Me and this girl are debating. Well not really xD i said it was debating but i doubt she cares. But anyways what she said :
fitting in is disgusting. just try to be yourself, and never lose grasp of who you really are.
I said : What if the real you is not what everyone expected ? What if you are a horrible human being only pretending to be who you are only to backstab you ? What if the only way to be accepted by society is to fake who you are ? Serial murderer, pedophile, rapist, terrorist, devil worshipper, cheater. What do you do then ? Should You still be yourself only... See More to be viewed a monster ? So maybe it is okay to be fit in and never be yourself what if your'e trying to change instead of being that other person ?
She replied : you can change, but for the better. you can change and you still don't have to fit in. there are pieces of personality which makes you you. if you're a sociopath, you still have a huge logical side to you that you can figure out how to use it to your advantage. honestly, that type of changing will take eons to do, but it's only for the best.
But what is influencing this change ?What is influencing your personality change ? Theres ALWAYS somthing you see around you somone who acts a certain way or in your environemt and without realizing you somhow fit in if only slighlty. There's no point in change if you're not trying to fit. Yes your'e changing for the better but i find it impossible to think this change came out of nowhere.
But i feel as if i'm going in a circle or contradicting myself %26gt;.%26lt; Anyone have suggestions lol xD
What is a good comeback ? Personality and fitting in.?
I see both sides of the argument here and I will say that this a pretty tough question.
Personally, though, I think that all emotional/psychological disorders aside, human beings as a whole have a tendency to try to %26quot;fit in with the group%26quot;. We are social animals and it is a feature that has proved itself to be useful to us as the person who has the least amount of differences in thought and behaviour tended to be the least likely to be rejected from the group, abandoned, killed, etc.
So there is the basic history of this all-too-common human drive.
But within the last 300 years or so of human history, there has been a sort of movement towards individualism and the importance of being your own person or %26quot;marching to your own drum%26quot; as Henry David Thorough once said. This where it gets complicated and I think it is ultimately helpful to the logic of the matter to exclude the emotional/psychological disorders as they represent only a small minority of the people and it is not fair to consider them as a part of %26quot;normal human behaviour%26quot;.
So now I will rephrase the question: What if you are just a nasty, rude, person? You aren't mentally ill, only just really mean. Does the idea of %26quot;staying true to yourself%26quot; still apply? I agree with you that a personality shift for a person like this must be influenced by something else. But I do not think that if you sty to change yourself for the better, then it necessarily has to be because of a desire to %26quot;fit in%26quot;. Maybe the guy's best friend committed suicide because of some comments that the guy made and now the guy is just feeling remorseful for what he said.
So personally, I'm afraid I side with your friend in this argument. Trying to be the best version of you that you can be does not necessarily equate to losing your individuality. You still have the same likes and dislikes, the same way of thinking about things, and the same memories and life experiences. You just act in a more socially-aware manner, with more regard to others feelings.But you are still you.
EDIT: However, you must understand that the idea that your actions are separate from your personality is simply that- an IDEA. It is a subjective opinion, not a solid truth.
So if you want a comeback, you could argue the opposite, that your actions represent an aspect of your individual personality and if your entire style of action has changed, so has your personality.
Does this sort of answer your question? Haha...
