If so, how do you make a marriage or any long-term relationship last? Throw into the mix traumatic life-events and stress that affect each person differently and will inevitably affect personality, is therapy the only way to go or is this the %26quot;we just grew apart%26quot; syndrome?
Do you believe your personality changes every 7 years?
I believe your personality changes everyday. Your core morals and judgements stay consistent, but in todays world, stress, tragedy, and everyday life consisent change your outlook on things. The key to a lasting marriage is communication and growing with your mate. In todays world people don't make the time to spend together to %26quot;grow%26quot;. You should be aware of your partners views and try to understand them.
Do you believe your personality changes every 7 years?
I would say needs to change with time thus bear in mind that it is important to adjust to each other's needs, differences and viewpoints for a marriage to work. Arguments are part and parcel of a marriage.
...best question i/ve seen phrased in a dogs age...well it appeals to my thinking also.
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.....i know and trust that personality changes in a change of thought for me.
this question is loaded with creative responsibility.
i love it.
The trouble with theories is that not everyone conforms to the standard. I believe we all change as people, but it is not a drastic as saying we become a totally different person. It is a constantly evolving state. Sometimes our chosen partner can grow with these changes or we can compromise sufficently for both of us to be happy. However sometimes we become too different and that is when common sense needs to kick and you need to know when to bail out and move on for both your sakes. Rather than remain together and actually begin to resent each other.
Neither. I've noticed that most people are concerned about themselves, even in marriage. The only way to make a relationship work is to be active in your life, while being active through your partners. Personalities are pretty solid. Life changing events in some cases (like a rape) do require therapy. However that is because of the damage it does, and a victims partner should be active in the theraputic process (unless they were the perpetrator). If someone is in a relationship and doesnt care enough to be a positive force within it, even during the bad times, they shouldnt be in the relationship.
Many 21st century relationships have a short life span. Peoples' attitudes, their morals, values, ideation, even behaviors in this century toward and within relationships are / have changed. More and more people are for example, going to Internet sites to find a soul mate / life partner, choosing to forgo the conventional courtship / dating ritual. It would seem that, in an uncertain and insecure age, people are more afraid of getting hurt, and erect barriers / psychological defense mechanisms especially when meeting someone for the first time. Within relationships, there seems to be more infidelity, less honesty and commitment. A relationship should grow as the respective people making up the romantic dyad / couple grow and age with it. I believe and agree with the psychologist Kleinke, in the book Coping with life's Challenges that there are 3 basic but essential elements to a good relationship. These are - affection, intimacy, and commitment. With these in place, and actively sought out by both partners, a couple should not 'drift apart' but draw ever closer together. Always, if people in a relationship end up cheating on one another, one must always quetion the original motives or agenda of the respective parties involved. Was it all built on a foundation of just physical attraction, (which is but 1 element) or did it stretch further, based on true deep feelings of love?
no mine changes every couple of hours.
