read it. It takes many, many years. TONS of rejection. You can do it.
Family issues?
I was abandon at the age of 18. Im now 26 and i havet seen my family since. My sexuality is part of the reason they deny me. I dont hate myself But i am lonely and want my family in to be in my life. Is it wrong for me to feel depressed at times reguarding this? Is it wrong of me to have nightmares over this? How can i get over this? I need to move on from this. Its really starting to take over my heart/mind. I dont want to start taking MED's. I was told by a doctor to try and move on that he doesnt want to put me on anti-depressents. They arent a good thing. I have heard that they change your personality for good. I dont want that. I just want to be able to forget about what they have done to me. Im not going to live a lie and give them what they want. Love is unconditional. And i shouldnt have to earn my familys love/exceptance
Family issues?
It's a very hard thing to go through what you're experiencing. First, I definitely agree...no antidepressants! You need to find other constructive ways to cope with this situation...and drugs are not the answer. Being disconnected from your family will make you feel sad and depressed, it's a normal reaction. So are the nightmares...it's your subconscious trying to deal with a very emotional and difficult situation. Try to let out some of the hurt you're feeling by expressing yourself through letters to people in your family. Start with someone that you've always had a good relationship with and pour out your feelings of hurt and lonliness in the letter. Letting this person know how this situation has affected you may help you start to heal and may also help you to reconnect again slowly. I strongly recommend a good therapist to help you through this process. Good luck to you.
Family issues?
try erase bad memories by doing things that you enjoy for example if you watch horror movie if you go straight to bed you would have nightmares by lessening the fear go watch comedy after wards you will forget about being scared same thing with your life do anything opposite to erase that feelings would help good will prevail bad.
you may have to force back your feelings towards your family and force yourself on them, they may not want to accept you, but if you force yourself to be around them no matter how they feel or how they treat you, then they will eventually have to accept you for who you are and there is nothing that they can do about it, they will begin to treat you a lot better the more you place yourself around them, with your openness and understanding added with your love for your family, it will break their hard shell that is blocking their hearts
I guess if they can't accept you for who you are, then they are loosing. You are you, and you can't change that, no matter what you do. Forgetting about what your family did to you is not the answer. You will probably never forget, you'll probably never get over it. However, you can through it. Try going to some counseling. This may help you begin to feel normal again. He or she may be able to give you someone to listen and have ideas on how to make it better. I am with you and your doctor though; I don't think you should go on medicine for it. This is completely normal hurt that you feel, (there is no reason not to feel hurt about it) putting you on medicine will not help you get through it, it will just make you happy again. Try talking to your doctor about some counseling. Maybe that will help you. Hope this helps some!
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/The鈥?/a>excel ho do i go about starting
Family issues?
It's a very hard thing to go through what you're experiencing. First, I definitely agree...no antidepressants! You need to find other constructive ways to cope with this situation...and drugs are not the answer. Being disconnected from your family will make you feel sad and depressed, it's a normal reaction. So are the nightmares...it's your subconscious trying to deal with a very emotional and difficult situation. Try to let out some of the hurt you're feeling by expressing yourself through letters to people in your family. Start with someone that you've always had a good relationship with and pour out your feelings of hurt and lonliness in the letter. Letting this person know how this situation has affected you may help you start to heal and may also help you to reconnect again slowly. I strongly recommend a good therapist to help you through this process. Good luck to you.
Family issues?
try erase bad memories by doing things that you enjoy for example if you watch horror movie if you go straight to bed you would have nightmares by lessening the fear go watch comedy after wards you will forget about being scared same thing with your life do anything opposite to erase that feelings would help good will prevail bad.
you may have to force back your feelings towards your family and force yourself on them, they may not want to accept you, but if you force yourself to be around them no matter how they feel or how they treat you, then they will eventually have to accept you for who you are and there is nothing that they can do about it, they will begin to treat you a lot better the more you place yourself around them, with your openness and understanding added with your love for your family, it will break their hard shell that is blocking their hearts
I guess if they can't accept you for who you are, then they are loosing. You are you, and you can't change that, no matter what you do. Forgetting about what your family did to you is not the answer. You will probably never forget, you'll probably never get over it. However, you can through it. Try going to some counseling. This may help you begin to feel normal again. He or she may be able to give you someone to listen and have ideas on how to make it better. I am with you and your doctor though; I don't think you should go on medicine for it. This is completely normal hurt that you feel, (there is no reason not to feel hurt about it) putting you on medicine will not help you get through it, it will just make you happy again. Try talking to your doctor about some counseling. Maybe that will help you. Hope this helps some!
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/The鈥?/a>
Is this a good poem???
love it crazy when you dont know how to use it...
love is so hard to handle but you just cant refuse it...
you just found out that the one you love is fake...
you just wanna go back and change it all
because you know you made a mistake...
being with that person changed your personality...
now that your in hell you want to go back to reality....
the consequences can be hard....
now that you broke that persons heart your gonna be scarred...
you feel like you ****** up your world....
but you want to back with that one special gurl....
she had your name across her arm.....
she feels ****** stupid because she's been used....
by someone who cared about her and would reply: %26quot;i love you to%26quot;
now that you woke up and relized what you've done....
you cant belive that what you did has now came true.....
Is this a good poem???
Your confusin poetry with hiphop.
Is this a good poem???
uh cut the swearing, poems should be deep
it could be a rad song.
i dont know about a poem.
someone has aids!?!?!?!?!
im soo sorry. i love your poem though. id give you a 8 outa 10!
wow, I like it, has a really good meaning !
answer my question plzz
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
so the content, veryyy nice
but the whole half ryhimg, have just like talking?
not so much
it needs to be structured better.
Not very. Try not to rhyme so much.
avoid swearing, and you changed the sequence. the first two lines rhyme, but after that you did every other line. needs to be more consistent
sounds more like a letter to someone.....
might want to shorten the personal thoughts in it......
well poems are a form of expression, so it's more of an opinion question.
in my opinion, it's really amateur like the writing technique (no offense) but the message is really good and relatable.
I don't like it. Too many curse words and doesn't make a whole lot of sense.
hmm its kinda confusing . is it a situation where this guy have this girl that loved him so much and he didnt cherish her. then now she wanna give up on him and he start realizing what he done wrong?
That is such a great song i just got done singing sound better as a song great words keep it up its really good fareal
It sounds incredibly fantastic! Don't tell me but I think you must be a tatoo artist! Am I close??
You should never change yourself for anyone, just make negotiations and acceptances. But it is a pretty good poem. I like that it is very deep.
I liked it. I published a poem once and it got accepted. You should do the same and make some money off of it. I did
yes not only wus it a good 1 it waz a great 1 u must be goin threw this problem with a gurl i can see that allreadii i can kinda relate 2 that but except hes a boy and not a gurl i liked this poem if u wrote it yourself u should post sum new ones up on here cus i enjoyed that 1 ya digg~mz.ni3cy
its so bad i cant even make fun of it....
It's really cliche and it doesn't flow that well. I don't think poetry is your cup of tea.
You had me up until around the eighth or ninth line then it kind of went sporadic. Overall not too bad. Refine and sharpen your poetic skills...there's talent in them there brains of yours.
FYI: HipHop is poetry with music or any kind of sound for special enhancement and flow. I feel ya'.
Not bad, I like the loose rhyming style. A lot of modern poetry doesn't even bother to rhyme, I see it all the time, and I think its a crime.
Throw a couple of chorus sections in and it could make good pop lyrics too. A fair score would be 6/10, it's a little chaotic and hard to follow, and it could do with more structure, better to focus on one or two observations about something than list too many thoughts and ideas within a few lines.
Not bad, my boy, but perhaps try something more along teh lines of this:
Past one o鈥檆lock. You must have gone to bed.
The Milky Way streams silver through the night.
I鈥檓 in no hurry; with lightning telegrams
I have no cause to wake or trouble you.
And, as they say, the incident is closed.
Love鈥檚 boat has smashed against the daily grind.
Now you and I are quits. Why bother then
To balance mutual sorrows, pains, and hurts.
Behold what quiet settles on the world.
Night wraps the sky in tribute from the stars.
In hours like these, one rises to address
The ages, history, and all creation.
It was written by Vladimir Mayakovsky
love is so hard to handle but you just cant refuse it...
you just found out that the one you love is fake...
you just wanna go back and change it all
because you know you made a mistake...
being with that person changed your personality...
now that your in hell you want to go back to reality....
the consequences can be hard....
now that you broke that persons heart your gonna be scarred...
you feel like you ****** up your world....
but you want to back with that one special gurl....
she had your name across her arm.....
she feels ****** stupid because she's been used....
by someone who cared about her and would reply: %26quot;i love you to%26quot;
now that you woke up and relized what you've done....
you cant belive that what you did has now came true.....
Is this a good poem???
Your confusin poetry with hiphop.
Is this a good poem???
uh cut the swearing, poems should be deep
it could be a rad song.
i dont know about a poem.
someone has aids!?!?!?!?!
im soo sorry. i love your poem though. id give you a 8 outa 10!
wow, I like it, has a really good meaning !
answer my question plzz
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
so the content, veryyy nice
but the whole half ryhimg, have just like talking?
not so much
it needs to be structured better.
Not very. Try not to rhyme so much.
avoid swearing, and you changed the sequence. the first two lines rhyme, but after that you did every other line. needs to be more consistent
sounds more like a letter to someone.....
might want to shorten the personal thoughts in it......
well poems are a form of expression, so it's more of an opinion question.
in my opinion, it's really amateur like the writing technique (no offense) but the message is really good and relatable.
I don't like it. Too many curse words and doesn't make a whole lot of sense.
hmm its kinda confusing . is it a situation where this guy have this girl that loved him so much and he didnt cherish her. then now she wanna give up on him and he start realizing what he done wrong?
That is such a great song i just got done singing sound better as a song great words keep it up its really good fareal
It sounds incredibly fantastic! Don't tell me but I think you must be a tatoo artist! Am I close??
You should never change yourself for anyone, just make negotiations and acceptances. But it is a pretty good poem. I like that it is very deep.
I liked it. I published a poem once and it got accepted. You should do the same and make some money off of it. I did
yes not only wus it a good 1 it waz a great 1 u must be goin threw this problem with a gurl i can see that allreadii i can kinda relate 2 that but except hes a boy and not a gurl i liked this poem if u wrote it yourself u should post sum new ones up on here cus i enjoyed that 1 ya digg~mz.ni3cy
its so bad i cant even make fun of it....
It's really cliche and it doesn't flow that well. I don't think poetry is your cup of tea.
You had me up until around the eighth or ninth line then it kind of went sporadic. Overall not too bad. Refine and sharpen your poetic skills...there's talent in them there brains of yours.
FYI: HipHop is poetry with music or any kind of sound for special enhancement and flow. I feel ya'.
Not bad, I like the loose rhyming style. A lot of modern poetry doesn't even bother to rhyme, I see it all the time, and I think its a crime.
Throw a couple of chorus sections in and it could make good pop lyrics too. A fair score would be 6/10, it's a little chaotic and hard to follow, and it could do with more structure, better to focus on one or two observations about something than list too many thoughts and ideas within a few lines.
Not bad, my boy, but perhaps try something more along teh lines of this:
Past one o鈥檆lock. You must have gone to bed.
The Milky Way streams silver through the night.
I鈥檓 in no hurry; with lightning telegrams
I have no cause to wake or trouble you.
And, as they say, the incident is closed.
Love鈥檚 boat has smashed against the daily grind.
Now you and I are quits. Why bother then
To balance mutual sorrows, pains, and hurts.
Behold what quiet settles on the world.
Night wraps the sky in tribute from the stars.
In hours like these, one rises to address
The ages, history, and all creation.
It was written by Vladimir Mayakovsky
How to kill my arrogance and proudness?
i am basically a very arrogant and proud girl but i am never one to look down on others or belittle other people although people may perceive me to be looking down on them. i am immensely insecure, inadequate with social anxiety, i lisp a little, i am socially retarded and nothing much to look at. so i have become a very arrogant person as a protective shell. i remember being looked down upon when i was in primary school and since then i have this arrogance with me and it is so hard for me to change or get rid of this as i am now 21 years and have been like this for so long. but my arrogance n proudness is much more prevalent now and i am really worried how m i going to survive as people would always try to finish off those who are perceived to be very proud. pls help me to change my mentality and how do i change my thoughts so that i come across as a more humble and sober person? let me reiterate that i am socially retarded and i dont even know howto say a hi or bye so i just snob people like a pathetic clown right on their face. i have tried opening up but have realised its impossible as it is a personality trait. is it possible to change your personality for the better? thanks
How to kill my arrogance and proudness?
of course it is, it's never to late
START NOW!
no one likes an arrogant person. When you look at people on the street try making eye contact for 2 seconds then smile. This is like an excercise for yourself
if they dont smile back it normal because alot of people (even me) get surprised that you would smile at a stranger, but it feels good that someone would want to smile at me
if they do smile, that's even better!!
for the people you do know they might doubt your drastic change but it'll be good.
when you see people at work or anywhere, try listening to them and engage in a nice conversation and laugh AND SMILE
don't look at their clothes or hair or figure, look at their face and really look like you are eager and like talking to them
How to kill my arrogance and proudness?
People can change behaviors. Traits are a little harder.
Your description of arrogance doesn't match anything I've seen. Arrogant people truly believe they are better than the dumb toiling masses. They are very self-righteous and most unwilling to change something as small as an opinion.
You sound instead as if you are very angry instead, which is understandable, given the degree of frustration in your life.
Social skills can be learned. Studying body language helps a lot. Shyness is a trait, but this too can be managed (in part) by mastering small talk. This at least gets the social gears in motion.
Well you can practice. This is what you can do, stand in front of the mirror and meeting your eyes smile a bit and say Hi, how are you?. Practice a lot. Smile sincerely so it goes into your eyes. Also eye contact is very important with people. Then when you are out try it a bit see how it works. At first you will be scared, but that is O.K.-- Just do it anyway. The more you do that the easier it becomes.
To help with your attitude toward people make a list of things you like and approve of about people. Then look for those things in acquaintances. Try to appreciate the good, non-scary aspects of people. Most people are O.K.
Also take it from a formerly arrogant person, live long enough and life will help you lose the arrogance.
It sounds to me like your %26quot;arrogance and proudness%26quot; are just an overcompensation for your feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, and not really representative of your true nature or personality. It's a way of keeping people from getting too close to you, resulting in your social retardation - if people think you're arrogant and proud they won't want to get close to you, and I suspect deep down you know that. My advice is don't be afraid to be who you really are inside. I imagine you're a little detached from that person, but the more you practice being yourself in social situations, the more your core personality will emerge. Good luck.
I think it's beautiful that you are trying to change your ways. This is a bit lardy da but hey, that's ok I'll say it anyway.
Strive for compassion. This is our era. 2010 we are all sharing this era together. This is the team! Try to spread as much love and understanding as you can. Sometimes insecurity is spawned from a very black and white notion that some of us must tell ourselves - %26quot;Don't be afraid of human beings%26quot;. How stupid does that sound eh!? Have a think about it, though, perhaps it may bear some colour, perhaps not.
As a really young tacka in primary school I used to go by an extremely flawed theory and it went like so - If I am rude and disrespectful to others from the minute I first meet them, maybe they will feel the need to relieve this hatred and suck up to me. Then I can be respected and chalk up a few new recruits on my lonely tally board of friends. No dice.
Overtime things have changed, though. I'm 21 now as well and I would like to think quite a bit of that naivety has left me. I'm seeking for as much comfort I can make myself in life and I want to share as much I can with others. When I think about it, I think life almost revolves around comfort, so much decisions and actions are based off of it.
Meh, just dancing on the keyboard. Thanks for the opportunity! I needed to get away from English study for a while :)
Best of luck, I think you can do it :)
It is very hard, you can try all options mentioned here. It may work for a week after that you will be back to same old normal routine. It is already too late, only thing I can suggest is Yoga, Pranayam and Meditation from a well known true Guru and you have to monitored continously about your progress. You have to use your will power to overcome all such feelings and thoughts, read some spiritual books. Also read books by Dr. M.S. Udaya Moorthy, it really helps to change your thinking to positive thinking. If you have habit of reading books, go to a local library and read books by Paramahansa Yogananda.
Everything is possible, it will take long time and there is no overnight remedies. Patience and will power is very important. That is your only option because you already tried all other option prior to asking this question.
Good Luck!
How to kill my arrogance and proudness?
of course it is, it's never to late
START NOW!
no one likes an arrogant person. When you look at people on the street try making eye contact for 2 seconds then smile. This is like an excercise for yourself
if they dont smile back it normal because alot of people (even me) get surprised that you would smile at a stranger, but it feels good that someone would want to smile at me
if they do smile, that's even better!!
for the people you do know they might doubt your drastic change but it'll be good.
when you see people at work or anywhere, try listening to them and engage in a nice conversation and laugh AND SMILE
don't look at their clothes or hair or figure, look at their face and really look like you are eager and like talking to them
How to kill my arrogance and proudness?
People can change behaviors. Traits are a little harder.
Your description of arrogance doesn't match anything I've seen. Arrogant people truly believe they are better than the dumb toiling masses. They are very self-righteous and most unwilling to change something as small as an opinion.
You sound instead as if you are very angry instead, which is understandable, given the degree of frustration in your life.
Social skills can be learned. Studying body language helps a lot. Shyness is a trait, but this too can be managed (in part) by mastering small talk. This at least gets the social gears in motion.
Well you can practice. This is what you can do, stand in front of the mirror and meeting your eyes smile a bit and say Hi, how are you?. Practice a lot. Smile sincerely so it goes into your eyes. Also eye contact is very important with people. Then when you are out try it a bit see how it works. At first you will be scared, but that is O.K.-- Just do it anyway. The more you do that the easier it becomes.
To help with your attitude toward people make a list of things you like and approve of about people. Then look for those things in acquaintances. Try to appreciate the good, non-scary aspects of people. Most people are O.K.
Also take it from a formerly arrogant person, live long enough and life will help you lose the arrogance.
It sounds to me like your %26quot;arrogance and proudness%26quot; are just an overcompensation for your feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, and not really representative of your true nature or personality. It's a way of keeping people from getting too close to you, resulting in your social retardation - if people think you're arrogant and proud they won't want to get close to you, and I suspect deep down you know that. My advice is don't be afraid to be who you really are inside. I imagine you're a little detached from that person, but the more you practice being yourself in social situations, the more your core personality will emerge. Good luck.
I think it's beautiful that you are trying to change your ways. This is a bit lardy da but hey, that's ok I'll say it anyway.
Strive for compassion. This is our era. 2010 we are all sharing this era together. This is the team! Try to spread as much love and understanding as you can. Sometimes insecurity is spawned from a very black and white notion that some of us must tell ourselves - %26quot;Don't be afraid of human beings%26quot;. How stupid does that sound eh!? Have a think about it, though, perhaps it may bear some colour, perhaps not.
As a really young tacka in primary school I used to go by an extremely flawed theory and it went like so - If I am rude and disrespectful to others from the minute I first meet them, maybe they will feel the need to relieve this hatred and suck up to me. Then I can be respected and chalk up a few new recruits on my lonely tally board of friends. No dice.
Overtime things have changed, though. I'm 21 now as well and I would like to think quite a bit of that naivety has left me. I'm seeking for as much comfort I can make myself in life and I want to share as much I can with others. When I think about it, I think life almost revolves around comfort, so much decisions and actions are based off of it.
Meh, just dancing on the keyboard. Thanks for the opportunity! I needed to get away from English study for a while :)
Best of luck, I think you can do it :)
It is very hard, you can try all options mentioned here. It may work for a week after that you will be back to same old normal routine. It is already too late, only thing I can suggest is Yoga, Pranayam and Meditation from a well known true Guru and you have to monitored continously about your progress. You have to use your will power to overcome all such feelings and thoughts, read some spiritual books. Also read books by Dr. M.S. Udaya Moorthy, it really helps to change your thinking to positive thinking. If you have habit of reading books, go to a local library and read books by Paramahansa Yogananda.
Everything is possible, it will take long time and there is no overnight remedies. Patience and will power is very important. That is your only option because you already tried all other option prior to asking this question.
Good Luck!
Do you think this is possible?
many years ago i read a book that told yur how to change your personality or your fate ..something like that..apparently if you changed the way you do every day things then you would change your personlaity or fate..like if you changed the way you dressed walked talked..food you ate..places you travelled to..you had to do everything differently..does this idea ring a bell and if so can you remeber who was the guy who came up with it? i know i read about it in a book cause i had no computer back then..thanks for your opinions
Do you think this is possible?
i thnk the book dat uv read is really interesting.. :] there鈥檚 a saying that a man鈥檚 character is his fate. . i thnk it鈥檚 possible. really. but there are events in our life that arent under our control.. :]
Do you think this is possible?
Keep in mind that your fate is the result of the interaction between you and the surroundings and not only you. You may change yourself but still the chemistry between you and others is not working
don't wait, or it'll be too late, you create your own fate mate, that's why it's great, don't hate %26amp; be bait to the state mate.
EDIT: haha no I don't smoke weed, that's what the CIA want us all to do in order to dumb us down. It's their job to make society think it's cool. The CIA are smuggling drugs %26amp; busting others for doing what they're doing themselves.
...plus i like to eat chicken
Do you think this is possible?
i thnk the book dat uv read is really interesting.. :] there鈥檚 a saying that a man鈥檚 character is his fate. . i thnk it鈥檚 possible. really. but there are events in our life that arent under our control.. :]
Do you think this is possible?
Keep in mind that your fate is the result of the interaction between you and the surroundings and not only you. You may change yourself but still the chemistry between you and others is not working
don't wait, or it'll be too late, you create your own fate mate, that's why it's great, don't hate %26amp; be bait to the state mate.
EDIT: haha no I don't smoke weed, that's what the CIA want us all to do in order to dumb us down. It's their job to make society think it's cool. The CIA are smuggling drugs %26amp; busting others for doing what they're doing themselves.
...plus i like to eat chicken
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